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He threw my custard away

136 replies

DimeBarLady · 08/12/2020 19:10

And now I can’t stop crying.

Exdh came to stay at mine for the weekend to look after dc’s. Not a long term solution but as he lived in a different city until CV situation dies down we both decided to do this rather than take dc’s on train to stay with him.

All day I have been looking forward to eating a syrup sponge that I got from Sainsbury’s with some custard that was in the cupboard. I warm up my syrup sponge but I can’t find the custard. I text exdh asking if he’d eaten my custard and he replied that he hadn’t but he threw it away as he noticed the BB date was the end of Dec and it looked like it had been in there a while.

Now I’m crying. I have PMT and I just wanted some fucking custard. I can’t leave dc’s at home to go and buy custard and anyway my syrup sponge is cold now. I actually hate him. I’m so glad I’m divorcing him, the absolute bastard.

OP posts:
ComputerDoingRandomShit · 08/12/2020 21:07

Syrup sponge without custard is not acceptable.

It's not even the end of December.

Normal people don't go through people's cupboards binning perfectly good food at random.

Ergo, YANBU and he is an arse.

SheSaidHummingbird · 08/12/2020 21:16

Sounds like a bit of a whako, turning everything off at the mains (even the oven!?) Good job you have custardy of the kids...

I'm not even sorry.

AuntyPasta · 08/12/2020 21:18

If you weren’t already divorced I’m sure that would count as an example of unreasonable behaviour.

marthastew · 08/12/2020 21:23

I can only hope that day he'll get his just desserts for this.

SlightlyJaded · 08/12/2020 21:25

That's the spirit OP.

Hallway light on, and a quick text to Custardtwat to let him know that as of now, your house and your property are not up for inspection. Perhaps including a short video of all your lights blazing and a random tap running, just to set his teeth on edge.

And tomorrow? Custard!

madcatladyforever · 08/12/2020 21:27

I really don't think the over reaction and crying is really about the custard. I think you have just reached the end of your tether.
I think its time to put distance and boundaries in place.

Xiaoxiong · 08/12/2020 21:33

I'm so pleased he's out of your life and can't trifle with you any longer. He sounds like a complete fruitcake. I bet you thought you'd crumble when he left, maybe even buckle under the strain, and you were in a complete slump but I bet your life feels wonderful and crisp now.

Namechangeforthis88 · 08/12/2020 21:36

Fitting in a way, as he himself is way past his best before date, out he goes! Into the communal bin, if he's really lucky some poor woman will fish him out, brush off the mould and see if he's worth keeping, probably not.

Cherrysoup · 08/12/2020 21:44

Id definitely be messaging him and saying ‘Next time I have the sheer decency to allow you to stay in MY house, do not throw out MY belongings you fuckwit‘.

SmileyClare · 08/12/2020 21:47

@madcatladyforever

I really don't think the over reaction and crying is really about the custard. I think you have just reached the end of your tether. I think its time to put distance and boundaries in place.
This in spades.

Hope this thread helped a bit Op and raised a smile. You can't not laugh at his new label custardtwat Grin

userxx · 08/12/2020 21:50

I can see why he's the ex husband. Twat.

FedUpAtHomeTroels · 08/12/2020 21:53

What a Custardbastard.
My house it lit up like Blackpool bulbs aren't what they used to be, and don't cost much at all.
Well done getting rid. So are you going to stop him staying over again? I would.

ViciousJackdaw · 08/12/2020 21:55

@Xiaoxiong

I'm so pleased he's out of your life and can't trifle with you any longer. He sounds like a complete fruitcake. I bet you thought you'd crumble when he left, maybe even buckle under the strain, and you were in a complete slump but I bet your life feels wonderful and crisp now.
GrinGrinGrin

Agreed - he sounds so off-pudding. A real fun sponge.

billy1966 · 08/12/2020 21:57

So sorry OP.

Very hard to have such a twat in your home.
He's clearly not to be trusted..

I am the person in our house who happily eats out of date food without a second though.

I have a friend who is quite fussy about dates.
However, the two year out of date bottle of Bailey's and the 15 year old litre of vodka my husband brought back from a trip, that I found in a cupboard...didn't phase her at all!😁

TroysMammy · 08/12/2020 22:00

What a twat. I know it's no consolation as I love custard too but you should be very grateful he is an ex.

Today my "D" P opened up an Italian meat platter I was keeping until Christmas instead of opening the ham in the fridge. Luckily he was out but I was so angry that I said the word bastard in front of my 10 year old niece when I went to get milk out of the fridge. She wasn't phased by my language but she said she understood why I was angry.

Beautiful3 · 08/12/2020 22:01

I would look through the bin, wash the tin and use it!

SchadenfreudePersonified · 08/12/2020 22:05

The bastard. None of his business if you want to eat even out-of-date custard so old that it is carbonated!

This is, as others have said, a power move.

Chuck the bar steward out . Now.

Never let him cross your door again.

It was a snide thing to do.

Custard is lush.

VicMackey · 08/12/2020 22:06

@nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut

Kill him. Cunt. No jury would convict you.
😂😂😂😂
MLMbotsgoaway · 08/12/2020 22:28

Go to his house and replace every single item with an out of date version. Am sure Mn can club together and find tins that at are at least two years out of date. Leave every light switch on as you kebabs Wink

MLMbotsgoaway · 08/12/2020 22:29

Agreed - he sounds so off-pudding. A real fun sponge.
A dry fun sponge at that 😂

oakleaffy · 08/12/2020 22:31

@pepsicolagirl

if it was unopened could you not just get it out of the bin? (I'll see myself out)
Very sensible, that’s what I’d do. Plus I’d have eaten the sponge custard less as it is yummy either way. It does seem a First World Prob.. I walked home the other night, and saw an obviously newly homeless person who had tried to make a neat little bed in a doorway on a bitter night. Count your blessings- not being virtuous, but seeing that bed made me feel so lucky to have a humble home and shelter.
DelphineWalsh · 08/12/2020 22:48

Id be getting one of those catering sized 10kg packs of custard powder and throw it all over his car just before it rains.

Ivy455 · 08/12/2020 23:03

I am livid on your behalf and I hope he never gets laid again.

Elieza · 08/12/2020 23:13

...or if he does get laid again his gf likes to have him lick out of date cream out her tummy button before she will have sex with him.....Grin

Iwouldlikesomecake · 08/12/2020 23:17

This made me so rageful that my first instinct was to say PM me your address so I can bring or send you custard.

What an utter helmet