AIBU to buy ( well sort of ) DD 7 a 100.00 necklace ?

[Whattheactual20201]

So DD 7 is absolutely desperate for this necklace from a local jewellery shop ( she saw it when I was looking for something else ) I ignored it and carried in thinking she would forget about it BUT She didn’t she has consistently asked for it.
“Mummy I will be careful, I will look after it “ 🤣
Anyway I have finished her xmas shop etc and I didn’t buy her it.
I however been given money from both sets of grandparents For both DC to get them something which comes to 150.00.
Do I buy her it despite the fact I think it’s ridiculous for a necklace for a 7 year old but the one thing she really wants ?

Buy it.

Imagine her face Christmas morning!

I had some lovely silver harry potter themed jewelry as a child, various different gifts from around the age of 11 so a bit older than you DD. I don't wear it anymore but I did wear a lot of themed jewelry until I was about 20 so got my wear of it. I also still have most of it as keep sakes in my jewelry box. Provided you get her to understand it is expensive and not for everyday use until she is older I would buy it. I may not be into wearing a deathly hallows round my neck anymore but I still treasure that jewelry as it reminds me of the friends and family who bought it. (also hopping to someday have an equally harry potter obsessed daughter to pass it down to)

I would get it for her, especially due to your DF's condition. If the chain is quite fine, the jeweller can probably put a stronger chain on it for you. My advice is when you have bought it take really good photos of it, then should anything happen to it, a jeweller can make you a new copy of it

This. A lovely reminder of Grandad.

Don’t buy something similar and/or cheaper. Buy what she’s asked for, or don’t buy anything. I think it’s so lovely for her to know that you listened to her, and she got the thing that she’s so desperate for. She’ll remember that forever

@MoiraRoseismyStyleIcon

MNetter are great detectives and might be able to find a cheaper copy

Could someone please recommend a necklace with an initial on it for my teen DD.

OP - I'd buy it but wouldn't put too much emphasis on it being "special". Jewellery is for wearing not keeping in a box. Also if she were to lose it, it wouldn't be fair for her to feel guilty.

Clogau do a lovely initial necklace

Hey @Whattheactual20201 if it makes you feel any better, when I was 6 I was desperate for an over priced commercial necklace. My nan bought it for me just before she passed away, I'm now 30 and although it isn't to my taste now and I wouldn't buy it in a million moons. I've worn that necklace to every exam I've ever done, whenever I've felt anxious and needed a bit of my Nan close by, and I'm currently thinking of a way that I can include it in my wedding. Maybe I'm just overly sentimental but I would 100% do it! Sorry to hear about your Dad

My vote is to go for the P one. My DD would have LOVED that but have to admit that I wouldn't have bought it for her back when she was 8 but I could/should have as she would have looked after it beautifully. I think she would wear that now at almost 17, especially if she had been given it from her GPs when she was younger.

Do it and make her day :-)

@NataliaOsipova 🤣🤣
Honestly I never bought it ( was within our Xmas budget ) because I was like no way in a necklace for a 7 year and thought she would just forget about it haha
You are right though I did spent more than 80.00 on toys that she will also grow out of so in that perspective it’s not that different I suppose as those toys were from America and what she asked from Santa 🤣🤷‍♀️

@Whattheactual20201

She defo won’t be grown out of Disney by 8 she has only just for to an age where she likes watching the movies thankfully for me she is a youngish 7 year old. Still very much in to all things girlie and not anywhere near things like river island etc Thank you I will have a think and see if there is anything similar cheaper.

Don’t. Just get the one she’s asked for. Getting something similar but not the same will just be a disappointment to her, however nice it is.

The money is there. It’s 20% off even! it’s a no brainer. Just get it already!

I don't like it, but probably would get it for £80. I have a 7yo dd too.

@MoiraRoseismyStyleIcon

Depends on budget but Merci Maman, think they'll have some Black Friday offers.

www.mercimamanboutique.com/en/personalised-message-necklace

It really is nice to be listened to and to get what you want sometimes as a small child (I never did 😂😂), so I would definitely get it for her.

Actually I’ve had another brain wave !
She has a little sister due very soon so there’s quite a fair age gap. So if she doesn’t want it in a few years we could pass it down and get some more years out of it !

Haha @NeedToKnow101 I’m still waiting for mr frosty 🤣

@Whattheactual20201

Just get it, £80 isn’t such a great amount that if it’s only worn for a few years it’s a waste. I’ve kept things from my childhood that mean a great deal to me but I would never wear now. It’s not always about the item itself it’s about how it made you feel and who gave it to you. As others have said don’t buy a cheaper version buy what she asked for she’ll be over the moon!

Sorry to hear about your Dad.

Op honestly stop deliberating and just get it!

www.etsy.com/uk/listing/893235800/disney-necklace-cinderella-pumpkin-coach?gpla=1&gao=1&&utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=shopping_uk_en_gb_b-jewelry-necklaces-pendants&utm_custom1=k_79749cdf70fd1845c971c363b04a3ddb_k&utm_content=bing_357843162_1298523435349155_81157756596424_pla-4584757332587031:pla-4584757332587031_t__893235800engb&utm_custom2=357843162&msclkid=79749cdf70fd1845c971c363b04a3ddb

Dunno how to do clicky link but as far as i can see this is exactly the same one but cheaper :)

I also wanted a Mr Frosty and was always disappointed I didn’t get one! Even though I know they are crap 🤣

Get the necklace OP. My 36yo best friend would wear that. It’s not too ostentatiously Disney, from a distance it just looks like silver with a blue stone.

For all of you saying ‘get a different cheaper necklace’ ‘get an initial necklace’ please don’t do this. My parents well meaningly used to do this; get something ‘like’ what I asked for but not what I asked for so I would end up with the expensive adult version of the cooler teenage version of what I asked for, or the thing I wanted that I couldn’t use with my friends because it didn’t match theirs or wasn’t the proper one. I understand if you are on a tight budget, but that wasn’t the case and it isn’t the case here- it’s a value judgement on the item (which is your prerogative as a parent) but the knock on effect means a child is disappointed and has to pretend to be happy with something not quite right. Which isn’t really fair given the amount of threads on here of ‘if they won’t buy what we ask for we will ask them to not bother’.

If you were really bothered about future-proofing it you could one day in the future get a jeweller to remove the coach to be kept separately and re-join the chain to be worn on its own, but tbh it will be a special keepsake even if she doesn't wear it in the future.

Just surreptitiously check that the shortest length of the chain is short enough to be wearable on her.

Actually I’ve had another brain wave !
She has a little sister due very soon so there’s quite a fair age gap. So if she doesn’t want it in a few years we could pass it down and get some more years out of it

Buy it for her and put it away safely for her if she stops liking it. Don't 'hand it down'.

I had all my childhood jewelry stolen when I was in my late teens and I miss it now in middle-age. It all held special memories of people and places, even though it was mostly cheap.

It will be something that she treasures for reasons of nostalgia when she is older and she may even give it to a daughter of her own one day.

I ordered it !

And a my DS his trainers he wanted with his ( also painful ) 🤣🤣🤣

I have pieces of jewellery I got to remember each of my grandparents. One of them isn’t really to my taste any more so I don’t really wear it but it’s still very special to me. I think you should get it for her.

X-post! Glad you made that decision!

@Whattheactual20201

Haha *@NeedToKnow101* I’m still waiting for mr frosty 🤣

I missed the Mr Frosty memo, I desperately wanted play-doh barbershop.

Another etsy one op

@NeedToKnow101 hahaha
Mine was mr frosty

Although I do remember being gifted ( this will sound very very sad ) but a changing rooms ( the tv show ) dolls house that I could change the wallpaper in !
Haha