I need your help to decide if I am being unreasonable or is my husband really is too laid back!
We've been together for 3 years now and most of the time I take care of the "admin" part of our household - I ensure bills are paid, I book holidays, I ensure all our documents are in order, I order food, I follow if the cat has gone to the vet recently etc etc you get my point. I have to be the admin because that way I know things get done, otherwise if I leave it with my husband he literally just ignores it. He says he doesn't like taking care of such things, he finds them "confusing" and "mundane".
At the beginning of our relationship when we moved in together, all bills were in his name (I moved into his rented flat) and he claimed it was all paid and it's all good so I trusted him. That is until he got a letter from a County Court which I immediately recognized because I work with vulnerable people and they often bring these to my office to ask for help. Until then I had never opened his post but when I saw a CCJ, I opened the letter. I know, I'm horrible but I got worried and it turned out he had been ignoring payment request for the electric and water bills for nearly a year!!! I confronted him and he said "oh well I thought it was fine". He paid it immediately but now he has a CCJ against his name because of his stupidity! I took over the bills management from then onward.
I am basically the one who makes all the decisions in the house and if I don't it just won't get done because my husband simply does not care! I have no clue how he lived on his own before! Lately I have been very stressed so I tried to "delegate" some home management to him and it failed miserably because he simply forgot to pay the council tax! Honestly, WTF?!?! I confronted him and said he can't keep expecting that I'll do everything, I need to know I've got a partner not a dependent!
Anyway, last week we had to apply for UC (long story short my husband lost his job because the shop he worked in went bust) and I filled out my things straight away, he is still dilly-dallying and saying he will do it later, he can't be bothered now, he's busy now and bla-bla-bla. He's busy playing video games btw. So I couldn't take it any more and shouted at him calling him lazy and irresponsible (I know, I shouldn't have shouted and call him names but I just can't take it any more) and now he's not talking to me or answers with one word and he still hasn't done his bit for UC!!! I'm thinking he's not going to do it simply out of stubbornness but he either doesn't fully comprehend or just chooses not to but if we don't get UC next month, we won't be able to pay our rent only on my salary! But he's just overly laid-back to realize this!
Am I being unreasonable to expect him to be a bit more active? I don't want him to do crazy amount of work, simply take some responsibility from me because I am starting to buckle under the pressure. I have literally told him, I never hint at anything, I say it as it is, and he just ignores it and goes "it will be fiiiiiiine". No, it won't be!!! This teenager mindset does not suit a guy who is nearly 30! I want us to have a baby soon but I can't even imagine what he would be like as a dad! If he finds paying bills boring, I wonder what he would think of changing nappies or getting up for a screaming baby at 4 am. Honestly, am I unreasonable? Am I expecting too much?