The way (some) teachers talk to students and anyone

[Lurcherloves]

I had a meeting at DS school today about his a levels. He is lazy and did need a kick. But the head of sixth form, who is not one of his teachers, basically just launched into a tirade of abuse for about 20 minutes. The two other teachers there didn’t know where to look (and tried to undo some of her damage afterwards) She was saying he shouldn’t be working (10 hours a week, I think it gives good life skills) will be sitting on the sofa next year (he won’t) her five year old does two hours a day home work on and on very aggressively. There was nothing motivational and on reflection, I cannot think of any where in the adult world where it would be acceptable to talk to someone as she did. She was incredibly patronising to me ( I am more qualified than her but didn’t feel the need to point this out and have worked as a lecturer at a college before qualifying into another profession. I knew full well a lot of what she was saying was nonsense.)
AIBU or do some teachers talk to everyone in a patronising manner? This lady certainly got a little carried away with herself. I was quite shocked at the power trip she was on.

It seems very likely to me. I don’t think the OP is coming back, though.

Here we go again.

Why do threads have to be phrased like this?

She was totally bang out of order, at much to the point that il be surprised if this interaction turns out to be true , for a number of reasons.

But the Aibu is whether she was unacceptable to speak to your son like this. Yes she was.

Are you being unreasonable to post a thread about how you're more qualified than her ( ) and whether some teachers speak to everyone badly? Massively.

@flaviaritt

“Tirade of abuse for about twenty minutes”?

What are you imagining here? All I can see is that the teacher said, if he doesn’t do more work, he’ll be on the sofa this time next year, and he shouldn’t have a part-time job. Calling something a tirade of abuse does not make it a tirade of abuse. To me, a tirade of abuse would be, “You lazy little bastard, I’ve never met anyone as stupid and idle as you in twenty years of teaching....”

But the teacher didn’t do that. The teacher spoke her mind, yes, and - what a surprise - mother of lazy child did not like it.

Yep. I agree with all the things you’ve said.

mincefuckinpies
Very true.
Staff do have to judge the situation. I've felt uncomfortable in one meeting with how blunt my colleague was, but after the meeting I actually admired how professionally they laid everything out with zero ambiguity. The parent was quite arsey about it, but years later when I reflect on it my more experienced colleague was absolutely right.

I'm aware of some car crash meetings, but nothing in the OP's post makes me think it was one of those. It sounds like a classic 'parent of lazy child dislikes being told quite clearly that he is not working hard enough'.

I don’t think the OP is coming back, though.

I presume, having felt unjustly criticised, she is currently on a another website complaining about MN.

Yanbu! Seen a few of them.