To eat the same portion size as him?

[AlexiaSox]

When I dish up for me and DP, I always give us the same amount of food. Same if we eat out, e.g we'll both order our own pizza and eat the whole thing (we both have pretty good appetites), and maybe share a salad.

The thing is, he is a tall guy, over 6ft, and I am much smaller...

Neither of us are overweight but I guess I am at the very top end of healthy weight.

So my question is, AIBU and should I generally eat a slightly smaller portion than him? I hate the idea of a 'dainty woman's portion' but is it just common sense?

What do you do?

I eat more than my husband because we are a similar height but I am much more active than he is.

If you think you are eating too much, cut down your portion size. Its nothing to do with how much he eats, its down to just eating an appropriate amount for you. I

I can eat DP under the table.

So can I. In fact I can eat most people under the table. Doesn't mean I should.

His mother however insists on penis portions

The mind boggles!

We eat the same amount at main meals but he has more snacks. I put more effort into controlling my weight than he does (he is naturally skinny but eats loads) so the portions are the right size for me, and he supplements it with whatever else he fancies.

Eating out: you eat the portion that you are served. If you can't eat all of it then DP can finish it for you.

At home: serve up smaller portions and if either of you is hungry afterwards they could have seconds.

I couldn't eat portions as large as either of my long-term exes but I wouldn't serve up a tiny portion for myself and a large portion for them just because they are big men.
A sensibly sized portion for both with the option to go back for more is the best way to deal with this.

We have similarly sized dinners, but eat differently the rest of the day and have very different relationships to food.

My spouse is a big guy and usually has two 'dinner sized' meals and a couple snacks each day. He has more snacks on bad days as he tends to comfort eat. His snacks tend to be more chocolate bars and things.

I'm small and have a salad as main lunch, often in a salad wrap, with not much else plus maybe a small breakfast or snacks. My snacks are like pretzels or paprika peas.

Also, if we're having takeaway, I tend to get smaller ones. Some of his comfort foods are takeaway ones so he'll get like a large kebab while I'll get a chicken wrap or he'll get a couple mains from a chinese place, while I get soup and spring rolls.

My late Mum always gave my late Father much larger meal portions, then he would sometimes finish off leftovers from other plates, He was overweight, but rubbished the fact about being fat was dangerous, He later had a heart attack and died because of his weight problems.

We eat the same size meals for lunch and dinner but my dp eats a lot of snacks throughout the day and has breakfast which I don’t. The only time I really notice how much more he eats is on holiday when we are eating out and he wants to stop for food way more often than I need to.

My OH's portions are larger because I require less calories than him. I am 5'7" and 9 stone so I feel I'm eating the correct amount. Larger portions and I would become overweight.

So my question is, AIBU and should I generally eat a slightly smaller portion than him? I hate the idea of a 'dainty woman's portion' but is it just common sense?

What do you do?

Yabvvvvu. I eat until I'm full. Whether that is more or less than my DH is neither here nor there.

DH is 6’2 and works on his feet
I’m 5’8 and work in an office (before mat leave)

We are both slim, me slightly more so than him. I’d estimate my usual BMI around 21 and his no more than 23.

I’ve always plated our food up in a 60/40 kinda split although often end up giving him my left over chips/piece of pizza...etc
I’ve never thought about it really.
I need less than him and he has a bigger appetite than me. So it seems obvious.

I wonder if my growing up poor impacted this. There was often limited amounts (enough but not excess) so we would be given amounts based on our age/size/physical expenditure. Was just the way it was.

I also tend to pick out the ‘best’ bits of good (nicest bits of meat...etc) for DS before then feeding myself and DH.

DS is under 1 so doesn’t get a lot in terms of volume. So I always think he should get the nice stuff.

Not sure how common that is

@BigFatLiar

The feminist argument is that portions are designed for large men but not smaller women.

But she's the one dishing up the portion.

And shes also asking if she should be doing it the way she is....

This thread has made realise his much I hate the word "portion". Urgh.

Anyone else have this irrational feeling? It is such a pompous priggy tight arse kind of word.

🤣

I also detest "plate up". And "serving" as a noun. E.g. contains two servings.

Also "helpings " as in "second helpings". And worse still - "help" as a verb eg "can I help you to sprouts".

All these words make me squirm. I think I've got issues.

I think it's a deep seated antipathy to ask the rituals and vocabulary around dividing up food....

*all not ask

@Bumpsadaisie

I also detest "plate up". And "serving" as a noun. E.g. contains two servings.

Also "helpings " as in "second helpings". And worse still - "help" as a verb eg "can I help you to sprouts".

All these words make me squirm. I think I've got issues.

Oh God, so have I, in that case.

"Plate up" makes me want to be carried off in a straitjacket.

I sort of judge what people will eat and put that on their plate? I have always eaten less than the men in my life (unless I'm bingeing!), including my son since he was about 8.

I 'plate up' because that's how I was brought up - it's given to you on a plate, but then the leftovers are on the table if you want. Where I differ to how I was brought up is that you don't have to finish what's on your plate.

OP - if you want to lose weight, give yourself less. If you are happy as you are, carry on as you are.

the less thought we give to food the better IMO.

@1forAll74 That is sad. I'm sorry for your loss.
People don't believe it will catch up on them DP has symptoms of sleep apnea he's tall he can carry it we're delusional when it comes to a healthy weight it's a bit of an addiction with every feel good we over do it as humans.

I think a lot of people are confusing penis portions with the different portions sizes required for men and women of differing sizes.

It's healthy that we eat what we need, a lesson it's taken me many years to get to grips with, and I'm finally losing weight. I now go easy, for example, on the rice and pasta. DD and I get our rice/pasta/other carbs first, and then DS (aged 17) hoovers up the equivant of both our portions. And I fill up on plenty of veg.

But penis portions is all about men being given the best cuts of meat, being served first, getting the best of everything, and being served huge portions (more than they really need) and women/children being given tiny portions, often less than they need.

I eat more than my DH, but there again I do a very physical job and also dont manage to eat regularly because of said job, whereas he is the SAHP so he isn't quite as physical and also he can eat through the day. We also dish our own portions up and never really worry there womt be enough made as we havent quite managed to make small meals 🤔 but we do freeze the left overs.
I think portion size does vary on your lifestyle and appetite for what you need. If your not gaining weight then you are obviously burning off what you consume, also if you losing weight you an increase how much you eat (if you dont want/need to lose weight)

I think it's about how much you do in a day, on average I'd say I eat more than my partner as I have to snack a lot during the day and I am more active. I work in a restaurant as a waitress (usually pre-covid) on the nights, I am a student nurse so I am always on the go or at 37.5 hour a week placements or in university and the campus is huge, I walk the dog, and I am younger than him. So we pretty much eat the same size dinner (if we ever get to eat dinner together!), but I know I snack a lot more than him. He works in management and is mostly sedentary, but does play rugby (usually) 3 times a week. It balances out, I hadn't really thought of it much before this post though. I think my evening meal is probably a little smaller on the carb side than his, e.g he'll have about 10 new potatoes I'll have about 6, or he'll have more pasta, but I like more garlic bread etc. I cut back my carbs slightly since I am not waitressing, but on placement days I eat multiple snack bars, sandwiches and chocolate and then usually have something he's made when i come home too

My husband is 9" taller than me and has an active job. I have a desk job (but try and get my 10k steps a day plus do exercise 3x a week).

I tend to plate up the same portion (although DH sits next to 2yo DS who steals a lot of his food, so I give him extra of the bits DS will steal, like pasta), but then give him something 'extra' like garlic bread or naan bread or cheese on top. I eat soup and a salad for lunch, he has sandwiches and crisps, so it balances out.

Do what works for you. If you are happy with your weight, keep on serving the same portions.

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