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To think London commute towns are no better than Edinburgh for raising a family?

583 replies

JenXG · 10/12/2020 09:38

So basically DH and I are having a debate on whether to leave Edinburgh and move to a commute town outside London. (we have to stick with Edinburgh / London as working in financial sector but both of us would avoid London because of traffic/pollution/crowded streets).

The main reason for DH favouring those commute towns is that they seem to have loads of good schools for DS (4mo) to choose from compared to Edinburgh where there are only a few (or hardly any if his standard). He has high hope for DS. Also the A-level system is widely recognised across different countries (so potential for studying overseas) but the same cant be said for the Scotland system.

My worry is that we are giving up preferred lifestyle for a very small difference in schooling. I grew up in a big city and always need busy streets nearby. I understand some places such as Guildford will have its own town centre but there are still fewer things going on compared to Edinburgh. For example, there are a wide range of fine restuarants, several theatres & cinemas, pubs, etc in Edinburgh but living in Guildford we'd still have to go to London for a night out? I'd assume activities for young kids are more available in Edinburgh than in Guildford? E.g. Edinburgh has a zoo, lots of museums, and a coastline where you can do kayaking. Also Guildford is one of the busier towns as I understand. Some other commute towns are even quieter. So we'd highly likely end up travelling to London a lot which is not fun (I'm far more used to walking or driving a little bit to favourite places than hours of trains/tubes).

What do people think? I haven't been to many places in the southern area. Maybe I have misunderstood what life would be like there? Would you relocate if you were us?

OP posts:
hopingforonlychild · 10/12/2020 17:55

Actually rather than Oxbridge, you should ask yourself- would you like your little one to grow up in an independent Scotland.

That has a far bigger impact than whether he goes to fettes or the royal grammar.

tabulahrasa · 10/12/2020 17:58

I can add to otters and pandas...

Any dormant volcanoes in Guildford? Docks? Beaches?

ethelredonagoodday · 10/12/2020 18:02

Don't mean to sound harsh OP, but if your DS is only 4 months old, I'd maybe wait a bit to see how he develops before uprooting your whole life...

Janegrey333 · 10/12/2020 18:07

Any dormant volcanoes in Guildford?

To think London commute towns are no better than Edinburgh for raising a family?
Janegrey333 · 10/12/2020 18:10
Xmas Grin
Janegrey333 · 10/12/2020 18:14

@PolarnOPirate

We live near Guildford and I can't think of a single amenity we don't have within an hour of us. And shit tons of private schools!
Mmmm... Such delightful phraseology.
MillieEpple · 10/12/2020 18:16

Theres a beach and a wharf - but no dormant volcano.

So pandas and volcano are clear advantages to Edinburgh

Hufflepuff21 · 10/12/2020 18:22

You're seriously considering moving across the country to increase the chance of your 4 MONTH OLD going to Oxbridge?

Edinburgh is wonderful. I grew up here, I teach here and I am bringing up my children here. Private schools aren't really my thing, but there are a lot in the city that are very highly regarded.

As an aside, I teach in a state school in a deprived part of the city and one of our boys got into Oxford last year.

My advice would be to enjoy your baby and live where you would be happiest.

SabrinaThwaite · 10/12/2020 18:23

Don’t forget the one o’clock gun.

Pandas, volcanoes and gunfire. World beating.

ImNotMeImSomeoneElse · 10/12/2020 18:26

And I bet Guilford doesn't have numerous shops selling tartan tat either... Or busking bagpipers. Or organic Jim!

Although I appreciate some of those may be on the list of 'cons' rather than 'pros'...

ImNotMeImSomeoneElse · 10/12/2020 18:29

Or the worlds most pierced woman for that matter!

Janegrey333 · 10/12/2020 18:31

@ImNotMeImSomeoneElse

Or the worlds most pierced woman for that matter!
Have you been googling? Well done!
Janegrey333 · 10/12/2020 18:32

@ImNotMeImSomeoneElse

And I bet Guilford doesn't have numerous shops selling tartan tat either... Or busking bagpipers. Or organic Jim!

Although I appreciate some of those may be on the list of 'cons' rather than 'pros'...

All capital cities have tourist tat for sale. Is that the best you can do?! Grin
ImNotMeImSomeoneElse · 10/12/2020 18:35

Haha, no, I love her and I met her at the Christmas market last year, she was selling jewellery and readings. She gave a free reading to my friends son - which was basically 'stick in at school'. She's clearly a gifted psychic 😂

ImNotMeImSomeoneElse · 10/12/2020 18:36

They don't all have tartan tat though!

ImNotMeImSomeoneElse · 10/12/2020 18:36

Omg! I love her should read I live here! What a typo 😂😂😂

Janegrey333 · 10/12/2020 18:38

@ImNotMeImSomeoneElse

Haha, no, I love her and I met her at the Christmas market last year, she was selling jewellery and readings. She gave a free reading to my friends son - which was basically 'stick in at school'. She's clearly a gifted psychic 😂
Haha. Yes!
Janegrey333 · 10/12/2020 18:39

@ImNotMeImSomeoneElse

They don't all have tartan tat though!
Fair play. 👍🏻
UnicornAndSparkles · 10/12/2020 18:41

Why Guildford?

Kent has excellent schools, is part of the grammar system (if that appeals, worked well for us) and you can be in London within 20/30 minutes by train. And there is lots to do in the evening so you wouldn't need to travel into London.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 10/12/2020 18:41

I’m from London
But give me your city than a commuter town any day
Really
Love
London

Commuters towns can be very white sliced bread shall we say .....

mellicauli · 10/12/2020 18:43

I guess you could drive to Bristol zoo from Guildford if you wanted red pandas. Google maps says 2 hours.

mellicauli · 10/12/2020 18:46

Or an hour to Paradise park (via St Albans conveniently enough)

SabrinaThwaite · 10/12/2020 19:01

Red pandas at Marwell Zoo.

Just saying.

YoniAndGuy · 10/12/2020 19:05

@tabulahrasa

I can add to otters and pandas...

Any dormant volcanoes in Guildford? Docks? Beaches?

I believe there was a dormant volcano BUT - as is the fate of so many other entities in Guildford - it is now a roundabout.
YoniAndGuy · 10/12/2020 19:06

@ImNotMeImSomeoneElse

And I bet Guilford doesn't have numerous shops selling tartan tat either... Or busking bagpipers. Or organic Jim!

Although I appreciate some of those may be on the list of 'cons' rather than 'pros'...

Who the fuck is Organic Jim?!

Anyway. He's in Edinburgh so yet another WIN.