To consider if sibling names "match"

[CassandraBarrett]

I commented on a baby name that I had heard to my DH. Not in a negative way, I liked the name.
I said "X's new baby is called Ethan. I like it. The older children are Lucy and Roberta*. I think Roberta doesn't really match the other two" (not real names)

DH said I'm the only person in the world that thinks that way and what does it matter if names match anyway. I disagree. I think a lot of people consider if there children's names match.

Eg Alex, Stephen, Bobby - yes.
Apollo, Chase and Stephen - no

So YABU nobody notices if names match
YANBU people think about it

I think Ethan doesn't really match the other two names out of the three ,but I know what you mean ,my boys both have traditional names ,I would think it a bit odd if someone was too give two of their children more modern names and a third a very traditional name and vice versa.

Mine don’t match

Shows we have different thoughts on names.

I don’t think it matters but some take matching to mean same letters or sounds and makes them ‘connected’ I find it a bit strange, like that woman in America whose kids all start with ‘J’

I agree op. The names should match.

I never thought about whether my DC names match until I saw people talking about it on here. I’ve also never thought about it with other peoples DC although I can see the point about traditional names and modern names not matching

I think they should go together nicely but not too matchy (all tree names, gemstones etc) but that's my preference

DP and his siblings names don't quite go to me, one has a very of its era name and the others have classic names but then they are spread over 10 or so years so I guess tastes change.

How do names 'match' though? Surely that's completely subjective?

I should add I don't judge people either way, or care, just I like to think of the sibling names as a set and consider if the set is "cohesive"

I know people that like to have names matching but I don't understand it at all.

The children are going to grow up and live separate lives. Unless you plan to create a family singing group,I don't see the need to match names.

I know what you mean, OP. I like names to "go". There's something a bit jarring otherwise!

They don't necessarily have to all start with the same letter or all be flowers or ancient greek or anything, just similar. That's just me though.

So: Charlotte, Robert, James and Helena-yes.
Alexandra, Oliver, Thomas and Rainbw-Honeyblossom- up to the parents but it would "stick out" to me!

Agreed. I know someone with siblings with completely mismatching names - think Victoria and Chase, an old fashioned classic girls' name and then a really American sounding boys' name. And they obviously don't care so that's nice (and none of my business haha), but to me it looks really odd!

I think its nice if they go a bit - my DDs names are very different to DSDs (think Emily, Charlotte, Annabel and Lexxié-Maé) and it does sound jarring. No criticism of her mums name choice, she probably thinks mine are super boring, but hers is nothing like I would ever choose, or DH for that matter.

Doesnt annoy me as much as super matchy names though, like Ruby, Jade, Amber etc or the worst ever was 2 twin girls I taught called Clarissa and Melissa I think that's cringy as fuck.

Mine match too much! I’m a bit aware of it sometimes, but I just really liked both names!

Equivalent is maybe I’d called them John and George and people would think “oooh you like the Beatles”.

(Deliberately didn’t put John and Paul as it’s not as bad as that combo!)

Why should they go? When they’re older and doing their own thing they won’t be together and referring to themselves as such

I think it's nice if they're similar types of names. I'd be worried if they were wildly different that one kid would turn round in teen/adult years and ask why they'd been called "Ocean" when their siblings are James and Annabel

YANBU but I think I'd call it ensuring they're not incongruous, rather than ensuring they 'match'. So I wouldn't be bothered about all having same first letter, or all Biblical etc., but it might be a bit odd to mix classical with obviously modern names.

Frankly, I was quite shocked by the off-shore royals calling their kid Archie, or whatever he is. I suppose it could have been worse... like Albie or something.

I get what you mean. It crossed my mind when twin girls were born to a colleague recently, they called them both lovely names but one was very classic and the other very not. Think Luna and Elizabeth. They have an older sister who has a name equivalent to something like Molly. None of them go.

However, I dont think it matters - its a passing thought then I dont think anyone will think much of it again.

You only have to spend five minutes on the Baby Names board to see you’re right and he’s wrong.

Personally I don’t care, but I bet where you’re coming from.

No I don’t think names need to match, but I think there are some that can’t go together e.g. names that rhyme and I once knew a girl called Paula whose brother was called Paul.

I know what you mean. I like when the styles match e.g traditional or modern.
Octavia, Leonitus &.... Dave. Sounds like you gave up trying. Dave was an accident, going through divorce. 😂
Know twins called Emmy & Emma tho that creeped me out too.

My uncles (4 brothers) have names that match and I was in my thirties before I realised! Seeing as I have only ever known them as adults, I never considered their names to be connected.
Generally, I do notice when people give their DC matching names - some parents overdo it, eg there are two girls called the equivalent of Clara and Zara (not their real names) at my DC's nursery, that's a bit much IMO. I would also wonder why someone would call their DC Apollo and Stephen. But generally I think matching names are completely irrelevant once children become adults and therefore couldn't really care less.

Names tend to fall into categories (traditional / classic / modern / unique) and having say 3 kids with very traditional names James, George and Henry and then having naming the 4th child Oakley would be noticeable to me.

I'd never comment but I would notice.

My children's names start with the same letter. 2 kids, one of each sex. You've got me wondering what people think of that...

Similarly having say River, Meadow, Bhodi and Jane would just be odd too!