AIBU to buy ( well sort of ) DD 7 a 100.00 necklace ?

[Whattheactual20201]

So DD 7 is absolutely desperate for this necklace from a local jewellery shop ( she saw it when I was looking for something else ) I ignored it and carried in thinking she would forget about it BUT She didn’t she has consistently asked for it.
“Mummy I will be careful, I will look after it “ 🤣
Anyway I have finished her xmas shop etc and I didn’t buy her it.
I however been given money from both sets of grandparents For both DC to get them something which comes to 150.00.
Do I buy her it despite the fact I think it’s ridiculous for a necklace for a 7 year old but the one thing she really wants ?

I wouldn't. If it had been inherited or something then that's one thing, but if you remove the added layer of the grandparents, initially this story was about a 7 year old who is basically nagging about having a piece of grown up jewelery?

I don't know what it is exactly but something about that makes me uncomfortable. I dont think the persistence with which she is asking for it is something that should be encouraged. Just my opinion though.

If it's something she really wanted then I would get it from the GP

When I was about 6 my mum gave me a ring when I had finally stopped wetting the bed at night. I still have that ring.

When I was abour 8 my dad was knocking down some walls in the house he found a Celtic knot band buried, he gave it to me.... I still have it.

But I agree with pp above maybe suggest you look after it with your jewelry and she can have it for special occasions until she is old enough to look after it.

Check with the jeweler how to look after it as some metals dont like to be kept in their boxes as they need to breathe or they tarnish. I found this with pandora bracelets so I keep them out in the open and they keep much better

Lovely idea to get it from her gp.

My dad bought me a little silver locket pendent when I was 7 and it is my most treasured possession. I felt so grown up and special. I still have it now (in my 50’s) and it reminds me of my dad and the special day we had buying it! Buy it!

@GoldfishParade it’s hard because I am trying not to out myself
Yes it’s an adult piece of jewellery in terms of where they sell it but it’s defo for adults who still like child themed accessories 🤣

[quote Whattheactual20201]@Saisong - no not unicorn but still childish themes I would say but yet in an adult jewellery shop. ( character )[/quote]
I think this changes things. Many here I imagine were thinking it was a fancy / sparkly necklace that would be worn when the child is older. If it's a childish necklace I think it would be a mistake to buy it as a gift from the grandparents, as she's very likely to grow out of liking it. Do the grandparents not have some jewellery that they could pass onto her, as then it would be more personal and meaningful?

Is it Disney themed? There seems to be a lot of it about!

@AaronPurr it wasn’t my original intention for it to be a sort of like passed down gift etc
It’s just something the only thing she has really asked for that’s left to buy.
But guess it would be nice for her to get the gift she really wanted from them before he passes hope that makes sense but I had not actually thought about it like that until this morning.
In terms of it not being something she will wear when she is older
It’s a popular brand for adults so I’m guessing adults do wear it haha ( not something I would )

I don’t know I have disputed it for a while now 🙈

@MoiraRoseismyStyleIcon

MNetter are great detectives and might be able to find a cheaper copy

Could someone please recommend a necklace with an initial on it for my teen DD.

OP - I'd buy it but wouldn't put too much emphasis on it being "special". Jewellery is for wearing not keeping in a box. Also if she were to lose it, it wouldn't be fair for her to feel guilty.

Did you want cheap?

If not, then I absolutely love Maya Brenner. About £200 for one letter, but they're delicate and lovely necklaces!

@PolarBearStrength yes 🙈

Personally I would buy it.
Its no more "indulgent" "wasteful" "pointless" etc than yet more plastic and it will be a memento / useless way to look after things.

I also don't think it's that unusual for a 7 year old
I, like thosands of other girls, was given a gold necklace (crucifix) for
my 1st communion aged 7 and I just loved it. It was so special to me at the time.

I think give that your dad is so ill (I’m so sorry ) it would be a nice idea to get it as something to remember him by as much as anything.

I would put structures in place to help her look after it though - she’s young to be responsible for a (relatively) expensive necklace, so maybe it’s one you keep for her when she’s not wearing it until she’s old enough to be responsible for it herself.

Useful not useless 😳

@Wharehina

I would buy it on the proviso that she only wears it on special occasions (that you choose) until she’s older. That’s what I’ve done with the few special pieces of jewellery that my daughter has - I look after them, and she gets to wear them on her birthday, Christmas Day, and family parties (not that there’s been many of those this year).

Yes, I was thinking along the lines of this - you don't want her proudly sharing it with her teddies and (uncared for) dolls, or wearing it to school and losing it.

My grandparents bought be jewellery from their home country from when I was very young. I usually just wore it on special occasions. I did lose a lot of it on drunken holiday at 19, but 7 year old me definitely looked after it in my jewellery box.

I wonder if it’s a brand beginning with ‘P’.

I’d get it, OP. My DD is a similar age and she has recently started wearing the necklace and bracelet that she was given for her baptism on special occasions. She is so careful with them but she isn’t allowed to play with them - they live in a jewellery box and are only taken out to be worn.

@EmilySpinach 🤣🤣🤣shhh

(Whisper it but they have 20% off atm for Black Friday!)

Ohhhh well that makes it easier down to 80.00 🤣🤣 maybe that will sway me !

Op is it this one?

uk.pandora.net/en/jewellery/disney-collection/disney-pumpkin-coach-collier-necklace/399198C01.html?cgid=discover-collections-disney#prefn1=primaryCategory&prefv1=Necklaces&start=1&cgid=discover-collections-disney&productscount=1

Jesus you should all be detectives 🤣🤣🤣

*Do the grandparents not have some jewellery that they could pass onto her?
Bit CF!!! How rude - GPs have given £150 to a small child and you'd go back and ask them to give jewellery of a similar value as well

@moiraroseismystyleicon (great name, me too) Orelia do cute, initial necklaces that are quite cheap. Black friday too x

I did say in my first post MNetters are great detectives.

As for the necklace it's really not my cup of tea, and I think most children would find it childish by the time they're teenagers. I love the idea of a special gift from her grandparents which she will treasure when they're no longer here, but I don't think this fits the bill.

In light of your update I would get it. But I’d use some of the rest of the money to buy her a second cheap necklace (accessories or similar) that she can wear all the time, and then tell her the expensive one can only be worn at certain times etc so it doesn’t get lost