Doing this to a child is wrong

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BBC report : His said his 14-year-old daughter had not left her bedroom for four days, with meals being left outside her door, until the family learned the result was void on Thursday

This is so wrong to do to a child

@Timshortforthalia I'll save that one for another enforced day at home when there's nothing on the telly

No shit!? Given that I've only left the house half a dozen times since March I can confirm that on that particular point you are absolutely right grin

Are you being held against your will?

Probably just stay in my bedroom, eat snacks and watch telly
Hope you have some nice sheets. And no rug😂

@flaviaritt

No shit!? Given that I've only left the house half a dozen times since March I can confirm that on that particular point you are absolutely right grin

Are you being held against your will?

We're all being held on this thread against our will.

My 16 year old volunteered to do this when he had symptoms as we are staying with my 82 year old mum & I suffer from several autoimmune conditions. He didn't suffer, he had all his meals sent up via the stairlift, crisps, chocolate & snacks whenever he wanted, Xbox, television & music, books & magazines delivered from Amazon. To be honest it is what he does most weekends,he said it was like a holiday at home.

Yeah Boris says I have to stay home.

Now kids are having to stay in their rooms permanently.

Try reading that again.

Boris says I have to stay home.

Did he deliver this message to you personally? Because the rest of us are actually allowed out, you know.

@nokidshere

Yeah Boris says I have to stay home.

I love home and I yet i hate Boris. So many confusing feelings.

@flaviaritt

Why is this situation any different?

That’s like saying that because the government can compel you to complete your tax return, it’s fine for them to hold you in arbitrary detention. It’s not. Loss of liberty is a serious thing. If you can’t see why compelling a child to remain in their room for a week isn’t the same as docking their pocket money if they don’t tidy their room, I can’t help you see it. It’s just something that is obvious to most people.

But it isn't.

'Hey dc, you & your manky horrible corona are confined to barracks, so you get my nice room with the en-suite & meals delivered thrice daily, yes, here's your tech stuff' is not going to create upset in my house because I've got sensible teenagers & they get it.

I might have to ask ds not to pee off the balcony as he regularly does it off his balcony, to be fair.

CorvusPurpureus

Being fed and having a toilet doesn’t mean you haven’t been deprived of your freedom, and doesn’t make that deprivation okay.

Hope you have some nice sheets. And no rug😂

I'm quite sad I don't have a rug 😔

Actually no, I stay home because I was taught respect,empathy and responsibility by my otherwise very shit parents and the care system.

Did he deliver this message to you personally? Because the rest of us are actually allowed out, you know.

He did I got an email from him. It said You Must stay home. So I stay home unless it's absolutely unavoidable because I do not want to catch, or transmit anything to other people in my house. They can't stay home so they follow MY rules of showering immediately they arrive and changing their clothes and staying away from me as much as possible, and, if they felt ill they would be confined to their rooms or kicked out.

Full circle I think.

I have a lovely Laura ashley flatweave going spare if you fancy a borrow?

Actually no, I stay home because I was taught respect,empathy and responsibility by my otherwise very shit parents and the care system.

So you are no more a prisoner than I am. And much less a prisoner than a child confined to their room by a parent.

I have a lovely Laura ashley flatweave going spare if you fancy a borrow?

Not that I'm ungrateful but what colour is it? I'm very fussy about my colours.

Since we are kerping on the house stuff.
Brand alley. Yay or scam?

Oh, & they've been wearing masks for 9 months now. The rest of the world is taking CV seriously.

I got a Word Being Had last week because I happened to be teaching 10 teenagers Eng Lit in an enormous science lab (bubbles being a proper thing in the rest of the world) & had removed mine for a few seconds to discuss the etymology of A Jolly Rude Word whilst at least 5 yards from any student.

& that was fair enough, because everyone wearing masks all the time is entirely sensible as a stand point.

@ILoveYou3000

I have a lovely Laura ashley flatweave going spare if you fancy a borrow?

Not that I'm ungrateful but what colour is it? I'm very fussy about my colours.

Neutral earthy kind of tones.

Though that might just he dirt.

because everyone wearing masks all the time is entirely sensible as a stand point.

It’s a lunatic standpoint.

I thought brand alley was for make up??

@flaviaritt

CorvusPurpureus

Being fed and having a toilet doesn’t mean you haven’t been deprived of your freedom, and doesn’t make that deprivation okay.

I'm quite a fan of setting clear rules, though.

I've got 3 teenagers & have taught thousands of the buggers.
You explain the rules, you discuss them, you talk about the consequences of not going along with them, & then, well, you just all suck it up.

You really don't half infantilise young adults! They aren't generally idiots.

CorvusPurpureus

In what way am I infantilising them?

@Timshortforthalia

I thought brand alley was for make up??

It looks liek they are for EVERYTHING. Mixed reviews online though

I suspect because of limited experience.

Most parents or teachers of 14yo girls are pretty good at setting & explaining expectations.

Which, of course, don't always work infallibly, but telling a teenage girl she's in her room for a few days because y'know, pandemic, isn't unreasonable or unmanageable for most of them.