AIBU to want to tell my sister to change baby’s name?

[Eleanora8]

My nephew is due this week and my sis really wants to name him Atlas! Me, my parents and her friends all dislike it and my Mum has made her feelings clear and joked she hopes he never gets lost with a name like Atlas...
My sis got upset but I wanted to tell her I hated the name too but felt bad.
Should I speak up (vote yes) or keep quiet (vote no)?

Yabu. Hopefully your sister has learnt her lesson and won't mention names to anyone with her next child.

Of course you shouldn't say anything. It's her baby and none of your business!

I've seen this play out lots of times amongst friends and family who choose an unusual name. You will (hopefully) adore Atlas and his/her name. Expressing any unwanted opinion will just cause upset for the parents.

Poor kid will have the world on his shoulders

It's a horrible name but it's really none of your business.

@garlictwist

Poor kid will have the world on his shoulders

Actually I really like it. She could have done a lot worse in trying to pick a different name. At least she’s gone classical!

*Unusual! That’s the word I was looking for. I knew ’different’ wasn’t quite right.

Suck it up buttercup
Not your baby = Not your decision

None of your business. Hopefully she'll see this one and realise what a delightful bunch you all are. Oh wait. No. Let's hope she never knows how you all discuss her choices in vicious terms and public forums having a laugh behind her back. Poor woman.

I love it but then again I think a lot of the most popular names are horrid.

Don’t say anything to your Dsis. DD has a very unusual name. When we told family our choice they universally said they didn’t like it. We stuck to our guns and it suits DD perfectly. She gets told all of the time how beautiful and unusual her name it.

Funnily enough when DB and SIL named their DD after a car a year later it was all gushing and fawning over it

What has it got to do with you? Why would you think you get a say in the naming of someone elses baby?

Atlas is a lovely name.

No no no! This is not your baby so not your call! It baffles me that other people think they have the right to demand what they want when the child isn't theirs. Your are firmly in CF territory here.

Leave her alone and encourage the rest of your family to do the same.

Nope nothing to do with you! Not your baby, it's not the worst name I've heard of. If the child wanted to change his name at 18 then they can do that.

I’ve heard a lot worse.
10 years ago (less probably tbf), I’d have thought Arlo was ridiculous, but now know 3 under 6 with that name.
Leave her be.
(just be pleased it’s not Jaxon).

Assuming this isn't a wind up, you all need to back off or you may find your sister decides she doesn't need this much negativity in her life and goes low contact. At least then you won't be burdened with having to see or hear about Atlas and your sister won't have to put up with rude and inconsiderate relatives.

She grew a baby and birthed it. She gets to pick his name FFS.

Side note, this is why you should never tell people a baby’s name in advance. Much harder for someone to be this much of a dick about it once he’s actually born and been introduced as a name.

I prefer Apollo myself but it is her choice.

It's amazing how many mothers on here are happy to give a child a name that will likely cause them a life of grief, especially through high school that may lead to tragic consequences because of bullying, all because they demand that because they grew the baby, they are allowed to call it whatever ridiculous name pops into their heads. Yeah you can, but are you equally happy potentially condemning that child to a life of misery? Getting bullied at school over something stupid like a name? Imagine if he is overweight, as someone said he will be called fatlas. That's gonna help his self esteem tons I'm sure. And that's just the beginning. Some kids aren't bothered by teasing, most are, even if they hide it.

Yeah celebrities call their kids ridiculous names, but they all tend to send their kids to private schools, where they are joined by fellow kids with odd names. It's normal there. And they probably still get bullied, even just for who their parents are.

I'd rather give them a normal name and at least not be the one condemning them to a life of bullying based on that. Kids bully, they tease, they are cruel. I'd be telling the sister the point of that side to be honest. Least then she has the full picture, she might not have thought of that side.

When we were expecting our youngest we told people our choice of names depending on if we had a boy or girl (we didn't find out).

We got really shouted down and made to feel terrible about the boy name we chose. Someone even went as far as to say it was "a black kids name" it wasn't anything out there either.

I was pleased we had a girl as I had so fallen out of love with the boy name after the criticism we had.

So yes, you are being very unreasonable to comment negatively on someone's baby name

You and your mum need to back off. This is not your baby

The phrase 'That's interesting' usually covers situations like this!

Putting aside the fact that she is your sister and you should be supporting her during this time not bitching with your parents isn’t it just common fb good manners not to comment negatively on someone’s choice of baby name? Plenty of my friends have named their children’s things I wouldn’t - I never say ‘omg what a hideous name’ it would just be rude

YABU.
Not sure how that fits with your voting options.
Her baby her (and dp if she has one) choice.

well, I would care about my nephew if my sister wanted to call him Adolf or Xyzzyboo. You’re condemning the kid to a life of misery.

It would still be nothing whatsoever to do with you. I don't live in the UK but there are some very weird and wonderful names here, with the most unusual of spellings, and I've yet to hear of any child being "condemned to a life of misery" because of them.

You’ll get used to it, then it will suit him, and you’ll find yourself telling people “I suppose it is a bit odd but I can’t imagine him as anything else now”.