AIBU to want to tell my sister to change baby’s name?

[Eleanora8]

My nephew is due this week and my sis really wants to name him Atlas! Me, my parents and her friends all dislike it and my Mum has made her feelings clear and joked she hopes he never gets lost with a name like Atlas...
My sis got upset but I wanted to tell her I hated the name too but felt bad.
Should I speak up (vote yes) or keep quiet (vote no)?

Do people read?!

I do. I also think Zeus, Tartarus and Cerberus are awful names.

I've heard worse. Usually on MN.

The idea that you are all bitching about this is awful. You sound like horrible people tbh.

What a horribly mean family.
It's your sister's baby, her choice. You/your family don't have to like the name but it's none of their business to tell her what she can or can't call her own bloody child. Anyway, 'different' names are nice.

I called my own children unusual names, I'm sure my family weren't impressed but my children loved their names. And my family didn't dare say anything, they'd have been told to keep well out of it if they had!

I like Atlas. But I like a lot of names from myths and ancient history.

But no, OP shouldn't say anything to her sister. Her baby, her choice.

AYBU -Yes. Not your baby. Not your choice. You can have any opinion you want, but you have no say in the matter. Your opinion is as valid as the postman's.

My "D"M told me she didn't like DDs name, as she was holding her for the first time. It hasn't endeared to me if that's what you were hoping for.

It's a strong name.

Hopefully he'll be a big fucker that can carry it off.

The idea that you are all bitching about this is awful. You sound like horrible people tbh.

Agree. All these people going out of their way to make her feel bad over a baby name.

I’d also like to point out most of the kids his age and teenagers today would probably not know what an atlas is.

He'll have the weight of the world on his shoulders with a name like that

I was in this exact position. I was much younger than I am now, not that that is much of an excuse. My sister told me the name she was thinking of, and I said it was awful. She cried. I had said it because I thought it was my duty as a sister to let her know what people in general would think of it, but clearly that was not my role at all. I still feel really bad about it even though it was 20 years ago, and she didn’t use the name then (baby turned out different sex) or ever. I still think it was a dreadful name but I should not have said so, and also I was wrong that it would have had an impact on the child as in the following 20 years that style, of name has become increasingly common so they would not have stood out.

I just voted the wrong way by mistake. Say nothing!!

YANBU. This is not just about the mum, but about the poor baby who has to grow up with that name. Life is hard enough ffs. You don't have the right to cause another human suffering just because you birthed it. Say something, hopefully if more than one person says sth it will put her off.

And another example of this, my BF really wanted a name for her DS before he arrived, her family made fun of the name and she changed it.

She still wishes she'd kept the name and resents the family involvement now.

No good will come of telling her that you don't like it I promise you.

Tell her not to forget to give him a middlename. I don't dislike it actually.

I really like the name Atlas, and think highly of someone with the confidence to go for it!

I read a lot worse on here, frankly.

Tell her. It is a horrific name. X

I suppose it depends on whether you want a respectful relationship with your sister or not. If you're happy to treat each other poorly and not bother to take the time to reflect on your own feelings (and in this case realise that a significant proportion of people will not like whichever name you 'tell' her to use instead) then go ahead. Don't be surprised if she treats you badly too though.

Not your baby, not your business.

@WanderingMilly

What a horribly mean family. It's your sister's baby, her choice. You/your family don't have to like the name but it's none of their business to tell her what she can or can't call her own bloody child. Anyway, 'different' names are nice.

I called my own children unusual names, I'm sure my family weren't impressed but my children loved their names. And my family didn't dare say anything, they'd have been told to keep well out of it if they had!

Yeah but I bet none of your kids are names Atlas! I also love unusual names but that is awful..

This is why people should never tell anyone what names they are considering before the baby is born. . And I’m not sure why they do, is it because they DO want an opinion? Or are they just too excited about the baby to wait?

If you think she has her heart set on it I’d be a bit mild in showing that you’re not keen. Her baby her choice.

@HardlyEver

At least it’s a change from the eternal George, Jack and Harry.

This is funny!

Your sister is actually choosing a very trendy name with Atlas.There were 100 boys called Atlas last year and it is rising incredibly sharply. Mythological names are such a popular choice at the moment, so depending on area, Atlas might fit right in with his peers. Names have never been more diverse than they are at the moment, so names that would have stood out in a classroom 30 years ago, will be far less remarkable now.

I actually think it’s ok. Alright, he met a miserable end as a mythological character but that doesn’t seem to be the issue everyone has with it. Most characters from Greek myth come off badly but that doesn’t stop people using the names, surely?

Not your baby, so not up to you to decide his name.

Your mum has already voiced her feelings, so no more will be gained by saying anything more.

Respect your sisters choices.