To be annoyed at people shopping in families/couples?

[Nicknamegoeshere]

So I went to the supermarket to do my weekly shop today. Left the baby and my OH at home as I understand the current rules re Covid to be shop alone where possible.

Now I totally respect that in certain circumstances there has to be exceptions to this rule e.g. for lone parents, shopping with a vulnerable person etc.

However, there were a huge number of large families (with both parents) shopping today, lots and lots of couples (young/middle-aged) etc.

Why are so many people blatantly ignoring the guidance?

‘Maybe it's worth people checking out the stats on people who have caught covid in the supermarket...’

They were published months ago. Retail workers are more likely to die from COVID than nurses.

Yanbu. In a time we're trying to keep as far away from other people as possible I find it strange that people feel it's ok to bring their whole family into a supermarket. Obviously it's going to make it harder to keep distance from people.

I can’t get a priority pass.

There are no slots anyway.

I can’t walk far and I sometimes take my daughter with me to help me lift and carry things to and from the car. When I’m having a bad day.

You wouldn’t know that when you look at me though.

It’s important to me to get out of the house once every couple of weeks to pick the food I fancy.

@Nicknamegoeshere. You can see that plenty of people are stupid & selfish.

I go with my husband. Neither of us drive. Hes a strong man who can carry more than I can. Depending on what we get sometimes we get a taxi home, sometimes we walk. I had a baby 3 months ago and my mental health is shot. If I dont go to asda or tesco I dont leave the house. My therapist has advised me to continue going with my husband so I will. I wear my mask and so does my husband. Its not all a case of doing it for a family outing.

It’s also guidance. Not law.

I get irritated by this in non-COVID times 😄 - it’s the people who stand discussing which fecking red pepper to choose oblivious of the three people patiently waiting to also pick up a red pepper.

I don’t understand both partners going shopping at all, although I agree with the pp who say it’s educational for children-but another adult in the house can use the time to do something more interesting

@Leaannb I'm sure that could wait until the situation is a little improved?

I completely agree. When my husband, kids and I have both gone out then one of us has gone in and the rest of us waited in the car. The only place we both went inside was carrying parcels into the post office.

I dont honestly notice if it's a couple, or a couple with a few younger kids. I guess my head is more focused on my own business.

I honestly haven't taken my younger kids to a shop or out toa shop since March. Except to Clark's as they needed new new shoes a few weeks back. They was feral and have seemed to loose every si gleam social skill they have ever learned about out in public. My son has ASD so he was always getting funny looks.

Personally I wont judge unless it's a obvious family day out with mum, dad, kids and granny all not wearing masks. In which case I did think they was lacking in common sense.

But honestly if I got into froth about couples, or groups of students in Tesco next to the uni, or mum dad and a few toddlers I would have a stroke. Too much to worry about under control than adding on things I cant.

If you do click and collect even better! I dont go into food shops at all unless I'm desperate. So no.one to roll my eyes at even i wanted too

Can't really get worried about this tbh, my kids are in school, dh at work, I should be attending face to face uni classes involving public transport. All these things are OK to do. In fact desirable and encouraged.

But if dh fancies coming along on a Morrisons Big Shop, cos tbh I fucking hate doing it and he pushes the trolley and helps pack it etc I'm not going to tell him No Cos Covid. He could go alone but it would mean me going again at some point as I do the cooking/planning and tbh I could write a list but sometimes you just like to live a little dangerously.

@Kcar

I can’t get a priority pass.

There are no slots anyway.

I can’t walk far and I sometimes take my daughter with me to help me lift and carry things to and from the car. When I’m having a bad day.

You wouldn’t know that when you look at me though.

It’s important to me to get out of the house once every couple of weeks to pick the food I fancy.

I don't think anyone (sensible) would have a problem with that! But on the whole, that's unlikely to be the case when to have Mum,Dad& 3 kids. If the people who didn't need to didn't do it, it would be safer for people like you.

We go as a couple and my husband drives me there and stays in the car while I enjoy doing the shopping! In the first lock down there was mainly single shoppers except for some elderly people with a younger family member. Then it was back to whole families when lock down ended. Now it seems like a mix and the stores are not bothered so what will be will be!

There is a huge difference between 'guidance' and 'law'.
Please acquaint yourself with the difference between the two.

YANBU. I don't drive, my husband waits in the car for me

@Stripesnomore yes, that's shop workers. Who are in close proximity of each other for long shifts. Not shoppers who pass each other for a few seconds. If you're careful, sanitise before and after and wear a mask then the risk is extremely low. Test and trace doesn't consider people close contacts unless they have been closer than 2 meters for more than 15 minutes.

I agree. Single parents needing to bring kids is no issue. But two adults with three kids pratting about and getting in the way is just stupid.

If anyone wonders why we have a second lockdown, direct them to this thread. I've rarely seen such self centred excuse making.

Thanks for all playing your small part in the efforts against the virus

I go with my other half. if its a sainsburies local, one of us goes in and other stands outside.

If its the massive sainsburies, where its a 30 min shop, we won't do that - store much bigger so easier to distance, we both need to decide on stuff, neither wants to stand in the car park (no benches) for 30 mins in the cold. Both needed to carry stuff back.

We avoid the weekend and go week days anyway.

@sst1234

Why are people making excuses for why couples or families may need to go shopping together. No one needs an excuse, they should be able to do just because they want to. The pathetic COVID police need to quit with the monitoring of what people are doing. GROW UP.

This, in spades.

As for people saying that we need the virus to be defeated: I was pretty crap at Biology, but even I know that a virus does what a virus does, and that nobody is immortal.

@Mrsmorton

If anyone wonders why we have a second lockdown, direct them to this thread. I've rarely seen such self centred excuse making.

Thanks for all playing your small part in the efforts against the virus

No problem.

I consider my husband a vulnerable. He’d be in massive trouble if he didn’t help me with the big shop! YABU

@YoBeaches As an anxiety sufferer myself I respect that. I find shopping really cathartic and it gets me out of the house. However, I don't need to take my husband and three kids with me to do so.

We travel to shop together. Hubby does our shop and I shop with my own trolley for two others. Lidl Manager knows this because I have had previous conversations with him about this since April. They are happy my visits are valid and allow me to continue.

This type of thread has me wondering how some people ever coped without guidance and rules from the government, and how they will again.

I wear a mask, sanitise etc, etc and I live alone so go shopping on my own. But I couldn't care less if other people take their friend, partner or parent. As PP upthread: humans will act like humans.