Is my friend jealous

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I'm getting married next November (hopefully) and my friend is being really negative about it. She's single and we are both 30.

1. She's said my wedding won't go ahead and I'm selfish to be planning a large gathering at the moment

1. Has said 1 out of 2 marriages end in divorce anyway

1. Said getting married / having a wedding is self indulgent and if 'people' not specifically me were really in love they wouldn't need a piece of paper to prove it

Is this jealousy or is this what most people really think but are just too polite to say?

Yeah she sounds jealous. It's a natural emotion

Yes jealous AF.

What a dreadful friend.

Yep.

Oh well she wont need an invite then!

You need a new friend. What a bitch.

I'd cut contact tbh. She'll never let you enjoy it. And congratulations!

Shes jealous.

Even if she's not jealous and she genuinely feels this way about marriage, you obviously don't and she is completely raining on your parade!

Jealous

She sounds rather sad. Has she always thought this way or isn’t since you said you’re getting married?

Well, she sounds like a little ray of sunshine!

Maybe it's jealousy, maybe she's just a miserable so and so. I'd jokingly call her out on it. Something like ' I didn't think you were against marriage.'

Why is she your friend? She is not nice.

Yes she's jealous. Even if these were her honest opinions on marriage, a true friend would not say that to you and would be happy for you.

Wishing you all the best for November next year!

Can you explain a bit more. Has she said nothing nice? Does she like your partne? Have you been a bit of a bore going on about it?

@Bluntness100 I've tried really hard not to be - I've probably bored my mum though with all the covid fretting! But I don't bring it up with friends unless they do as I know no one else cares about others weddings that much!

She was really nice when we got engaged and asked to try on my ring etc and I'm sure she likes my dp. No reason not to and he's made a big effort with my friends and family.

It's just a few things recently on how she'd never want to get married / doesn't see the point etc.

And we went for a walk last week and she was basically telling me it won't go ahead / no one would want to come because of how things are at the moment. We would only go ahead if we were allowed of course and never expect anyone to come that was nervous.

Try on your ring?! Is that a normal thing for friends to ask?!

Very odd things for anyone to say.

She may not be jealous. But she is definitely a twat! Either way, I'd probably minimise contact.

She couldn't be more obvious about being jealous if she wore a bloody billboard OP. You need to think of some innocuous deflecting replies, if you want to stay in touch with her - it'll drive you mad otherwise.

This is indeed fascinating.

She will be singing a different tune when it's her turn to get married. She's very jealous and doesn't seem to have the self control to keep it to herself. Nasty. Has she shown signs of this before?

Asking to try on your ring is plain odd.

I've never asked to try on anyone's engagement ring. Is this an actual thing?

I think November next year is a reasonably safe bet, hopefully by that stage everyone who is vulnerable will have had the vaccine. I hope you have a lovely time.

I think people often try to make themselves feel better about not being able to do/be a think they want by convincing themselves that they don't want it at all. And that works fine until they come across someone who is happily doing/being the thing and then they have to work extra hard not to feel that they're losing out.

So someone who genuinely had no desire to get married would say "I wouldn't be for me but I hope you're very happy".