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He threw my custard away

136 replies

DimeBarLady · 08/12/2020 19:10

And now I can’t stop crying.

Exdh came to stay at mine for the weekend to look after dc’s. Not a long term solution but as he lived in a different city until CV situation dies down we both decided to do this rather than take dc’s on train to stay with him.

All day I have been looking forward to eating a syrup sponge that I got from Sainsbury’s with some custard that was in the cupboard. I warm up my syrup sponge but I can’t find the custard. I text exdh asking if he’d eaten my custard and he replied that he hadn’t but he threw it away as he noticed the BB date was the end of Dec and it looked like it had been in there a while.

Now I’m crying. I have PMT and I just wanted some fucking custard. I can’t leave dc’s at home to go and buy custard and anyway my syrup sponge is cold now. I actually hate him. I’m so glad I’m divorcing him, the absolute bastard.

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TwentyViginti · 08/12/2020 20:27

@2bazookas

He's a Custardbastard. Divorce is too good for him, just boil him.
Custardbastard is his new name in your phone now, isn't it OP? Grin
recycledtoiletroll · 08/12/2020 20:27

Bastard, I bet you're glad you're divorcing him! I can't deal with cupboard rooters (especially if they're not your own, mind your business!)

(Although my first thought when I saw the thread title was 'Vanessa Feltz is that you?')

Bluetrews25 · 08/12/2020 20:28

Got any kitchen tongs? They will increase your arm length.
Proper loves custatd, I do.
The only thing out of date in your home was ExDP.
Can you dangle one of the DCs in by their ankles?

Holothane · 08/12/2020 20:29

That is out of order you knew it was in date, you were looking forward to that.

Dogscanteatonions · 08/12/2020 20:32

What an absolute cunt. And sorry OP for some of the needless responses on here. I totally feel for you.

I LOVE prawn crackers and My exh of long ago when he went to get our takeaway Chinese would always without fail would eat ALL of the prawn crackers on the drive home with our takeaway. I would ask him to get two bags and he either wouldn't or if he did would eat almost ALL of the second bag too.. Fucking cunt. I was nearly in tears a number of times about this so I get you I really do.

Iris5543 · 08/12/2020 20:32

Make sure your lawyer adds the price to your settlement.

He can’t help it though, clearly he has issues...thankfully it’s not going to be your problem soon.

LittleEsme · 08/12/2020 20:32

Where are you OP? If you're in Swansea, I'll drop some over 🌲

Zilla1 · 08/12/2020 20:34

Would it be excessive to remarry to then LTB again?

CharitySchmarity · 08/12/2020 20:35

I thought my DH was obsessed with use-by dates but he will eat anything up to and including the date itself - he just won't eat it if it's one minute past midnight the next day.

he just can’t cope with stuff being in the house that is nearly out of date.

How does he cope with things that normally have a short date, like bread? You can't buy that with a several months safety margin!

Viviennemary · 08/12/2020 20:37

Don't let him over the doorstep again. How dare he throw out your food in your cupboard. It was mean

HaggieMaggie · 08/12/2020 20:37

I have the hugest, most extensive larder cupboard with everything you could ever want.

Due to the nature of its size, most things are out of date, lol. I just use them.

flaviaritt · 08/12/2020 20:42

@recycledtoiletroll

😂

Plussizejumpsuit · 08/12/2020 20:45

This type of shit is why he's an ex. What kind of monster does this?

jessstan1 · 08/12/2020 20:45

I presume he meant it was use by end December last year. We're not even half way through this December! For all that, he should have checked with you first.

An unfortunate thing to happen but - can you not make custard? It isn't difficult. Or f you have ice cream in the freezer that would go well with your sponge.

Disappointing but surely not serious enough to cry over.

sage46 · 08/12/2020 20:45

He sounds spiteful and unhinged, you are well rid!

5zeds · 08/12/2020 20:47

Oh he is a very annoying little dick isn’t he? AngryAngry. Turn ALL the sockets on and you, my dear, must have a HUGE drink. He simply does not deserve you.

Starlightstarbright1 · 08/12/2020 20:50

Tbh it soundd like he has issues rather than spite.

Maybe set some rules for your house and be greatful it won't be much longer.

I don't like custard though so maybe not the best person to ask

Carriemac · 08/12/2020 20:51

The only thing out of date in your home was ExDP.

Smile
MadameBlobby · 08/12/2020 20:51

What a dick. I’d be fuming. I love custard. I’d also fish it out the bin by the way.

SmileyClare · 08/12/2020 20:53

He must now be referred to only as Custardbastard. What a liberty.

marthastew · 08/12/2020 20:56

It's not his cupboard, not his tin. It was in date. How would he like it if you put his very important things in the bin?

sparticuscaticus · 08/12/2020 20:59

Have you no ice cream for your syrup pudding? It's second best to custard, (tinned, carton or packet), but yummy too.
Or what about knocking on a NDN's door begging custard... if you know them well?

But aside from that, your STBXH is an arse

He's not allowed to go through your cupboard and throw away your food, regardless of date in it. Nor to reset your oven timer etc. Are you sure you want him to stay over ever again, even for DCs?
I'd want to knock that offer in the head, so he visits for the day and is supervised when in my home! Where else is he searching through whilst you're not there? He doesn't respect boundaries- he knows it's no longer his stuff. And it was IN date, not that it's his to throw anyway,

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DimeBarLady · 08/12/2020 21:01

littleesme thank you, that just made me cry again 😂. Not in Wales sadly but thank you so much for the custard offer.

It wasn’t out of date yet, not until end of this month. I still never worked out his rationale behind it as stuff like bread, milk etc didn’t bother him, it was more long life goods like tins or pasta which I think are absolutely fine years months after their best before date.

I’m tempted to go through my mums cupboards and bring it all round here next time he comes round. Pretty sure my mum still has stuff that went out of date in the 90’s.

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SlightlyJaded · 08/12/2020 21:02

OP this is a BLESSING

You said you occasionally miss him. Imagine if he'd heated up the sponge for you and warmed the custard? You might have forgotten what a dick he is and started having second thoughts.

Then, before you know it, plugs are all out of the sockets, washing machine has been disconnected 'for safety' and you're practicing Fire Drills at 6am on a Saturday morning.

He just reminded you of why you are divorcing him. Revel in his twatness and think of a future when you can test the food by 'sniffing' and fall asleep with the tv on all night.

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DimeBarLady · 08/12/2020 21:07

slightlyjaded that is very true - and he absolutely would’ve had us doing fire drills if I’d allowed. I’m currently sitting in my lounge with the Christmas lights, the side light, the electric heater and the tv on. I might even turn the hallway light on to piss him off even though he’s 100 miles away Grin

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