AIBU to buy ( well sort of ) DD 7 a 100.00 necklace ?

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So DD 7 is absolutely desperate for this necklace from a local jewellery shop ( she saw it when I was looking for something else ) I ignored it and carried in thinking she would forget about it BUT She didn’t she has consistently asked for it.
“Mummy I will be careful, I will look after it “ 🤣
Anyway I have finished her xmas shop etc and I didn’t buy her it.
I however been given money from both sets of grandparents For both DC to get them something which comes to 150.00.
Do I buy her it despite the fact I think it’s ridiculous for a necklace for a 7 year old but the one thing she really wants ?

@EveryDayIsADuvetDay

*Do the grandparents not have some jewellery that they could pass onto her? Bit CF!!! How rude - GPs have given £150 to a small child and you'd go back and ask them to give jewellery of a similar value as well

I wasn't trying to be rude, it was a genuine question. It would be much more meaningful.

It's quite pretty. It may be a little young when she's a grown woman but it reflects who she is now.
I think it's a good idea.

Sorry your father is ill op. Based on that alone I would buy her the necklace

Maybe there will be a Black Friday offer?

I would, the amount of people that won't bat an eyelid about buying a PS4 game £50+ or the latest must have, it's something she'd like, you can afford (Thanks to grandparents) also I bet the grandparents would like her to have an actual present.

@TikTakTikTak yeh it’s what I thought to but then I was like adults must buy it or they wouldn’t sell their whole collection and grow it 🤣
I am with you that as an adult it’s not my things haha

Although I say that but I am 28 and own a keeping up the appearances and button moon T shirts 🤣

I saw a necklace like this with a gold teddy bear and a crystal nose that I was desperate for at age 8. My nanny bought me it, despite the protests of my parents, and I still have it. Teach her to put it away safely when not wearing it.

When you said Disney then I was a bit - well that strays into pink sparkly unicorn territory. However that necklace isn't awful and I can see how it appeals now. And it might have lasting appeal, but the again might not. On balance (and with the discount) I'd probably still go for it.

It couldn’t matter less what we think of it! Your DD loves it. It is expensive but not THAT expensive and with 20% off it only uses just over half of her grandparents’ money. Any necklace that would still be her taste as a teen and an adult will be of no interest to her now. She could always wear the pendant as a charm on a bracelet in the future if she wanted.

I wouldn’t personally because it isn’t one that she’s likely to wear even in just a few years. I’d get a cheap replica - I’m sure she’d be just as happy with it.

Mine does have an expensive necklace from her grandparents to remember them by, but it’s classic and she will get it when she’s older. Yes there’s a chance she won’t like it but it’s very simple.

@foilflower

I wouldn’t personally because it isn’t one that she’s likely to wear even in just a few years. I’d get a cheap replica - I’m sure she’d be just as happy with it.

Mine does have an expensive necklace from her grandparents to remember them by, but it’s classic and she will get it when she’s older. Yes there’s a chance she won’t like it but it’s very simple.

I meant from her great grandparents.

I have one from my grandparents that they bought when I was born and that I treasure.

If it’s the necklace in the PP’s link, absolutely buy it. Within the context of it being from Grandparents etc, it will clearly become a really treasured keepsake.

It’s a lovely story, and a lovely necklace. Agree with others that she should only wear it when you decide, and can help look after it. But you can see how precious it could become in her 20s onwards... definitely buy it!!

I was going to say go for it but having seen it I think it has a very limited shelf life. My DDs were rather over the Disney princess stage by about 8. There are similar cheaper ones here www.hsamuel.co.uk/webstore/l/search/collection%7Ccinderella/?Ns=P_Stock_Status_Sort%7c0%7c%7cP_Current_Price%7c0

There's this cheaper version on EBay

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/233753532852

I would OP, especially given what you have shared about your DF, the necklace will hold such sentiment for her already.

She defo won’t be grown out of Disney by 8 she has only just for to an age where she likes watching the movies thankfully for me she is a youngish 7 year old. Still very much in to all things girlie and not anywhere near things like river island etc
Thank you I will have a think and see if there is anything similar cheaper.

I think I would get it, but do buy her a nice jewellery box to keep it in and only let her wear optical occasions until she’s older. I’m sure she will look after it and keep it safe.

@MostIneptThatEverStepped thank you !

Op I think I'd get it. Even if she out grows it as a piece of jewellery its lovely to have something that she can keep. But emphasising that she has to look after it and its not a toy etc.

How many of us have baby bangles or other childhood jewellery hiding in a drawer?

It would be really really weird to ask your parents to give her a piece of their own jewellery.
The jewellery they have is likely to belong to your mum, who probably wants to keep her stuff, and is going through a hard enough time. I can't even think how you'd word the question.
However it might be worth discussing with your DDad if he has any jewellery what he wants to happen to them.

I would buy it for her. If she looks after it she may still be wearing it when she's 80!

Maybe buy it and keep it for her so she hasn't ask to wear it?

Children get bought all sorts of expensive crap that gets broken or ends up in charity shops. I would prefer to buy something that is really appreciated and loved.

I think its very pretty and actually without knowing wouldn't automatically think that 'oh that's disney' with the Pandora one, whereas the h Samuel ones I would. Just checking that its £150 each for the DC?! not 2/3 going on this?

My Dd would wear it and she’s 18! She loves pandora and has a few Disney rings and charms.
I would get her it if it was me - there’s no point wasting money on something similar that she may not want. It would be different if you did not have the money for it and no one would even question you if you wanted to spend the money on two computer games!
What a lovely surprise it will be for her.

I was the same age when I got a signet ring from my grandparents that at the time was really expensive. I still have it and treasure it. My Mum has bought one for my daughter this year.

I would definitely buy it much better value than a £100 toy that will be played with for a few months and then forgotten about.

I was definitely on the side of “get it as a memory”,,,,until I actually saw it! (Sorry, OP 🤣). I’m now wavering. It realistically isn’t someth8ng that she will keep forever and wear as an adult. That said. If I think back, I spent in the region of £80 on all sorts of things as “special presents” that my kids desperately wanted and no longer wear or use (crap polyester costumes from the Disney shop, a giant teddy, a toy kitchen, a scooter etc etc). So if this is something she desperately wants, then just think of it in that category. It then doesn’t matter if she doesn’t love it as a teenager; she’ll have had that fun at Christmas and will have a lovely memory of her grandparents giving her something she was so excited to receive.