AIBU to want to tell my sister to change baby’s name?

[Eleanora8]

My nephew is due this week and my sis really wants to name him Atlas! Me, my parents and her friends all dislike it and my Mum has made her feelings clear and joked she hopes he never gets lost with a name like Atlas...
My sis got upset but I wanted to tell her I hated the name too but felt bad.
Should I speak up (vote yes) or keep quiet (vote no)?

@eaglejulesk well, I would care about my nephew if my sister wanted to call him Adolf or Xyzzyboo. You’re condemning the kid to a life of misery.
Not everyone should be a Tom, Archie or Bob but you should know where to stop. Unless, of course you’re Elon Musk so I suppose you can name your kids Transistor ΦΨ22/!5b if you fancy because most likely, he won’t need a job at a bank.

I know an atlas. Very handsome big man. The name fits him.
It might be unusual and not to your liking, but its not your baby.

depending on your bond with your sis you can either say it or keep your mouth shut. She could have also named her kid. Oliver or archie or some other way overused name. Id prefer something stand out (yet not along the lines of birdyblue as pp mentioned 😂)

It is nothing to do with you.

You don't get to name other people's children.

Why is it any of your concern? Or your mum's?

Your sister has chosen a name for HER baby. You and your mum are horrible. Why don't you try being a little bit supportive instead?

Oh, and your family sound really unpleasant. Why are you all sitting around slagging off your sister's choice of baby name?

Wow your mum is really rude. No of course not it's none of your business if you like the name or not. Baby names are a very personal thing, also

Posted to soon! Babies usually fit their names once you all meet a cute baby Atlas it will just suit him and this will be forgotten. But being rude to your pregnant sister won't be so please keep quiet it will upset your sister.

Her kid, her right to give it its name. It can change it when it get older if its not happy. Respect your sisters wishes.

It makes me think of Charles Atlas but I’ve always been a fan of Rocky Horror.

I'm not a fan of unusual names but I like it.

Not your baby, not your choice. Don't say anything.
This is precisely why we didn't tell anyone DS name until he was born.

Oh dear, you're overstepping I'm afraid. There's othing majorly wrong with the name, I don't understand why you think it's your place to criticise?

I really dislike the name and it's so "out there" imo I'd probably have to say something. After all, there's a child who has to go by this name for the rest of its life... hope they live somewhere with enough batshit parents that there are lots of kids with weird names so the poor child doesnt stand out at school.

I wouldn't usually comment. For instance, I wouldn't have dreamed of saying anything when friends named their children Hector and Tallulah, neither of which I'm keen on. Some names are simply a matter of taste and we live in an area where those names are well within the spectrum of normal so won't make the children targets for teasing.

This is your sister though and your nephew. If asked, I would gently say something...he might be grateful later on when he's at school! Maybe Atlas could be the middle name?

You sound awful. Why are you all talking about it behind her back?

As long as she keeps the spelling the traditional way then there is no problem. It's when 'regular' names get their spelling altered that problems arise. Such as the Rhyen I recently came across. Atlas is perfectly acceptable.

I was that person who's family kept commenting on the baby name when I was expecting.

"Oh, you're not going to really call him that are you?" Et, etc.

We loved the name (which is a real name although uncommon) and I was confident and ignored them.

However, after baby was born I then got PND and lost all confidence and these comments made me really doubt myself. I spent about a year calling ds "the baby" rather than his real name because I was embarrassed by his name.

So really, if your sister loves the name, let her have it.

If she asks you’re opinion then you could be honest then. If you can’t be honest with family then there is a problem.

My mum didn’t like our chosen name for our son, we called him it anyway as we loved it and gradually she fell in love with it and told us she couldn’t imagine him being called anything else. I’m glad she was honest but there was no way we were changing it.

It's not your business. Shes also emotionally vulnerable right now. Don't be that person. Doesn't matter what you think of it, it's their choice

If it were my sister I would gently tell her, imagine starting school and everyone calling you Map. And they will.

I've been in your position and unfortunately, saying something never ends well.
My sil told us nephews name before he was born. It's the chaviest name I've ever heard and is named directly after his father who was horrendously abusive to sil, although we didn't know that at the time.
Now, nephew is just his name, but we all voiced our opinion, some more tactfully than others, and it fell on deaf ears and caused arguments. Just stay out of it. You'll love the child so much they'll just become their name.

You’ll get slated here but I don’t think you’re awful at all. The child has to live with the name.

As someone with an ugly unusual name I wish dearly someone had intervened. I am 30 and still resent the fact they chose to lumber me with this. Nobody ever thinks about the child saddled with the stupid name just the parents right to make the choice.

@Banoffeepies. My sympathy - this is why I'd speak up.

Lots of teachers in the wider family here, and some of the comments that have been made when the new pupils' lists are sent round.... People do pre-judge based on names, unfortunately.

I mean.... it’s a pretty terrible name. But It’s her choice whether or not she inflicts it on her son.

@StillMedusa I love the name Isambard but probably for a horse or a large dog.
It's a lot to live up to.

It’s just a name. It’s not an outrageous name, a stupid sounding name or a difficult to pronounce and spell name. It’s fine. You might not choose it but there’s nothing wrong with it. Why are you so bothered about it?