Gym girls

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Two of my friends have taken to posting gym selfies.

One has not long had her baby and hit the gym hard, which I applaud. She has taken her wellbeing seriously but I can’t help but think she doesn’t need to post pictures on social media. It’s like a stealth brag. Particularly showing off images of her stomach and she’s wearing a full face of makeup whilst in gym gear.

Another friend has became gym obsessed in the last year. Again I think lockdown might have been a big catalyst but she constantly posts on Facebook about fitness. Constant selfies in the gym. Constant posts about calories, what she’s eaten etc. It’s becoming tedious.

I don’t want to have to unfriend them online. The selfie culture and what I feel is stealth bragging has just became annoying now. Yes, I get that you’re looking well. I recognise you are taking positive steps to maintain your health and well-being but please can you stop posting about your amazing body.

And no I’m not jealous, I’m a size 8 myself. I just hate people who feel the need to show off. Tell me I’m not the only one

Some times these pictures help as a reference point to how you are doing, i see countless folks with problems posting pictures as they achieve a goal. try to change the way you look at the pictures. Try saying " good for you" etc

This us why I stopped using I'm. It's become less about keeping in touch with each other and more about vanity and stealth brags which I have no time for. Which is a shame for the few who do use it to keep in touch with friends afar and close by.

you completely missed the point. they are staying in touch. they are showing each other how well they are doing. they are not being vain etc etc etc

And so what if it is vanity? God forbid.

"There's so little humility now, how awful. Good thing the world still has superior people like me. I would never post a gym selfie or show off my body (which obviously looks good because I'm a gym goer, as I told you), to bring the world some much-needed humility! It's so morally dubious to share a pic of yourself on a cross trainer, but spiteful and mean-spirited online pile-ons to tear people down, that's what Good People do! Oh, my wonderful humility and morality!"

if you havent done it dont knock it. Its not like doing drugs etc. I posted two pictures, the first of me having heart surgery and the second 6 months later in the gym, i had nothing but compliments . i think a few of you really are missing the point. sorry !

And so what if it is vanity? God forbid.

That's fine but it's also ok to criticise it.

Isn't criticism a form of judgement?

One of MN's cardinal sins.

@Merryweather80 when I emigrated and was trying to put on a brave face and show the positives even though I was absolutely miserable, a friend told me it was insensitive with so many in our circles having such a terrible time that I was bragging about being in a nice warm country enjoying myself. I realised then that I was contributing to this sense that a lot of people have that everyone's life is better than their own. And also giving the impression that I wasn't getting home from work at bedtime and not eating and crying a lot. I only share interesting historical things now.

Isn't criticism a form of judgement?

Apparently it's dependent on who you are judging, I mean no one has an issue with judging Trump.

One of MN's cardinal sins.

If that were the case AIBU wouldn't even exist.