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To hope these parents are ashamed of their boys tonight?

290 replies

Dilbertian · 10/12/2020 18:32

Today my Y9 ds was taunted by boys making the Nazi salute at him. This, after a couple of weeks of 'Dirty Jew'.

If these are your sons, is this what you want for them? Is this the attitude you would like them to have to their fellow human beings? Do you feel proud of them? Would you like them to be treated this way? What are you saying to them tonight? What do you think the Head of Year should say to them tomorrow?

What do you think your sons should do next?

Or maybe - meh, it's just bantz, boys will be boys.

OP posts:
StoneofDestiny · 10/12/2020 18:53

A full investigation is needed by the teachers - if it is as you describe:

The boys should be suspended
The parents need to be seen and warned of their kids future conduct (next time expulsion)
The boys should be made to present a well researched project in anti semitism - good enough for display in school

Purpletomato · 10/12/2020 18:53

That's appalling.

jessstan1 · 10/12/2020 18:54

Dreadful, dreadful, dreadful.

Where do these kids get it from? From their parents.

It makes me feel ashamed.

MichelleScarn · 10/12/2020 18:55

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon

I wouldn't bother with the headteacher. I'd go straight to the police.

This isn't 'bullying' this is harrassment and a hate crime.

These boys need their names to be on record. Police need to keep an eye on them.

This, shouldn't be given a chance for school to 'deals with it, but I would also inform them of the behaviour. Does your local force have race hate specialist team?
Griselda1 · 10/12/2020 18:55

If you and your son feel up to it, a face to face discussion could be life changing for these boys. They are part of our society and I can't imagine what has happened in their lives to leave them with these sort of attitudes.

carcarbinks · 10/12/2020 18:56

The police will be involved - this is a hate crime and the school cannot do anything less.

TragedyHands · 10/12/2020 18:56

Please report them to the Police, this can escalate too, not trying to worry you.
Inform school and give names, the kids are old enough to face the consequences.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 10/12/2020 18:57

Please report it!
Where I am from people get expelled for these things. I am sure this will be taken seriously here too! I would go straight to police. It is a hate crime.
It's absolutely unacceptable.

Hope you can have a happy Hanukkah even with this going on.

coconuttyhead · 10/12/2020 18:58

Sickening. The school have no choice but to take this further, I hope the police will be asking the parents a few questions about where they learnt to be racist.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 10/12/2020 18:58

I think that the HoY should be suspending them and pointing out to them that you are well within your rights to report this as a hate crime to the police.

Which I think you should do.

KarenMarlow3 · 10/12/2020 18:59

Do please report this to the police. Don't wait for school to act. These despicable boys should be facing suspension.

HazelBite · 10/12/2020 18:59

How absolutely shocking, they should be suspended after being made to sit down and watch the programme that Channel 5 showed last week on the Nazi trials.
( The footage that the court was shown and the witness evidence was so unbelievably inhuman and awful I feel that it should be compulsory viewing in secondary schools)

wellthatsunusual · 10/12/2020 19:01

I absolutely would be ashamed if my child behaved like that. I suspect that in most cases the children who behave like that are the children of parents who behave like that. In which case, no they won't be ashamed because they won't think they've done anything wrong.

LakieLady · 10/12/2020 19:03

I'd report it to the police, too.

They deserve to have the book thrown at them, and I wouldn't trust the school to do it. Nothing less than expulsion and a police caution would cut it for me.

Vile anti-semites.

GreekOddess · 10/12/2020 19:03

This has sent shivers down my spine. I'm so angry on your behalf 😥

timetest · 10/12/2020 19:04

Immediate suspension and a whole school assembly on the evil of hate. The head should do all in their power to stamp out behaviour like this.

user8888 · 10/12/2020 19:07

It's disgusting of those boys but I will go against the grain here.

If your son starts reporting to the teachers the taunting will get worse.

He would do best to avoid these cretins as much as possible. He should also be taking self-defence classes if he doesn't feel able to protect himself.

The world is full of bad people and a lot of them don't give a shit whether you report them or not.

JingsMahBucket · 10/12/2020 19:07

What horrible little shits. I hope they're fully punished by school, their parents, and by police.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 10/12/2020 19:07

This is absolutely shameful!

Please report it to the police as well as the school. No-one, particularly a child - should have to submit to this sort of vile racist abuse.

"Hate crime" barely begins to describe it.

Figgygal · 10/12/2020 19:08

Fucking hell
That’s nasty!!

AuntyPasta · 10/12/2020 19:08

I’m so sorry your DS has had to face this.

Are you in the U.K.? I would report this directly to the police. Yr9 is over the age of criminal responsibility and that is hate speech.

YoniAndGuy · 10/12/2020 19:09

Can your son identify them?

This is serious.

If you have names, I would go straight to the Police myself immediately after letting the Head know.

It's a race hate crime. The consequences for them would be severe, possibly expulsion. They certainly deserve that.

user1471530109 · 10/12/2020 19:10

OP, please make sure the school report this as a racist incident. They are obliged too but some try and deflect that responsibility in my experience

Big Flowers to both you and your son.

Applesonthelawn · 10/12/2020 19:10

I so sorry this happened to your ds. I would expect those boys to be excluded. Please see to it that the school take this extremely seriously. The parents should be ashamed.

flaviaritt · 10/12/2020 19:10

If your son starts reporting to the teachers the taunting will get worse.

So he should just take being called a dirty Jew?

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