Being called a fat bitch

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By your husband

Aibu in thinking this is absolutely not normal and not something anyone should have to tolerate?

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I walked away instead of arguing and he shouted that I was a fat bitch and told me to go find some food.

Tell him to go away and find some manners

He sounds vile.

Let’s be honest we all say horrible things in the heat of an argument, and we know what comments will hurt our partners most. So no he absolutely should not have said it but if he apologised quickly, the overall relationship is good and he’s usually fine then yes it’s a discussion but not the end of the world. But people don’t usually post here if it’s a one off.... so if it’s ongoing abuse then tell him you completely agree you need to get rid of your current fat ass, and loose some dead weight... so the door is that way and leave the key

I agree context is needed. It can rarely, once in a blue moon happen during an argument when a person loses their shit and calls the other something nasty.

I'm guessing he isn't Prince Charming the rest of the time. Up to you if you like living with someone who thinks so little of you and wants to hurt your feelings. I'm assuming you hadn't said anything awful to him first and this was a retaliation?

Context? History of nasty comments?

He is a vile bully.

I really hope you don’t have children who hear this.. 😟

You deserve better.

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I walked away instead of arguing and he shouted that I was a fat bitch and told me to go find some food.

He can't stand the fact you didn't argue back with him. Keep it up as it will annoy him even more.

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He thinks it’s hilariois

Suggest you both try out the joke on his mother and see if she laughs

It was nasty, plain and simple.

Tell him his penis looks like a button mushroom.

It's a pathetic 'low shot' from someone without the intellectual ability to put there own point across during an argument.

Resorting to personal insult in order to wrong foot and deliberately distress - because you are losing an argument is a sign of inferior intelligence. Feel sorry for him OP - I would lose all respect and leave him. Cant abide stupid men.

You need to be divorcing him. Your husband is supposed to be your living partner who’s got your back. Not an unkind prick who drags you down. Get rid.

Ignorant pig,actually thats an insult to pigs.
Next time he says that just say well i can loose weight but good luck growing a penis.

loving partner

what a complete twat he really is, but it would be helpful if you gave a bit more back ground op, was this a one off ? do you have dc

I'm So sorry you have had to hear that it's unkind and untrue. This guys is clearly going through something if he can say that to his loved one who has made it clear it upsets her. I suggest clear communication, that it's not ok with you otherwise there will be consequences because if he chooses not to honour you with such language you certainly will honour yourself. Set some serious boundaries and be prepared to stick to your guns if those boundaries are crossed again because no one should have to live with that kind of treatment.

What a bastard, you don't deserve this, no one does

Leave. Please. You deserve so much better.

Totally unacceptable. That’s so cruel.

That’s vile. He’s a nasty spiteful prick. Do you have children?

As always, these threads make me so, so sad. The fact that the OP has to ask, and then the number of replies that suggest ‘it happens’ and ‘it depends on context’. What has happened to all of you throughout your lives that you have such low, low standards? That your HUSBAND CALLING YOU A FAT BITCH would not be the last thing he ever said to you?! How do you get to that point? Where is your self worth?? I honestly just can’t even imagine having that little respect for myself. But then I do understand that that is easy for me to say as I always had a very loving mum and dad, and their healthy relationship to model my own on. I wish I could help you all, I’m sorry you think this is okay.

Let’s be honest we all say horrible things in the heat of an argument

I've never called my husband any name during an argument and he's never done it to me either.

wow. not something my husband would do as he knows its a deal breaker for me as I struggle massively with over eating.

Oh op. No, that's not ok, especially because he knows it has hurt you and is laughing rather than apologising.

We could all suggest a load of pithy responses but do you want to sink to his level? Is he even worth the effort? He doesn't sound it.

He sounds like a disgusting, abusive pig. Does he have any redeeming features, OP? Not that that would excuse his behaviour.