AIBU to be sad about the Christmas markets photo, and yes I know, bigger picture etc...

[CommonsensibleYouTotalFuckwit]

Let me just get all the "don't know you know there is a pandemic" and "I would rather not kill people just to walk round a market"...out of the way - I know this is a touch self centred but...

Every year (this wasn't planned, just evolved into a tradition) we take a photo of the DC at a certain spot in the Christmas market. We have done it for the last seven years, and it's lovely - even the teenage DC don't take much beating persuading into it now

Of course this year it won't be happening. I have read the "recreate the Christmas markets at home" thread - which is fucking hilarious by the way - and am considering this as an option, AIBU?

We do actually have a poffertjes pan so could make the teeny pancakes (and charge the DC £7 for 5 of them) and I may already could hang outside fairy lights. I have Christmas mugs and could make mulled wine (and charge the over 18 DC £10 a mug). There are lots of other good ideas on that thread.

Is it a good idea or is it a wanky eye roll idea to actually do this?

You see I'm testing it here before I mention it to the DC...

(I will of course update the thread with their reactions if I decide to suggest it to them?)

It doesn't matter if its wanky, if the DC will enjoy it I'd do it

I'm gutted about missing all the church singing/crib service stuff this year, DS1 is 4 and I think this is the first year he would have enjoyed it.

Do it! Even better, take the fairy lights and a flask to the spot you usually take it (if allowed in your tier), and fake it. Or take a very plain socially distancesd one to line up with the others - in 10 years time might make a nice contrast!

Yeah I think photo in usual spot to mark the difference if allowed then home for fake market!

It’s not ridiculous or selfish in the slightest to miss things like this. Does your area have any decorations? We still have the big tree that’s there every year and extra decorations have appeared round the city centre. If so, maybe you could also take a picture in an alternative spot - just to have another ‘memory’ of the year that was cancelled.

You could still go the spot and take a photo of you all this year minus the markets in the background. Would be a good way to make the covid year in the photo album and you could ham it up by all wearing masks

You could also partition parts of your house so everyone needs to walk sideways and breathe in to get about

This pandemic is a huge piece of history. So embrace it! I’d go to the place you usually stand and take a photo of you all exactly as it is right now. It’s historic. It’ll be a cool addition to the set.

Make a feature of covid and go to the usual spot

A metres apart somehow with masks.... they will look back on it in years to come and laugh

Do it!

And take a couple of photos of them wearing masks (you can buy Xmas ones), as this'll be just as much a part of their history as all the other photos you have.

Perhaps the most interesting one when they're showing them to their own DC.

Oooh I do actually sew face masks and have lots of Christmas ones. That's a good idea. I thought about going to the usual spot but it would involve two sets of public transport and I don't know if this is worth it or not...

I can't link as I'm on the app but the market recreation thread is in AIBU and definitely worth a read!

I have enough DC to stand in front of each other and shove each other out of the way in approved market style (at our local one anyway )

Do it, you'll enjoy it. My dd has taken me to Manchester christmas market for the last 3 years. We love it we have such a lovely time together. Dh doesn't like stuff like that so it's nice to have special mum and daughter time. This year we've made do with baking the christmas cake together. As they say these days "you do you".

There is still a Christmas market planned where we are.

Do it OP!

We have been taking a family selfie at the same EH place annually. This year would only have been the 3rd year but we didn't want to miss out so we got a photo of it from the internet up on the tv and took a photo in front of it.

Very silly but allowed us to have a 2020 approximation of the tradition. Just an idea if you wanted for the photo bit of it!

Just out of curiosity how many kids do you have op?

Go for it, you’ve got to create your own happiness in a safe way and it’s a photo to look back on!

Do it!

We would normally be doing Christmas shopping in our home town which is their 3. I normally love chrismas and have 4 school age kids. I was wondering for the first time in my life if I care about Christmas yesterday. I could quite happily skip it.

So I might source a gazebo and do a market too. Slow cooker of mulled wine. German sausage. Charge the kids and dh £6 a pop for each then put the money away for the real thing next year.

We are 6 anyway and not seeing people, not going out with kids, not making plans is getting comfortable. Like our life and world will always be much smaller after this

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4091892-To-try-and-recreate-a-Christmas-market-in-my-back-garden

HTH!

It will be fun so go for it. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

I know what you mean about photo traditions. Every summer we have a family photo on a log flume at a theme park. Although the park was open this summer it wasn't a place that we felt would be particularly safe so didn't go. I miss having the photo though, more than I thought I would.

Definitely do it!! We are all thinking of ways to make things joyful and special. It's ok to be sad that more things that we enjoy are not happening and I think you have the right idea; make the best of things rather than sit and think life is miserable or just say 'well it could be worse. I could be dead'. Neither are good coping strategies.

Is the market definitely not happening? Nottingham Christmas Market is still happening with a few changes (no bars) despite being in Tier 3

I don’t think it’s self-centred at all! I’ve been having chemotherapy which has (obviously) not been fun in the slightest, but one of the things I’ve been a bit sad about is not being able to treat the kids to their annual Ikea chocolate advent calendar! Sounds ridiculous but there you go. That’s the way things are this year; let’s try to make something of it regardless.

As a PP said this pandemic is a historic event; I’m not one of the ‘making memories’ crowd but these are the things our children will remember down the years.

You’re giving me ideas and I think we need to eat vegetarian bratwurst in the cold on our balcony. I’m in NL and we can buy poffertjes here ready-made at the supermarket so that saves a heap of trouble. I say go for it!

@CommonsensibleYouTotalFuckwit

I have enough DC to stand in front of each other and shove each other out of the way in approved market style (at our local one anyway )

Yes, get the kids involved in the ideas and make a silly mock video!

This could turn into the most fun 'Christmas Market' they've ever been to