In asking did your parents go away without you when you were little?

[Stantons]

I often read on here about parents having holidays or nights away without their kids and a lot about separated parents doing this which I guess is more understandable. My parents never did this when I was a child 35 years ago is it a more recent thing?

Yes, often.
My parents went away skiing and left me with my grandparents when I was 2years old, with chicken pox too.

I’m very close with my grandparents so I enjoyed it.
I often went away with my grandparents without my parents too.

I'm in my 60s and yes, my parents occasionally did this. We went to stay with our grandparents and had a lovely time being spoilt!

Not sure @Stantons why you would think this is a recent thing?

Mine did. I'm 41. They went skiing for a week when Dbro was 9 months and I was 2. I went to my grandparents and Dbro went to our Auntie and Uncle. They also had a few other skiing holidays without us (not every year though I think) till they started taking us along when we were 9 and 7. I remember hating it when they left us though!

A patient left my dad a small legacy when we were young and my parents went to Paris for a week. I was very pleased to think they were still so much in love that they wanted a romantic break for just the two of them. It made me feel very safe.

My parents didn't really like each other and divorced when I was 8, so no, they never went away on a holiday but I think that's because living together in the same house was bad enough. They didn't want to go away and spend exclusive time alone together as it would have been hell ish. My mum definitely did go away for work though and occasionally to visit friends. I stayed with grandparents or eventually home alone.

No, but I think they would have if they could have afforded it at the time. My dad went on a couple of rugby tours with his team but partners weren't invited.

They definitely went when we were teenagers.

Yes...I'm 36 and mine went away at least once a year for a few nights! I do the same normally.

No, never. My grandparents had us on New Years Eve, I assume so my parents could go out. But other than that, we used to go to my GPs in school holidays so they could work, not go on holiday (unless they had secret holidays I don't know about! I doubt it though!)

Late twenties, they did when we were very young yes

Mine did. I'm 43.

Wow didn't expect this many replies, fairly mixed bag and not a new thing

Never on holiday with us together. My DF had to go away very occasionally on business trips, but we went along and stayed at the hotel on one of these.

My DM went away with a friend for one night to a “health farm” (remember them??) with a friend once, and to the Lakes with a friend for a couple of days break on another occasion. It was very rare, and DF stayed with us then anyway.

Much as I’d like the odd break here and there from DS, I don’t think I could ever go away from him for more than a night, and I doubt DH would holiday away from him.

I know a couple who used to go on holiday for a week when their DD was little (the DD would stay with grandparents). It broke my heart when they said she asked one time if they’d promise to come back and get her - I could never do that to DS.

*without us it should have said!

Mine did. They were not British/living in Britain, so this was not something only common in UK. I remember them going on trips abroad in the '80s (at least 3 ) and at least on a couple of other trips and a few long weekends. My GPs were staying with us, or we were going to their house for a week or two.

Not often, but a few times yes. We had a lovely time with our grandparents and weren't bothered in the slightest. Dh and I have done this too, but only a couple of times. Definitely not a new thing.

Mine didn't.
My husband's aunt and uncle often went away and left their children with grandparents
Not something i would do, yes my holidays are a bit different now i have my daughter, but it just wouldn't feel right without her, plus thankfully she's a very good traveller

I'm mid 30s and my parents did. Not huge holidays, but short city breaks in Europe that probably wouldn't have been much fun for a young child, or with a young child!

I went to stay with grandparents, or my grandparents would take me on holiday somewhere in the UK.

We did live at the opposite end of the county to
my grandparents though, so I didn't see them that often, and it's not like they were always providing childcare.

Mine did. I went to stay with the woman who came in and did the cleaning.

I've never done it myself.

I remember the odd weekend/night away but no holidays as such.

Amongst my friends this is done a lot. Full on weeks away and trips abroad. I would do a night in a hotel but I honestly don’t think I’d enjoy a holiday without my DC. I would miss them too much to have fun. I do find it a bit strange that people choose to holiday without their children. Each to their own though. I do find it funny that some of these independent holiday parents are the ones who are keen to lecture me about working full time.

My DM and DSD did .I loved staying with my DGM though (only child and Grandchild so thoroughly spoilt!) Went out for days to St Alberns,and surrounding countryside .Trips to The Cherry Tree on Saturday evenings as well .A lovely little pub with a duck pond in I think Totteridge maybe ?

Never. I'm 46.

We had some sleepovers at grandparents when they went out but that was all.

Mid forties and my parents did this. My DM used to go skiing every yr with mates and on other exotic trips and a nanny would move in for up to a few weeks to mind me and my 4 siblings (DF useless and always working)....my parents weren’t rolling in it, just reasonably comfortable. I hated these trips....missed my mum desperately and the ‘nannies’ who looked after us were generally some friend of a friend who needed the money....

Yes - they would drop us at grandparents and head off for a few days by themselves. - I'm mid 40s

Me and DH have gone away quite a lot - very lucky that his parents were keen babysitters when ours were young. Kids had a lovely time with them and we enjoyed our little breaks. My DM was extremely disapproving about this though!

I remember 1 night away at a cousins one at my grandmas and I stayed with neighbours when my grandfather died, but no to holidays without us. There wasn't really anyone to have us