Me and hubby disagreeing on parcel

[AtLastEarwax]

Hi all

So obviously with lots of parcels being delivered not everyone is always in. We've taken a few in for neighbours however it's my view that neighbours should come and get their parcel but hubby thinks we should take it round? AIBU? I kind of think waiting for them to get back and going round is a ball ache. Surely they should just collect at their earliest convenience as they will have got a card through the door informing them where the parcel is anyway?

I always take round, but I live in terraced housing where this is very easy. I know that delivery drivers do not always leave the correct name or house number and don't want someone's parcel in my house for ages.

I always pop round when I see them home after a day not collected. I've learnt that couriers don't always leave cards. They also leave parcels on random doorsteps (Amazon driver!)

Yabu for using the word 'hubby', but yanbu for expecting a neighbour to come an collect their parcels.

I'd go round once, if they weren't in I'd also pop a note through the door to let them know.

You'd hope a card would have been put through originally but you never know.

All we are getting is a picture of an open front door and someone’s feet. It’s hard to work out where it was left.
In general though I agree it is for the person who wants the parcel to come and collect

Unless your neighbour is miles away then I’d take it round to them. Not really a big deal is it?

Is agree with you, they weren't home so yous ere nice enough to take it in, in my opinion they should be collecting them from you!! Feck taking them to heir house to stand like a spare prick outside whilr they don't answer.

Neither of you are wrong, but I agree with your husband that you should try and take it round. A delivery card through the door is easily missed, if they get one in the first place. Also the cards often just say left with neighbour, which could be next door or several doors down, so they may not actually know which house has the parcel.

We take them round. Our neighbours do the same for us.

From our own experience, a card isn't always left. More often than not, jan infuriating text to say the parcel has been delivered successfully but no clue as to where.

We let them come to us, when they’re free/in.

YANBU.The neighbour should collect the parcel from you as you have been kind enough to accept it for them. There is no need for you to be a delivery service too.

YABU. If you’re taking parcels in for people, you should go round with it at least once.

If you don’t want to, don’t take the parcel out.

I would take it round after a time convenient for me, when I am going out anyway. If they didn’t answer I would put my own note through saying their parcel is out number 32

However this is only for the odd parcel if my neighbours thought I was going to be their parcel depot until Christmas Eve then I would stop taking them in

@Suckmyfatone

Yabu for using the word 'hubby', but yanbu for expecting a neighbour to come an collect their parcels.

I LOVE the word hubby! Just like he calls me his missus to his friends...

Cum slut isn't appropriate

• at number 32 even

Waiting for them to collect is the norm where I live. It wouldn't occur to me to watch the house waiting for someone to return.

I dunno, our buzzer goes at least once or twice every day for the flat 2 floors above as he orders so many parcels and is never in so we refuse to answer anymore.

If it was a very occasional thing I'd take it round to be nice. We've had parcels at neighbours houses we've had no idea about because no card was left and if they hadn't brought it round, we would never have received it!

I think either option is fine. As long as they get their parcel, it doesn’t really matter does it?

People should come and collect. I work at home and at the back of the house, so I don't see neighbours coming and going; and anyway why would I spend my day watching for them to come home?

I do take parcels round if one's been sitting at mine for a while. It always turns out that the delivery person didn't leave a note or send an email and the recipient is unaware of what's happened.

I usually just take it round when I know they're home. I'd prefer it gone. I think either way is fine though.

50/50 here, we take in a lot of parcels for next door as my DH works from home and they're both out all day. They pop round at lunchtime if they know there's a parcel here for them, if not we drop it round when we here them come home (semi detached house and they have a dog so we always know). If it's that much of a problem for you, just don't accept the parcels

I let them come and get it; I have 2 DC and it’s easier that way. I do take it round if they haven’t got it after a couple of days though as sometimes people miss the cards

I think it’s a mix of the 2 options.
I know that cards aren’t always left, so there’s always the chance the person doesn’t know their parcel has been delivered.
I take them to the neighbours, but at my own convenience. If it was a massive heavy parcel then they can come and get it. If I happen to see they’ve just got home and I’m not busy, I’ll pop round with it. If I’m in the middle of doing other things, I’ll leave it for the time being and hope they come round for it.

I’ve never had a problem.

Our delivery people never seem to leave cards so I have no idea if a parcel has been delivered if a neighbour doesn't knock.