My Mum and Dad were in their thirties when they had me (Im the youngest of four; Three brothers and me an only girl) and they have a friend who is at least twenty years older than them who has never been married and had inappropriate friendships with Women almost thirty years younger than him. That friend has some kind of mental health issue and he's been in and out of hospital for as long as I've known him so more or less since my birth
I recently found out from my brothers that he abused me, I wont go into much of the details but the abuse wasn't physical, and because I'd repressed the memories that now keep me up and awake and very scared at night, my parents didn't do anything about it. They say he "didnt mean any harm" and "He's mentally ill" I agree he is, and its very sad that he's struggling with mental health but he knew what he was doing.
I was on a trail not far from my house a couple weeks ago when he approached me. I held my hand out, told him to stay back and not step any closer. I said some rather harsh things along the lines of "Get lost" but I used a few nasty words. Told him he could take a run and jump off a cliff before he ever touched me again. Now my parents say I should apologise because I hurt him.
I'm sorry I spewed all this or if it seems unbelievable - I'm shaking as I type this out. And Im sorry if its in the wrong category, I just wanted others opinions, was I too harsh? Was I being unreasonable to tell him to get lost?
Also; incase anyone asks, I'm going to therapy over video call so Im getting the help I need and deserve