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Me and hubby disagreeing on parcel

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AtLastEarwax · 07/12/2020 08:07

Hi all

So obviously with lots of parcels being delivered not everyone is always in. We've taken a few in for neighbours however it's my view that neighbours should come and get their parcel but hubby thinks we should take it round? AIBU? I kind of think waiting for them to get back and going round is a ball ache. Surely they should just collect at their earliest convenience as they will have got a card through the door informing them where the parcel is anyway?

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donquixotedelamancha · 07/12/2020 09:50

I LOVE the word hubby! Just like he calls me his missus to his friends..Cum slut isn't appropriate

This isn't Netmums. CS is fine :-)

Isn’t the solution simple. DH can take it round ?

I think we've settled on Hubby or Cumslut for this thread.

Malteserlover50 · 07/12/2020 09:56

I have had parcels dropped off to neighbours but I haven’t had a card put through my door by the courier. Maybe your neighbour doesn’t know it’s been left with yourself.

Burnthurst187 · 07/12/2020 09:56

If I took a parcel in I would expect the neighbour to come and get it. However, you're then assuming the courier has left a card etc to let the intended house know that you now have it which isn't always the case!

I actually picked up a parcel from across the road yesterday that they'd taken in for us. Twice in the past neighbour's have brought one over to us and I've found it embarrassing, particularly as they're quite elderly. I think it's common courtesy to go and get it yourself

Simplyunacceptable · 07/12/2020 09:57

Sometimes couriers don’t leave a card so the neighbour might be completely unaware that you have their parcel. If they haven’t collected that day, I take it round.

Mol1628 · 07/12/2020 09:59

I take it round if I notice they’re home. Sometimes they come here first. So both ways are fine I think. Sometimes I just pass it over the fence.

Shelby30 · 07/12/2020 10:01

I dont take it round. They know where it is and if they take forever to come and get it I would eventually take it round. However if they did that more often I'd stop taking parcels for those individuals.

My neighbour did shout me over one day early morning when I was going out to collect a parcel, it had come the night before and I didn't want to go over late to get it. My husband was going over to get it but was in the shower. It was a big massive box so I felt bad and I see why he wanted rid of it but I was pregnant so cldnt take it, don't think he was very pleased. Had to go in tell me husband to get it ASAP.

Peanutbutterblood · 07/12/2020 10:01

My neighbour lives 400yards up the road, she rarely gets anything for me as I have everything set up to be dropped in a shes but if she does she calls round with it for me. I get a few for a her and usually message her, say that she can come get it whenever or I'll drop it in next time its convenient (before or after school run or when I'm going for a walk/run)

Moirasrose · 07/12/2020 10:04

We’ve had a parcel dropped here for our next door neighbours. A card went through their door by the delivery company and when I tried to drop off they were out. I’m not trying again. I’m working all day and I have two kids with special needs so I can’t be bothered messing with their parcel.

Eckhart · 07/12/2020 10:07

Cards sometimes say the parcel is with 'a neighbour' without specifying, so it's a good idea to either let your neighbours know your boundaries, or to stop accepting their parcels.

Eckhart · 07/12/2020 10:09

@Moirasrose

We’ve had a parcel dropped here for our next door neighbours. A card went through their door by the delivery company and when I tried to drop off they were out. I’m not trying again. I’m working all day and I have two kids with special needs so I can’t be bothered messing with their parcel.
Why can't you put it by their door? Why did you accept it if you're not prepared to give it to them?
rc22 · 07/12/2020 10:14

I always take them round to neighbours. To get them out of our way more than anything!

dontdisturbmenow · 07/12/2020 10:16

Life is too short to be bothered with such meaningless considerations. There are no 'rule' in our neighborhood.

It usually comes down to who is in or out first. If I'm about to go out, I'll take the parcel to the neighbour. If they've been out and are just back, they normally would knock on my door then.

G5000 · 07/12/2020 10:19

I think the main question is, are your neighbours massive cunts who always use your house as their free concierge service, or are they nice people who are also happy to help you out? If former, don't accept their parcels. If latter, make sure they get their deliveries you have accepted, either by dropping it off or letting them know you have it.

mummy2oli · 07/12/2020 10:29

I agree neighbours should come and collect. However the last time I had parcels left at a neighbours they didn’t leave a card. I actually reported it to Amazon as a missing parcel and I was refunded. My neighbour then brought it around a week later

Strangedayindeed · 07/12/2020 10:53

I’d take it round just to get it out of my hose.

CorianderBlues · 07/12/2020 11:51

@Strangedayindeed

I’d take it round just to get it out of my hose.
What the hell are you doing with it?! I hope you're cleaning it afterwards.
wildraisins · 07/12/2020 12:37

I'd wait a few days and see if they come round, and if not I'd take it.

Sometimes those notes aren't actually posted through the door - I've had it before where a neighbour had a package for me for over a week and I had no idea!

Twinkie01 · 07/12/2020 12:40

Depends, next door neighbours I like so will pop present in, house across the street they can pick up their own parcels when I actually agree to take them in because they are rude people.

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AtLastEarwax · 07/12/2020 14:06

@donquixotedelamancha

I LOVE the word hubby! Just like he calls me his missus to his friends..Cum slut isn't appropriate

This isn't Netmums. CS is fine :-)

Isn’t the solution simple. DH can take it round ?

I think we've settled on Hubby or Cumslut for this thread.

Cum slut he would never to say to his friends though haha he would say missus instead, like I say hubby or as I call him my pussy muncher
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GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 07/12/2020 15:21

Either is fine but I prefer to got of it ASAP so not cluttering hall :)

Sally872 · 07/12/2020 15:24

Really up to you. Neighbour should collect it promptly but if you notice them home and parcel is bothering you it is nice to take it round, and stop cluttering up your hallway.

donquixotedelamancha · 07/12/2020 15:30

Cum slut he would never to say to his friends though haha he would say missus instead, like I say hubby or as I call him my pussy muncher

Sorry, I thought you meant CS was his nickname. I did wonder....

I think you need to refer to him as PM on here from now on.

steppemum · 07/12/2020 15:39

I never take round.

I used to, but found that once you have rung 3 times and they aren't in, and then you know they are in but they don't answer the door, I find it is easy to let them collect.

But I ALWAYS say to the driver, please put a note through their door to tell them it is here, and I watch to see they do that. Then it is up to neighbour to collect.

Ifsomething hasn't been collected I would drop it round, but thatin practice doens't happen. They just sit on my shoe rack until they come.

GabsAlot · 08/12/2020 11:37

i sually wait for them to come but funnily enough i missed a delivery yesterday and they didnt leave a card or any so had no idea where it is was till my neighbour showed up with it

thebakeoffwasntasgoodthisyear · 08/12/2020 11:41

I take it round when I see their car in the driveway. It suits me too to do that as I work a weird shift pattern and I’m often asleep at odd times. It helps to keep on good terms with neighbours - we put each other’s bins out when we go on holiday and they were very understanding when we had prolonged noisy building work done.

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