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Boyfriend thinks I'm lying about being pregnant

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Sillylemonade1 · 30/11/2020 18:25

I did a pregnancy test this afternoon and I got the faintest line ever, but there's still a line and its with an frer so a decent test. Messaged boyfriend and told him, he was really happy despite it being unplanned.

He comes in from work, I show him and explain its really faint but a line is a line at the end of the day. And he just scoffs at me and says he can't see anything, and says oh so I'm not pregnant then.

I got quite upset and that's what I want to know is am I being unreasonable to be upset by his comment, it was just how he laughed at me and I feel like he's making it out that I've lied, or that I'm seeing things. I've had a cry about it but its really bugged me.

Im obviously doing another test in the morning and that should show a little more although I don't know how much more it would be visible.

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PrincessNutNut · 30/11/2020 19:28

Are you late? If you weren't trying, why were you testing? And you told him about this unplanned pregnancy by text?

If you really are pregnant it's hardly going to matter if he can't see the line right now, is it? Why does that upset you?

RedskyAtnight · 30/11/2020 19:29

He hasn't said you are lying though? He's said he can't see a line on the pregnancy test, which is perfectly possible on the basis you say it is faint. I'd suggest taking another test - perhaps waiting a couple of weeks or so if you are testing early.

Hayes178 · 30/11/2020 19:30

Take a pregnancy test tomorrow with first morning wee, If line is still really faint then wait a week or so to take another one.

DailyCandy · 30/11/2020 19:30

Why is the OP getting all this grief.

I understand what you mean OP. My husband dismissively said 'that's not a line' when i told him, by phone (if it matters), several years ago. It was an early test but I told him 'a line is a line' and I was right. Only diff was we were actually 'trying'. Ended up taking a handful of additional tests to prove it.

PrincessNutNut · 30/11/2020 19:33

Why is the OP getting all this grief.

Because it's a weird story and something doesn't add up. The boyfriend hasn't accused her of lying, he's said he can't see the line, which is entirely possible given all the "line eyes" threads we get on here and the fact that even OP says it's faint. If she really is pregnant it really doesn't matter if he can't see it yet, no reason to get upset with him over it. And it was unplanned, and she told him by text?

Something is amiss.

rastas · 30/11/2020 19:34

Didn't you post earlier, OP? From your post, it does sound like you were trying for this baby without him knowing so I see where PP's are coming from.

ShalomToYouJackie · 30/11/2020 19:37

OP is 23, been with her DP for 7 months and baby wasn't planned (posted a thread earlier)

The most shocking thing about this is telling him you're pregnant over text!

TeaStory · 30/11/2020 19:37

Well he HAS accused her of lying because she says she’s pregnant and he said “no you’re not”.

Take another test in a few days, OP.

PrincessNutNut · 30/11/2020 19:39

There's a thread active at the moment in which OP complains about the boyfriend not chipping in for a family car, and says the baby was a surprise...turns out it was a surprise only to him, because she deliberately came off contraception.

Right now, this thread comes across as though OP is intentionally trying to get pregnant while the boyfriend thinks she's using contraception and isn't planning a baby. I'm not saying that is what's happening, I'm saying that's how it comes across...so please tell us more, OP.

Lemonpink88 · 30/11/2020 19:39

Yea we had this with second baby, my DH didn’t believe the faint line either & I felt bit similar to you as I knew In myself I was pregnant again, just do a clear blue test then u know definitely. It’s says pregnant or not pregnant & tells u how many weeks. Bit pricey but worth it if uv had that faint line thing

rastas · 30/11/2020 19:39

@ShalomToYouJackie^^ but why is she testing early then if was not planned? Or was your period late, OP? I'm a little lost.

stschiap · 30/11/2020 19:39

He couldn't see the line so said you weren't pregnant and you got upset.
Honestly, if you're going to get upset and cry about that then you aren't ready to have a baby.
If he's going to laugh at you about it then he's not ready to be a dad either.

ApolloandDaphne · 30/11/2020 19:40

It is possible her bf can't see the line. There are often pics posted on here and I can see nothing where the op sees a faint line.

PrincessNutNut · 30/11/2020 19:40

@TeaStory

Well he HAS accused her of lying because she says she’s pregnant and he said “no you’re not”.

Take another test in a few days, OP.

Oh pish tosh, he's not saying she's lying, he's saying she's mistaken. He might be right. If this really is a totally unplanned child born of contraception failure, and he found out about it via text, I'd say he's taking it very well.
rastas · 30/11/2020 19:41

@PrincessNutNut ahh, I must have missed that one! Could you link please? Blush

Worriedandabitscared · 30/11/2020 19:43

I wasn't TTC but I tested early as I felt weird and I got faint positives and then a "pregnant" on a digital test, you don't need to be TTC to test early, don't think I'd have told my husband by text though - I did message my MIL asking if she could see a line though haha

PrincessNutNut · 30/11/2020 19:43

[quote rastas]@PrincessNutNut ahh, I must have missed that one! Could you link please? Blush[/quote]
It's here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4092805-AIBU-to-think-DP-should-help-with-the-cost-of-a-family-car

The plot twist isn't revealed by OP, she got busted by posters who saw her on the TTC boards.

Regularsizedrudy · 30/11/2020 19:48

Hmmmm interesting story

Groovinpeanut · 30/11/2020 19:49

Well if the line isn't there, and the OP isn't pregnant. Her bf will be taking a lot more care now.

nimbuscloud · 30/11/2020 20:03

Well if the line isn't there, and the OP isn't pregnant. Her bf will be taking a lot more care now

This. Especially since she already has 2 very young children.

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Sillylemonade1 · 30/11/2020 20:04

My periods are allllll over the place, and I test randomly alot. Which in my eyes is not a bad thing, more of a precaution so that I don't end up in pain one day and being one of those people who suddenly give birth to a baby not knowing they were pregnant. I'm not ttc I already have two small children and certainly wasn't planning for more in the near future, I had pnd with my second, and am still on tablets for that. I had been using a natural conception its called 'natural cycles' which tells you what days are safe and not safe to have sex by your temp but quite clearly that has not worked for meBlush

Someone here said that he was excited and then got bummed out because he couldn't see anything, which to be honest I can see now.

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Sillylemonade1 · 30/11/2020 20:05

*natural contraception lol not conception ffs

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 30/11/2020 20:06

There are no "safe" days to have sex to guarantee no pregnancy.

nimbuscloud · 30/11/2020 20:07

Does your boyfriend know that you are not using hormonal contraceptives?