Do you find this offensive?

[Besswess88]

Someone posted this in a group I am in, and I find it really offensive AIBU?!

I always find it strange when other people have to ask strangers if they should be offended!

You: should I be offended
Us : No, it’s just silly humour!
You: oh! I wasn’t sure! Thanks.....I won’t be offended then.

Not offensive but agree it’s very Benny Hill. Outdated humour.

I find it more puerile than offensive.

I'd probably make a mental judgement about the poster, of all the funny memes he/she could have posted, that was the one that got the green light.

It’s naff as anything but it’s not something to stress over.

I don’t find it offensive but I find the type of people who post things like that offensive. Simply because sharing it is so unnecessary.

What? Of course it's fucking offensive, it dates from a time when men felt they had the RIGHT to grope women! It's pure Trump, if you like. No better than 'you can grab them by the pussy'. And if OP has, as she says, been on the end of endless similar jokes of course she's fucking offended.
Time this kind of shit was seen as completely outdated and pathetic. Someone sharing it - non-ironically, without awareness of it's orgins - is offending.

It's meant to be slightly offensive and it is slightly offensive. I think that's what underpins it's (and alot of British) humour

I found this kind of art and humour to be pretty weird when I moved to the UK at 11 but look at it more with interest as an adult

YABU OP, the lady is wearing a really low cut top and ya know what - even though it's a joke she would likely get started at in real life if she looked like that and rightly so - It's not objectifying at all, if you don't like or want it you'll should cover up

And it works the same for men, if a buff man walked down the street with his top off people would stare - but how is any of this offensive?

Honestly, one day we are going to be banned from everything out of fear of it being offensive.

I suppose there are two separate issues -

• the cartoon itself - crappy sexist shite but also very much of its time, and hopefully most people can see it’s not appropriate and was never that funny.

• actually sending that to a woman with big boobs and expecting her to find it funny - crossing a line and I’d be pissed off.

Obviously in some contexts and between some friends who are into that kind of joke, or have an ongoing in-joke about their boobs, it might be fine but I understand op being offended.

Nope. Not my humour, but we all find different things funny. You don’t have to agree with or find everything you see funny/interesting, but neither can you censor stuff to fit in with your experience or dislikes.

Ooooooooer missus...etc

Well it's not funny but I'm definitely not offended by it. 🙄

It's more about the context in which your friend used it.

The card itself is a piece of history these days. I'm in my 60s and that was seaside postcard humour. Times have changed, of course, but the card itself needs to be seen through that lens.

If your friend used it in a context where it became offensive, that's another thing.

Men didn’t get off lightly either

@hellymissy

So women who get raped are asking for it are they?

I didn’t ask should I be offended, I asked do you find it offensive. It’s totally different.

If your friend used it in a context where it became offensive, that's another thing.

This.
Was it aimed at you OP?

It was seen as crass and old fashioned in the 1970s, which I remember well. Happily we have moved on from this type of so called humour. Unhappily we have moved on into a world where sexual violence is normalised via porn, and gender roles are so rigidly defined that little girls with short hair who enjoy playing football are encouraged to think they are really boys.

@NoPainNoTartine

Look no further than this forum to find people being offended by absolutely anything and everything, so you are just following the fashion.

Unless it's a caricature of some work colleagues against their will, then no, it's not offensive. Why would it be.

Not just this forum.

@Besswess88 how pathetic!! Why do MN always do this? WHEN did I say women deserve to get raped for dressing provocatively? You are being ridiculous.

I said if you wear hardly any clothes, it is going to attract attention. That is the REAL WORLD we live in ffs.

And what is wrong with that? If I want attention why is that a bad thing? To wear less clothes to get attention?

No I'm not offended. I'm more offended by people who take offense in everything they see.

He is not my friend.

He posted it in a large community group.

It was seen as crass and old fashioned in the 1970s

Definitely.

Bernard Manning humour 🤮

He is not my friend.

He posted it in a large community group.

Then he’s just a prat. I wouldn’t feel offended. He obviously hasn’t a clue.

@hellymissy

I have large boobs, unless I wear baggy high necked clothing they get stared at and commented on (less comments these days).

If I wear a vest or a T-shirt they are “on display” I don’t want comments on my boobs because I am also blonde and I have been spoken to like I am thick as shit because of that. It’s not ok.

Yeah I'm not keen either. I think I get where you're coming from, when you've been on the receiving end of this sort of nonsense and groped, stared at, called a slag or ditzy 'you're at Uni? I thought you were thick because you've got big tits!' it's easier to find it offensive and not just a bit silly. Also not keen on the ones of men but your friend didn't send one of those did he?