To be annoyed at people shopping in families/couples?

[Nicknamegoeshere]

So I went to the supermarket to do my weekly shop today. Left the baby and my OH at home as I understand the current rules re Covid to be shop alone where possible.

Now I totally respect that in certain circumstances there has to be exceptions to this rule e.g. for lone parents, shopping with a vulnerable person etc.

However, there were a huge number of large families (with both parents) shopping today, lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc.

Why are so many people blatantly ignoring the guidance?

To be absolutely honest...
I am just kind of done. I was abiding and did everything properly, but seriously. Starting to think that there is not much point seeing big groups, house parties, masks under noses, no distancing etc., all that in some half arsed attempt of lock down. Quite frankly, going shopping in a couple is the smallest issue.

Technically it's guidance, not law.
However despite the fact it's common sense to do our best to minimise contacts and travel, some people seemingly have to turn everything into a day trip and seem to be clutching at straws to see how close they can be to business as usual.

Of course I've not RTFT but I'm willing to bet theres at least half a dozen people who are ready to claim their DP such an utterly incompetent bag of flesh that they can't manage a supermarket trip without a chaperone (who knows what qualities these apparently useless men have as they're everywhere on MN).

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@DappledThings Because, like it or not, anybody can become infected with Covid. Shopping with more than one person increases that risk for everyone.[/quote]
Sure. To a small degree. Still baffles me how anyone can hide enough of a fuck about the decisions other people make that affect them in the tiniest of ways to even ponder it for long, let alone make a thread about it. One of hundreds of the same bloody thread too.

I try to avoid my DH coming shopping with me, costs a fortune as he merrily chucks in cakes and biscuits and heaven knows what. We'd be bankrupt if he came regularly.

@LolaSmiles you are not wrong! Apparently people have to accompany their other halves so that they then don’t have to go out themselves midweek. Why decide to spend your life with someone incapable of shopping 🙄

let's not pretend that it is not selfish at the moment. No one cares and will stop you, but it still is.

The number of people in shops is restricted in most places.
People going as a group means the rest of shoppers are left waiting outside for longer than needed. It's lovely when it's cold and pouring with rain.

At least supermarkets have stepped up and it's much easier to get delivery slots.

@Kcar My boys were just 3 and 6 when courts ruled 50/50 with my ex. This meant not speaking/seeing them for up to 14 days at a time. Without them on many birthdays, Christmases, and even Mother's Days. Still the case seven years on.

But oh yes, how "bloody lucky" I am(!)

I've been today with my H. Never occurred to me to go on my own. I needed him anyway for the bags of coal and wood!

I go on my own to the supermarkets usually as I can, but today Dh wanted to come along so we went in separately and had our own trollies did all the cleaning and sanitizing etc and met back outside at the car with our bags. We wear masks.
It seemed a bit bonkers to be honest and it was quiet in there , but a few people had children with them or went in together. It didn't bother me as they had masks on and I socially distance , but not everyone can do what we did or would want for all manner of reasons. ( we have ended up with two lots of butter though)
Lots of people can't go on their own all the time and it's silly to think that they would. As long as they wear a face cover and I keep out of their way , it seems to work.
(Plus you can't get any food delivery slots around here either!)

@LolaSmiles

Technically it's guidance, not law. However despite the fact it's common sense to do our best to minimise contacts and travel, some people seemingly have to turn everything into a day trip and seem to be clutching at straws to see how close they can be to business as usual.

Of course I've not RTFT but I'm willing to bet theres at least half a dozen people who are ready to claim their DP such an utterly incompetent bag of flesh that they can't manage a supermarket trip without a chaperone (who knows what qualities these apparently useless men have as they're everywhere on MN).

I’m minimising contacts. I’m not seeing 2 of my children and I’m not seeing my boyfriend.

This is so far from business as usual,

I’m doing my job over the internet and I don’t get to see anyone day to day except for my DD after work. And that’s all I’ve had since March.

Seriously. This is destroying me and destroying my mental health. I love my family I love my boyfriend and I’m not allowed to see them.

And now I’m getting sark for daring to go shopping with my daughter to help me.

It’s so unfair. No one knows how hard it is to obey by all these rules. And smug people sitting married or otherwise partnered up and all their kids around them and able to see them think I’m doing the wrong thing.

Why? Why? How? How dare anyone sit in judgment.

Quite a few of the supermarkets near me are not letting couples in or 2 adults with children

@Kcar Oh and I was completely on my own half of the time for six years! No kids, no partner!

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@Kcar My boys were just 3 and 6 when courts ruled 50/50 with my ex. This meant not speaking/seeing them for up to 14 days at a time. Without them on many birthdays, Christmases, and even Mother's Days. Still the case seven years on.

But oh yes, how "bloody lucky" I am(!)[/quote]
My youngest was 3. I also had 50/50 imposed by the court.

Your point is?

@Lowkeevslucille

let's not pretend that it is not selfish at the moment. No one cares and will stop you, but it still is.

The number of people in shops is restricted in most places.
People going as a group means the rest of shoppers are left waiting outside for longer than needed. It's lovely when it's cold and pouring with rain.

At least supermarkets have stepped up and it's much easier to get delivery slots.

Exactly. In some stores people going in as couples or groups does affect other people when they have a longer wait and it's cold and wet. It is selfish unless there's a really good reason for it.

It’s irritating not because it may spread COVID but the bigger supermarkets only let a specified number of people into the store. So bloody annoying when a family of four are causing 3 extra people to wait in a queue. And people who ‘don’t drive’ need to sort an on line shopping slot. They’ve had 6 months to get it sorted!

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@HotChoc10 The majority of these couples were with trollies so I assume transport isn't an issue.[/quote]
Not necessarily. I use a trolley (though usually a shallow one not a deep one) and I have no car so walk home with 4 or 5 bags of food shopping.

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@Kcar Oh and I was completely on my own half of the time for six years! No kids, no partner![/quote]
Try 11 almost 12 years.

Again. Your point is?

Dh and I go together so we can split the list and do a massive shop. So that's less of us two out and about for the rest of the month.

Nicknamegoeshere

@MrsMomoa You might not be breaking the law if your unsymptomatic child passes Covid to my dad because you fancied shopping as a family, but I'd be pretty upset if he died.

I shop on my own
I just don't appreciate people trying to control/berate others when they aren't doing anything wrong.
Covid paranoia has made people unhinged.

Nishky
I knew it!

What could possibly be attractive about these men?
I've never understood how these men will probably have lived alone, managed their own house, ensured they were fed etc and yet apparently supermarket trip is somehow beyond them. Either they really are incapable (some most definitely must be giant manchildren), or some are capable but have been enabled to regress to a teenager again (probably by being told off for not loading the dishes the right way, or banned from going shopping for putting the cans in the wrong shopping bag).

@kcar Oh how I wish I had "All of my kids around me." I haven't since they were tiny.

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@kcar Oh how I wish I had "All of my kids around me." I haven't since they were tiny.[/quote]
Neither. Have. I.

Can’t you read what I wrote?

And you’ve gone on to have another child with a partner.

I didn’t.

I don’t have that. I was starting to have it and now it’s been taken away. And it’s horrible.

And if I was allowed to go round the supermarket with my boyfriend, damn right I would. But I’m not allowed.

Such dreams as I have. Such wants. Ffs.

@Kcar I don't think you can read what you wrote?! You referred to "people that had all of their kids around them"?

if there is a strict one in one out, i'd not go in with partner and just hang around the street waiting. Fun! but i have not yet seen that in this lockdown.