Me and hubby disagreeing on parcel

[AtLastEarwax]

Hi all

So obviously with lots of parcels being delivered not everyone is always in. We've taken a few in for neighbours however it's my view that neighbours should come and get their parcel but hubby thinks we should take it round? AIBU? I kind of think waiting for them to get back and going round is a ball ache. Surely they should just collect at their earliest convenience as they will have got a card through the door informing them where the parcel is anyway?

I usually let the neighbour come around for it but twice now they haven't put a card through the door and my neighbour has knocked after a couple of days just on the off chance so now if they haven't got it in 24 hours I knock on the door.

I did refuse a couple from further down the road though as a cf figured out I was home a lot and without bothering to ask suggested they try me. He can bugger right off and may all his packages be soggy.

We wait for them to come to us... that's the convention here. It seems sort-of rude to have your parcel delivered to someone's house and not go and get it, but I know in other areas they consider it ruder to have your parcel delivered somewhere and then interrupt them, so I think it strongly depends on local norms...

I'd go round with it after a few days of having it, if they hadn't come round, incase they didn't know where it was.

People shouldn't have to deliver parcels they've taken in.
The note from the delivery tells you where to collect , and that is what should happen. Wait a few days and then return to sender.

Neither of you are right/wrong.

If you see that they are back and you are able to pop round with it. Likewise if they get the slip and it is a reasonable hour they could knock and ask for it.

No hard and fast rule. If having the parcel bugs you best to drop it round as they may be worried about disturbing you at an inconvenient time. I wouldn't go round and ask for my parcel if I thought it was a bit late (after about 9pm) but if they saw me get home I would be happy for them to drop it over.

Plus there are all the potential issues around whether they got a slip and whether it gave correct information so they aren't necessarily being rude if they don't collect their parcel.

It used to be either or for me. I'd rather they collected though.

I don't take them in now though. My next door neighbour didn't come and collect one a while ago and was blanking me when I was trying to take it to her (I could see her in the window, she was making a point of ignoring me). She rang the place she ordered from saying we had stolen her parcel

Being as mine is the only house usually occupied during the day, she's fucked herself there.

It's a mix for me. I'll wait a day, and if not collected I then pop round once, armed with a note to pop through the door if they don't answer.

Wait till it is picked up, but dropping it off is not a big deal.

That being said, I really don't like the whole leaving it next door thing.