In asking did your parents go away without you when you were little?

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I often read on here about parents having holidays or nights away without their kids and a lot about separated parents doing this which I guess is more understandable. My parents never did this when I was a child 35 years ago is it a more recent thing?

My real parents took a permanent vacation when I was 2🙈
My nice parents still took some But we were well looked after by grandparents.

I take a 2 week holiday every year wirh our the kids and 1 2 week holiday with them and then another 1 week camping trip with them.

Yes

Im mid 30s. My parents went to Hawaii for 2 weeks when i was 2 months old
They got married when my mum was pregnant and pushed the honeymoon to after the birth.
I stayed with my grandparents. They also went on date nights quite often.
I have an amazing bond with my grandma and see her several times a week. Its always been like that.
I love this and we are doing the same now with our kids. Its wonderful to have such a strong connection with someone other than your parents.

My parents had the occasional night away and we had a babysitter every Friday night. My grandparents didn't have us for 2/3 nights or weeks. However, both of our parents have our girls for at least 1 night a month, sometimes more. We are having our first week away (8days) in March and will be split 4 nights at each grandparents house. DDs will be 3.5 and almost 2. They are both grandparents 2 times a week, once in the week for childcare and usually come over to take them out or see them at the weekend. We are VERY lucky and I will 100% do the same with our children!

I'm 33 and my parents went away without us a couple of times a year - dad travelled a lot for work and mum would go join him and they'd have a few days of holiday. Sometimes my grandparents would take us away on holiday at the same time, sometimes we'd just go to stay at their house.

DH and I were supposed to have our first weekend away without DS what turned out to be the first weekend of the first lockdown in March - I was so very disappointed... We still haven't managed to do it and now I don't think we'll get a chance to go before DC2 is born in Feb!

My parents didn't go away alone whilst either me or DS were under 18. Not sure about DB as he is much younger so they may have done. However I went away without them (with Grandparents and other family). They also played sport and may have gone away individually for this and they certainly had a busy social life, meaning we often slept over at our grandparents.

My DC are now also adults, DH and I only did 1 proper week's holiday without them, the rest of the time we took them too. I think this is more because as both of us worked and the only time I took off was for holidays it would have been unfair to exclude them. We have done the odd weekend and childfree weddings though.

My parents did this to me once, I was outraged and made my poor aunties life hell for a week 🤣
With my own DC very rarely but have done a couple of nights here and there

I'm 40 and my parents did it. I dont know if they went away anywhere or just had a break. We stayed with my grandparents and absolutely loved it, some of my best childhood memories were visiting them on our own.

Mid 30s - and not at all. I only remember once spending any time away from my parents - an elderly relative took me away for the weekend. was a clingy kid and I felt anxious the whole time. I remember repeatedly trying to work out how many hours, meals etc it would be until I could go back home. Our DC are 4 and 2, and while we haven't left them yet, we certainly intend to at some point

On, I need to mention that even though the parents had some holidays without us, we used to go on holidays as a family every year, there was at least one "big family holiday", usually at the seaside for 2 weeks during the summer, and maybe a couple of shorter trips as well during the year. We also went on holidays without them, either on camps organized by the school for a week or two at a time, or spending a couple of weeks at the grandparents house (different town when I was a small child) or to the house of another relative in the countryside.

Yep, often.
We also did trips together though

43 here and I was often sent back to my Grandmother in the UK by myself whilst my parents went on holiday/had "quality" time together.

My parents didn’t. They didn’t really have much money though. They also didn’t really get on very well so probably didn’t want to. I don’t think many of my friends parents did either.

Our kids are 17 and 12 now and we’ve never left them to go on holiday or have a night away. We’ve never wanted to leave them despite some family members offering to have them. I know lots of people that do it now though. The kids have had sleepovers at friends and families houses but we’ve just been at home.

My dm worked so parents didn't go away but I spent many school holidays with my gran. Much nicer than home.
We had odd weekends away and my dp's have looked after my dc.
We have a dgs now who spends most of the summer holidays with us. His dp's are working.
We've had dgs for weekends when his parents have gone away.
He seems happy.

I'm in my 50s and yes my parents had a few weekends away and we stayed at my GPs. My dad travelled a lot with work so mum used to meet up for him from time to time when he was in a European city.

No, but she was a single parent. We always went to Butlins and me and my brother would go off by ourselves all day, so I suppose she almost got a holiday alone!

No mine never did this.

We have managed 24 hours away on our own without the DC in a hotel less than a handful of times ones was a small wedding and no DC invited. DC were looked after by IL’s and godmother. Because my parents didn’t do this they don’t see why we or anyone else should or would so they wouldn't dream of facilitating it.

I don't remember them ever having holidays without us until they went away for my mums 40/their 21st wedding anniversary (I was 19, brother 17, so not young by any stretch) . However I remember them having weekends away and me and my brother staying with my grandparents when I was younger, then when I was about 14 they'd leave us home alone.

I remember being left with my Nan while my parents went on holiday at 2 years old. After then I always went with them.

I can only remember them doing it once and if I recall it was a long weekend in London for their honeymoon!

I did stay overnight at grandparents if they were going to a party or event and I used to stay at my grandparents for up to a week at a time during school holidays, but this was at my request while my parents were at work

They never had "holidays" without me.

We are very similar with DS, only odd nights if we have specific plans/attending weddings/nights out in a city so staying over.

I would go on holiday without DS but DH won't

My parents didn't go away on holiday without me until I was 20 (and then it was my choice not to go with them, the option was there).

They didn't even go for nights away without us. They'd occasionally go out for the evening and my grandparents would babysit, but the vast majority of the time we did everything as a family and went on holiday together. We had a caravan and those holidays were some of the happiest times of my life.

Never. And I wouldn’t do either. I think it’s pretty shitty 🤷🏻‍♀️

No, never. In fact they hardly ever even went out for the evening on their own.

My mother comes from the South of France and she would go home at a drop of a hat. We'd get up for breakfast on a saturday morning and she simply wasn't there. My father worked in the city and travelled the world so I remember spending an entire summer on my grandparents farm in Dorset. When my parents split-up I spent a brief time in Provence before moving back to Dorset full time at the age of 14.

I posted earlier about my parents going to Spain every year for two weeks.
I forgot to add I used to love them going away and staying either at my nana's or my nan and grandad's. They used to come back with loads of presents for us and I loved having loads of Spanish sweets. That was always a good treat!
We had family holidays as well so no one lost out.