Boyfriend thinks I'm lying about being pregnant

[Sillylemonade1]

I did a pregnancy test this afternoon and I got the faintest line ever, but there's still a line and its with an frer so a decent test. Messaged boyfriend and told him, he was really happy despite it being unplanned.

He comes in from work, I show him and explain its really faint but a line is a line at the end of the day. And he just scoffs at me and says he can't see anything, and says oh so I'm not pregnant then.

I got quite upset and that's what I want to know is am I being unreasonable to be upset by his comment, it was just how he laughed at me and I feel like he's making it out that I've lied, or that I'm seeing things. I've had a cry about it but its really bugged me.

Im obviously doing another test in the morning and that should show a little more although I don't know how much more it would be visible.

To answer your question though I think it's silly to be upset. He doesn't think you're lying he just thinks you're mistaken as he can't see the line and he had gotten excited about a baby.

(OP, if he was excited as you say then maybe he couldn't see the line! But get a different method of preventing pregnancy cos that ain't ittttttt)

@Thewithesarehere brilliant.

No contraception and there's a baby coming... Wow, shocker. How is this a suprise? If you don't want a baby, use contraception, it's not rocket science.

I really do sit gob smacked at these people. Oh, we are not trying for a baby. What contraception are you using? None
Sorry but how the hell do people think a method is to use nothing just boggles my brain

The Sue Radford school of family planning.
Seriously OP, what's the rush? Having 2 little ones already must fill your day. Start using contraception and later, when you're in a stable relationship, you can make a joint decision about adding to your family.

Sorry OP that your initial post of being worried about his reaction has gotten so out of hand and personal. A lot of people come on here for a full soap opera and when you don't give it to them in the initial post, they will fish for more details under fake concern until you give them everything you've got to link a load of dots and make a drama out of your life. Even if it is irrelavant to your question or the thing you wanted some uplifting support on.
I would be feeling on edge too with big emotions like a possible pregnancy looming and not getting the support you wanted from your partner. Usually a line is a line and it's hard to have a fake positive. The only time you might get a fake faint line is if you have left the test to sit a few days and you might see an evaporation line. It's hard but hopefully in a few days you will have some concrete evidence for your partner to share your emotions with and then it won't matter what he initually thought. Sounds like he just doesn't realise that a faint line is still a positive, as the adverts always show it as strong. I had faint lines in hospital check ups at 20 weeks pregnant after the first few were strong lines at just a few weeks pregnant. Don't listen to what the people are saying about your contraception, texting and family choices - you don't have to answer to anyone about anything, let them find something else to enjoy their popcorn with.

Oh come on, OP. You can't have believed you were using a reliable method of contraception if you were testing, especially so early. Congratulations on a clearly wanted pregnancy though.

Well said @Welikebeingcosy

Hi! Maybe he had just got psyched up after you told him you were pregnant and then he couldn’t see a line so was disappointed and his reaction came across the wrong way? In my last pregnancy, the first test I did was so faint and my husband couldn’t see it so wasn’t convinced I was pregnant until I took a digital one a few days later! :) test again in a few days, maybe a first response? And hopefully you’ll get a darker line and your boyfriend will see! Good luck! :)

There is a book that explains it all properly.

www.betterworldbooks.com/product/detail/Taking-Charge-of-Your-Fertility-9780091887582

Stop trying to get pregnant accidentally on purpose. It won't end with happily ever afters.

@Sillylemonade1

*natural contraception lol not conception ffs

So you were actively trying to conceive, then?

Because at 23 with two kids already, you should know damn well that having sex makes babies.

I didn't think this method would be awful as its even on the NHS website, id done my research before going ahead with it and its done me fine till now.

My mother (devout Catholic) used natural family planning throughout her married life. Wish I didn't know that but I do. Worked for her - she twice got pregnant immediately when she decided she wanted to conceive. No other pregnancies. But I believe her periods were extremely regular, she followed the method religiously (!) and the father wasn't some bloke she'd only been seeing for a matter of months in the midst of a global pandemic.

I don't think this is the ideal method of contraception for someone in your circumstances.

I'm surprised anyone uses natural contraception nowadays. I suppose if you don't mind the occasional pregnancy it's ok.

I told my DH on his birthday that I was pregnant and he said the line was too faint and he didn’t think I was. Our bean is now 4 and DH regrets how he reacted so much. Men are different though, I knew as soon as it happened, I felt it in my bones days before the test. Men don’t get that. So I’d take a few more tests and let it go

Are you still a teenager?

There’s no such thing as a “natural” method of contraception; you have been having unprotected sex.

You’re both as foolish as each other

He shouldn’t have laughed but clearly he doesn’t see a line.

@Sillylemonade1

*natural contraception lol not conception ffs

I think you were right the first time :)

Thank you @ChinChilly just gets on my nerves that so many posts on here will always be changed to talk about what other people want to talk about, regardless of where the OP wants to discussion to go. Now we're having a debate about contraception as though it is relevant to whether a pregnancy test had a faint line or not.

TBF plenty of people use natural methods they can work, and are sold as effective so it's understandable the OP would give it a go.

Hormonal contraceptives can really jar with some people.

However, cycle tracking isn't great if you have irregular periods, or if you're a bit older, as the nurse at the abortion clinic explained to me; they see a lot of women who've been using that method.

You haven't moved in with him have you?

@Thewithesarehere

I voted YABU because natural contraception can be great Stop using the word contraception. It’s anything but.

Sure, it can be a great method of family planning. It identifies the few days per month that you can get pregnant and for you to avoid them rather than getting in between sperm and egg. Like I said, unreliable if your periods are irregular but if you know you ovulate on the same day each month it’s fine.