He threw my custard away

[DimeBarLady]

And now I can’t stop crying.

Exdh came to stay at mine for the weekend to look after dc’s. Not a long term solution but as he lived in a different city until CV situation dies down we both decided to do this rather than take dc’s on train to stay with him.

All day I have been looking forward to eating a syrup sponge that I got from Sainsbury’s with some custard that was in the cupboard. I warm up my syrup sponge but I can’t find the custard. I text exdh asking if he’d eaten my custard and he replied that he hadn’t but he threw it away as he noticed the BB date was the end of Dec and it looked like it had been in there a while.

Now I’m crying. I have PMT and I just wanted some fucking custard. I can’t leave dc’s at home to go and buy custard and anyway my syrup sponge is cold now. I actually hate him. I’m so glad I’m divorcing him, the absolute bastard.

I would tell him if he ever took it upon himself to throw out anything other than a dirty nappy from my house again, he wouldn’t be getting back in.

@DimeBarLady

He’s obsessed with out of date food and convinced that every plug socket will spontaneously ignite if not switched off the minute you no longer need it. He definitely wouldn’t have eaten it, he just can’t cope with stuff being in the house that is nearly out of date.

I’m so glad we’re getting divorced. I occasionally miss him. Then when I came back yesterday to find I had to reset the timer on my microwave and oven as he’d switched them off and now I find he’s chucked my custard I’m glad I never gave to spend another day living with him.

That's making me tense just reading that. Can see why you are divorcing. That would drive me fucking insane.

Can you really not get it out of the bin?

I actually get this. Its really rare that I look forward to a meal or a treat. If I do and it's usually for after a long week with the DC and when they have gone to bed.

It's not a meal it's a sanity saving exercise.

Dp learnt after lettucegate (I am really not healthy and it would have been wrapped around a double burger for the perfect crunch , meat and tomato ratio) never ever to throw something out without specifically checking.

Thank God he is your ex. Bugger him. There isn't much that can help right now and I'm sorry for that. At least you know you were right bmdumping his backside.

I would also fish it out of the bin. Give the tin or packet a good wash. Will he absolutely fine.

He's a Custardbastard. Divorce is too good for him, just boil him.

Retrieve the custard. Let him stay one last time and use his toothbrush to clean the loo/taps or whatever and put it back where you found it... don’t get mad get even!!!!!

@TeamLannister

Jesus, non stop crying is a bit much. Also, tinned custard is properly disgusting. If you have sugar, milk, cream, eggs & vanilla you could make lovely custard...

Not the same. Not the point. That's like saying, white supermarket bread is propely disgusting, with just a bit of yeast and salt you could make a lovely loaf of bread!

And it's not about the custard.

Obviously.

Oh just whip up some Creme Anglais, all you need is cream, butter, sugar, vanilla, and the will to live

I only have one of those in my house at the moment.

Have you got a local FB group for your area?
Someone would bring you some custard if you were posting that on my local group.

@june2007

Seriusly it,s custard. He thought it was out of date. Tell him not to chuck away any of your food in future, not worth getting angry about.

Tell you what, I'll pop over to yours, rummage through your cupboards and throw away a few things just because I feel like it. I'll make sure I chuck your favourite thing away as well.

Then see if you think it's ok, and nothing to get angry about.

Gosh I thought you meant the end of last December. He through out something in date! That’s so odd.

And I’m massively invested in this but seriously tell him to keep the fuck away from your stuff in future - I bet that bastard is going all through your stuff! If you can’t ban him for practical reasons and if you think he’s done it because he’s a cunt, maybe we can help you find a way to pay him back!
I’m massively over invested in this, I duckling love custard. Hot or cold.

It’s gone in the communal wheelie bin so can’t get it out without looking insane. Also I tried to eat the syrup sponge on its own and now feel slightly sick

Get it out of the bin if it’s in a tin

I get that it's not really about the custard & sometimes small things push you over because it's an accumulation of seemingly small things that add up to something much bigger.
But tinned custard is shit & non stop crying is too much!!

Do you have ice cream?

My mum used to make a great chocolate sauce - make a hot chocoalte with milk and add a bit of cornflour to thicken - cook through, was a staple in our house trying to feed and keep full 6 kids

He was unreasonable to root around and nose about and even more unreasonable to chuck food that was not out of date. I would check the Chritmas chocs if I were you

If he is looking after his child in her house then it is reasonable to be looking in a cupboard. (For food/drink)

@DimeBarLady you are not being unreasonable he is a twat. Remind him they’re not his cupboards anymore and he doesn’t pay your electric bill so to kindly keep the fuck away from your appliances! Sending love in times of PMT.

I’ve gone in the bins before when I’ve lost something - project the thought that your passport was accidentally thrown away will probably feel/look less mad - less shame ;)

Nosey bastard, good you’re getting shot of him. Arse. How very dare he throw out an in date product in someonelses house!!!

I’d ask friends and family for all their nearly out of date foods of any sort and load your cupboards with them for future revenge the next time he snoops.

Can you imagine his face when he realises there are five nearly-out-of-date tins, some with dust gathered in top (shock horror) on every shelf.

With a bit of luck he’ll collapse on the spot. Don’t bother to revive him.

I think he should count himself lucky you didn’t stick a bread knife in him, cheeky fucker that he is.

@MrsLangOnionsMcWeetabix

What an arsehole. Do you want the Mumsnet shovel and a watertight alibi?

I also think the ex is a massive asshole, just trying for an alternative solution for the sponge & maybe a bit of perspective. I understand the upset though.