Positive Covid test but we have no food in!

[ViralVera]

I got a text at 10pm tonight to say the DS is positive for CV. He hasn’t really had symptoms but THREE members at his SN college tested positive earlier this week so he was sent home to isolate and I wanted to make sure as DH is a keyworker. I really didn’t think it would be positive.

I’m bloody furious that staff have passed it onto vulnerable students. DS is classed as CEV so has been taught to be very good with hygiene but the staff haven’t been wearing masks, and didn’t seem to adhering to 2m social distancing at his induction session, but that’s another thread.

This means the whole household needs to isolate from now obviously but we are a family of 6 (adults) and get through a LOT of food so I shop every 2/3 days. The next big shop was due to be tomorrow!

The earliest online delivery I can get is for Wednesday and we literally only have milk, eggs, chips, meat and rice/pasta but not enough for 4 days. No squash/bread/cereal/yoghurts/fruit/veg etc.

There is literally no one local we can ask. DH’s brother lives an hour away but his family also has Covid (not from us as we haven’t seen them for months).

It’ll be a lot of shopping for a volunteer to get, if I can find one.

I’ve booked the other 5 of us for a drive in tests tomorrow so I was thinking about me and DH double masking and scooting round Tesco chucking stuff in trolleys as quickly as possible straight afterwards.

Should we? If we have it tomorrow, we had it today too!

@arethereanyleftatall

I don't know if you're still reading op, but fwiw....

Friends are everything, for most people. It doesn't matter what's going on in your life, friends are there. They might not be important to you, and that's fine and your prerogative.

But, if you've lived somewhere for 4 years and have made zero friends, then it's time for some self relflection, if you want some friends.

The characteristic traits you have shown on this thread are...
Misdirected bitterness, anger issues, selfishness, entitlement, lack of empathy, inability to take any responsibility or criticism for your own actions.

None of these are positive traits or endear people to you. Maybe you have some great qualities, I'm sure you have. But you need to listen to what people are saying to you on here, you only have one life.

While I think the OP is being a dick on this issue - this is massively unfair. You see plenty of posters here on MN who haven’t made friends in a new area in this time. Throw in four kids, at least one wirh SEN and it’s perfectly realistic to not have time to make lots of friends. I’m 40 and can’t remember the last time I made a “new friend” - luckily I have old ones, but I haven’t moved locations.

To the poster who said she should have thought of all this when she knew her son was being tested, that's utter crap. As soon as the decision was made that her son be tested, she and everyone in the household needed to self-isolate immediately.

Well not officially/legally as OP took it on herself to decide to test her DS and must have lied in order to get him accepted for one. At that stage only ds was required to isolate as a direct contact of a positive case. He shouldn't have been having the test at all. The rest of the family were not required to isolate given that he wasn't displaying any symptoms, however now they know he's an asymptotic positive that's very different. Again the rest of the family should just be isolating not resting. OP has decided her options is above the actual rules and insisted her DH needs tested for work (he doesn't) what happens now if DH rests negative but goes on to develop symptoms in 2 days time - will they test him again so soon, because then, given his job in a huge distribution centre they will really need to know. She's got herself in a bit of a pickle by making up her own agenda here.

Who is to say? But the actual risk is low. And it doesn’t help anyone for people to be spreading misinformation about that. The OP should isolate as per the law, but the chances of her killing swathes of people if she doesn’t are negligible.

Chances of her 'killing swathes' is negligible yes, but the chances of 2 people in a busy supermarket infecting a handful of others if they do happen to be positive is very possible - and that's not acceptable at all!

Hi OP, We were in this situation as a family in March just before lockdown officially started and it was nigh on impossible. I eventually managed to get a delivery for day 10 of our 14 day isolation and before then I had to try and source local companies who would deliver stuff like bread, milk and pasta. The co-op were really helpful. We did manage / find places and a neighbour picked up some things for us when she was doing her own shopping.

I do understand how stressful it is but please don't go to the supermarket yourself

I think you’re all wasting your words because the OP and her husband are probably in their local Tesco, spreading COVID-19

I have been doing my weekly shop mainly by going to the supermarket, as it fits with the school run. Now, after reading most of this thread, I have decided to go back to online shopping given there are people like the OP willing to break the isolation rules to go to the shops and potentially expose others to Covid.

YABU to be so hypocritical. You are raging your DS caught it but willing to endanger others. If your DD and DH were yesterday after DS was tested you knew there was a risk and also didn’t attempt to secure a food shop.

Regardless none of this fixes your current situation. Call your local council, workers have been deployed nationwide to assist in getting you emergency shopping. Book the first delivery available for midweek too.

Also meant to say some places do fruit and veg boxes such as m&S - not cheap but stuff really good

It is people like you, who think they are special and don’t need to abide by the rules, that are keeping this virus moving. On one hand you’re “raging’ at the school for infecting your child when they were unaware they were infected, then on the other hand you think it’s fine for you to walk around a supermarket knowing damn well you could be infected 😡😡😡😡 suck it up and eat what you have in the house like everyone else in the same position as you. Or seek help like every other poster has suggested.

There are so many non supermarket options.

Ask an acquaintance. I'd be more than happy to pop to the shop for a neighbour, my child's baby sitter, a random person on Facebook.

I'm sure pretty much every area has a village agents/Corona helpers/local church/community volunteer group for things like this. Search on Facebook or your local council website.

Pretty much every non supermarket shop here is offering a delivery service - farm shops, butchers, green grocers, newsagents, even some of the local pubs are offering a basics grocery delivery service.

Non supermarket online food retailers - milk and more, Iceland, farm foods, Morrisons or M&S essentials boxes

It might cost a bit more than your supermarket shop, but you're saving significant commuting costs if your DH alone isn't travelling 60 miles a day

@MadameBlobby sorry but I find it hard to believe they have no space whatsoever.

When we all now its possibly we would have to self isolate for 14 days surely it makes sense to have a stock of food? If necessary have some tins, pasta, rice etc under the bed, on top of the wardrobe, on top of kitchen cupboards, in the shed, in the garage, even for goodness sake in the living room.

I get that some people don't have the room but in this time of covid and the possibility of not being able to go out just put items anywhere.

Also there are SIX of them so I assume they don't live in a 1 bed flat so I am sure have room somewhere

i was going to ask why you had no friends nearby who would help, but your attitude to this gives me the answer.

This!

@Greenglassteacup

There are options other than spreading covid all over you local fucking Tesco

With the OP being so clearly hard of thinking she'll probably decide that you mean going to Sainsbury's instead.

Our local council has a number to ring if you find yourself in a similar situation. Have you checked your local council?

I find most people are willing to help if you pop a post on FB.

No you can’t do that. You will have to sort something else out.
Order a fruit and veg box from a local greengrocer. That’s what I did during the first lockdown. As for other stuff, could you find a volunteer but ask them to do a small shop instead of a big one? And then book the earliest delivery slot with a supermarket for your big shop?
Are food banks delivering?

You really need to realise how selfish you’re being. I go to Tescos regularly. I have long Covid, and have had it for over eight months. I’m finally seeing light at the end of a very dark tunnel. The thought of running into someone like you and catching it again is truly unpleasant; I really don’t want to go through it again. Yes, I know I’ll have some immunity, but it’s now clear that people can catch this virus more than once.

There are a lot of people who are similarly vulnerable and a lot more so. You won’t know who they are as you go past them in the supermarket.

Here you are, raging at the staff who are working in unsafe conditions (and who could end up seriously ill) and yet you’re talking about blatantly breaking the rules yourself.

You are being very very unreasonable in considering going to supermarket.

Also, unless you actually know 100% that the staff member had the test before they went to work on Monday, you are also being unreasonable in your attitude towards the college.

This is a difficult situation for you and your family, but your angry, entitled and frankly rude posts are not earning you any sympathy.

I was just about to say the same @whatsleep. How can op be so infuriated by it unknowingly being passed to her dh but then recklessly state she will break the law to go food shopping. I was in a similar situation earlier this month, I started with symptoms so we all started self isolating awaiting my test result. I prebooked a delivery slot for later that week just in case the test was positive. It’s not rocket science, just a bit of forward planning. OP it’s not difficult to order food in, as other people suggest try deliveroo or Iceland. They always have slots available at short notice. Failing that order in some takeaways.

Amazon prime do 2 hour deliveries. I've used them a few times. Hth.

Wow OP, you sound really unpleasant.

There are a few issues with your thread.

Firstly, staff members at schools are often actively discouraged from mask wearing and risk their own health and well-being to teach children. Indeed, they probably became infected with the virus from an asymptomatic child at the school.

You’re responsible for a large family. Given that we’re in the midst of a pandemic you shouldn’t be in the position where you can’t feed your family for a few days. It was always likely with so many of you out and about that you’d be in a situation where you’d have to isolate at some point and you should have been better prepared.

There are many many options open to you - volunteer groups, Amazon pantry, local farm shops delivering fresh produce, online sites such as deliveroo delivery products from supermarkets, online and telephone ordering of takeaways etc.

Instead of sitting in your house ‘fucking raging’ at the key workers out there putting themselves at risk for your family, perhaps try having a little humility and reflecting on your own responsibility for the tricky (and totally avoidable) situation you find yourself in.

[quote lynsey91]**@MadameBlobby sorry but I find it hard to believe they have no space whatsoever.

When we all now its possibly we would have to self isolate for 14 days surely it makes sense to have a stock of food? If necessary have some tins, pasta, rice etc under the bed, on top of the wardrobe, on top of kitchen cupboards, in the shed, in the garage, even for goodness sake in the living room.

I get that some people don't have the room but in this time of covid and the possibility of not being able to go out just put items anywhere.

Also there are SIX of them so I assume they don't live in a 1 bed flat so I am sure have room somewhere[/quote]
I agree but I read your post as saying you couldn’t understand why people don’t have a month’s worth of food in. I agree it’s prudent to have a few days worth of essentials.

@Fizbosshoes

Lots of people saying why isnt everyone (including the OP) prepped but not everyone can either afford to buy extra or have space to store extra food. We shop once a week, and rarely top up during the week but there are days towards shopping day where we definitely couldnt eke out our food for an extra week.(we have extra of some things but not everything) However we do have a road whatsapp group and I am friends with a lot of my DC friends parents so I'd feel confident I could ask someone to get shopping for us should we need to isolate without having much food in the house. We also have friends from sports clubs that we could ask if really stuck. Our nearest family live 45 min away so def eouldnt rely on them. I'm surprised that OP says her teen DCs friends are teens and dont drive ....but apparently doesnt know any of their parents...?

You only need to buy 1 or 2 extra items each time you shop and things like tinned tomatoes, pasta, rice are hardly expensive, and you will soon build up a stock.

No space at all? Under the bed? On top of cupboards, wardrobe? Even in the loft.

I could never live with no stock of food. Who knows what could happen and this year has surely proved that.

Last year we could not get out to shops as the 2 roads leading to our nearest town were flooded and it was far too deep to drive through. We never thought our area could be flooded as we live at the top of a hill and nowhere near a river. It was because we had had so much rain the the water was just pouring off the fields. No problem though as we had loads of food

With the OP being so clearly hard of thinking she'll probably decide that you mean going to Sainsbury's instead.

I wouldn’t be surprised!

@Greenglassteacup

I think you’re all wasting your words because the OP and her husband are probably in their local Tesco, spreading COVID-19

This 100%!

For a lot of older people (like my parents) the supermarket is the only place they are currently going. It’s incredibly selfish to even think about going shopping when there are other options and the OP does have some food in that they could probably make last until they get their delivery Wednesday. It might be a dull few days of meals but they wouldn’t starve.

Yabu to be furious at the staff. They're putting themselves at risk by going to work to provide education for your son. Rely awful attitude. I'm sure the don't want to get covid either. Why are you the centre of the world? So self involved to think of it like this.

Also on the good thing don't go to tesco.