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What’s happening? Is this flirty banter or something more serious?

39 replies

Chairlove · 28/11/2020 20:18

Split up from my ex in January. Since then we have had a few reunions. Tried to get back together but didn’t work. We seemed better as friends with benefits. There is no nastiness.

There was always another girl hanging about and they got together. So back to a few walks and texts. I was also seeing someone.

Tonight he texts, normal stuff and it seed to escalate. He was saying he is in a long distance relationship and it’s a bit stressful. She always wanted something to happen, but it didn’t, till 6 weeks ago. She seems happy, he says it was a jump from being friends to partners and he is not too sure it’s worth it.

We ended up having a bit of a flirty chat. Him saying he wanted to suck my nipples and saying I couldn’t tempt him, even if I turned up in underwear. I did flirt back and say if he serious come round I like a challenge. What am I doing?

he has a girlfriend of 6 weeks, but our chemistry is so intense. He was suggesting then saying I couldn’t tempt him. I assume that’s flirty talk.

What am I doing? Do you think he is serious?

OP posts:
MeredithGreysScalpel · 28/11/2020 20:30

Oh do fuck off.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 28/11/2020 20:32

Stop being silly. He is in a relationship and not with you. It doesn't matter what his intention is, yours should be to shut him down.

DundeeDiva · 28/11/2020 20:37

He sounds delightful. Don't become "that girl". Send him on his way.

Dipi79 · 28/11/2020 20:37

Are you purposefully obtuse?

ghostyslovesheets · 28/11/2020 20:40

stop it now - you aren't going to get the answer you want!

pinkdragons · 28/11/2020 20:40

Ha. He didn't want to make it work with you in a relationship. Just wants sex on the side. Or at least a flirty ego boost.
Don't be his idiot.

emilyfrost · 28/11/2020 20:41

Why did you flirt back? Is that the sort of person you want to be? You should be embarrassed and asbestos.

SavoyCabbage · 28/11/2020 20:41

He sounds quite the catch.

BettysSpaghetti · 28/11/2020 20:42

Why do you think so little of yourself?

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 28/11/2020 20:43

He's in a relationship, he wants you to be a bit on the side.

He sounds awful and you don't sound much better

CuppaZa · 28/11/2020 20:46

Some women never quite realise when they’re being used Hmm

Pebbledashery · 28/11/2020 20:47

This thread isn't going to go the way you want it OP.

HollowTalk · 28/11/2020 20:47

He said you couldn't tempt him. End of story.

Oxyiz · 28/11/2020 20:48

Phwoar. How could you resist.

Newfornow · 28/11/2020 20:52

You are setting yourself up to be hurt. Don’t be a pratt.

Newuser991 · 28/11/2020 20:55

Him saying he wanted to suck my nipples

Dear me. How could you resist that intense chemistry

Pebbledashery · 28/11/2020 20:56

Lol @Newuser991

sofiaaaaaa · 28/11/2020 20:57

That’s not merely flirting. Straight sexting.

Michaelbaubles · 28/11/2020 20:57

He’s trying to get easy sex and you seem prepared to provide it, not much mystery there.

PoorMansPaulaRadcliffe · 28/11/2020 21:00

Ooooo! Sexy talk with the nipple stuff. Dig out your best Ann Summers polyester crotchless pants, a Colombo mac, and get round there.

Or - or - catch yourself on.!

1Morewineplease · 28/11/2020 21:12

Do you feel that you have any self respect?

Pumperthepumper · 28/11/2020 21:19

@emilyfrost

Why did you flirt back? Is that the sort of person you want to be? You should be embarrassed and asbestos.
I can’t sleep until I find out what ‘asbestos’ was supposed to be 😂😂
Strangedayindeed · 28/11/2020 21:23

I mean he sounds like a catch🙄... sigh op, I hope this is a joke.

PurpleFlower1983 · 28/11/2020 21:26

You sound like you deserve each other, what a catch he is! Hmm

Ginger1982 · 28/11/2020 21:28

Don't be a twat.