Being called a fat bitch

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By your husband

Aibu in thinking this is absolutely not normal and not something anyone should have to tolerate?

Why are you with him?

It's not acceptable to call anyone a fat bitch, least of all your wife! Vile pig.

I'm sorry op that your DH is so awful. My ex was like this. Life is so much better now that kind of abuse is behind me. You might want to consider whether your DH actually inhances your life, or makes it feel worse overall. If it's the latter I'd show him the door.

It depends, was it done joke way or nasty way/ Do you swear generally/ does he/ are you the kind of family that can give and take insults and hoarse play?

Call him a fat ugly cunt and tell him to go and find the suitcases to pack his bags.
Also tell him you could be skinnier if you wanted to be but he will always be fucking ugly and he can't change that. X

@Phrowzunn

As always, these threads make me so, so sad. The fact that the OP has to ask, and then the number of replies that suggest ‘it happens’ and ‘it depends on context’. What has happened to all of you throughout your lives that you have such low, low standards? That your HUSBAND CALLING YOU A FAT BITCH would not be the last thing he ever said to you?! How do you get to that point? Where is your self worth?? I honestly just can’t even imagine having that little respect for myself. But then I do understand that that is easy for me to say as I always had a very loving mum and dad, and their healthy relationship to model my own on. I wish I could help you all, I’m sorry you think this is okay.

Meanwhile, in the real world most of us are not perfect human beings and occasionally lose our tempers and say nasty things in the heat of an argument that we do not mean. Its not that our standards are low, but that yours are unrealistically high. And just because we tolerate a lost temper (only human) now and then depending on context, that doesn’t mean we think it’s ok to call each other names. It’s not ok, but it is human to make mistakes once in awhile in certain circumstances.

It’s not ok, but it is human to make mistakes once in awhile in certain circumstances.

A mistake? Did you miss the part where the OP said her husband thinks it's hilarious? Oh and btw a person doesn't have to be 'perfect' in order not to call their partner a fat bitch.

You would not be at all unreasonable to think that, and to act on it suitably.

No that’s truly awful. Is he usually so nasty to you?

That would absolutely end my relationship. I could never stay with a man that called me that or any other insulting name. Its one step.away from physical abuse in my opinion.

It depends, was it done joke way or nasty way/ Do you swear generally/ does he/ are you the kind of family that can give and take insults and hoarse play?

There's having a joke then telling someone they're a fat bitch who shops go find some food. A joke isn't commenting on someone's appearance, that's just mean and vile.
And why on earth would a family or anyone be insulting people as a 'joke'?
This behaviour is not okay. Let's not normalise yet another piece of shit thinking they can speak to people however they please and try to pass it off as a 'joke'. The only joke in this situation is him, period.

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He thinks it’s hilariois

Why? It's not exactly witty repartee is it.

Yes absolutely leave, over being called a name in an arguement! Give me strength.
Would I be happy with this ? No, but there needs to be perspective, if he is generally unpleasant and abusive then it’s time to look at the relationship. If this was hurled mid argument which we all have on occasion then leave him to stew and let him know you found it unpleasant even in that context.

To add. I totally agree with PhrowZunn. How utterly sad that anyone would tolerate and or minimise this.

I am a fat person.

My husband would never, EVER refer to be as a fat bitch, because he loves and respects me.

It's horrible. I agree with Phrowzunn - it would be the last thing he ever said to me before I visited a solicitor.

I'd be utterly done with the relationship. I cannot imagine ever staying with someone who not only thought it was ok to speak to me like that, but actually thought it was funny to be so vile to another human being.

@Bluntness100

Call him a fat bastard in response.

Never lower yourself to that level. Two wrong don't make a right. Ever.

Handoffisback did you really tell her to loose weight?? If she wants to do this it should be for no one else but for her self and her health. (If she needs to.?)

Tell him he's got a small cock..
Sorted!

OP - how does he speak and care for you usually?

When your partner insults you as horrendously as this, I honestly think you can never go back over the line that has been crossed. LT(F)B.

''Every time I think about a larger than small penis I eat a biscuit''

Obviously don't say this, but you get the drift.

He is a twat.

Wow what a cuntish thing to say. He sounds delightful.
No, not normal or ok.