Aibu? Are you really following lockdown rules?

[CoronaOneSoz]

I work and kids are at school but I've been following the lockdown rules. Not met anyone. I know I could bubble up as I'm a single parent. Anyway i spoke to my sister and parents today and they have all met up together. Sister has 2 kids and a husband, the kids go to school and they both work. My parents are still relatively young and work, no health issues. They also still have my other sister at home who also works. I was abit shocked but they just laughed and said they don't care they will still meet up. I'm not pissed off I'm more disappointed with them. Aibu for feeling like that? Just been told I need to lighten up as i told them they are breaking the rules.

We are in this mess because there is a global pandemic. Nobody caused it and nobody is responsible for ending it

Codename, you said what I was just trying to formulate.

I’m so sorry @LakieLady. What an incredibly tough time for you. 💐

Well according the the text I received from the NHS as I had tested negative I didn't need to isolate?
And if my mother tests positive I will isolate for 2 weeks and not get a test unless I develop symptoms, which is in line with NHS advice too. I never said I got a test without symptoms..

Yes we are following the rules. Our 14 year old went out with a friend and a football for a couple of hours this afternoon. I was a bit unsure about that one but think it is allowed and even if it isn't they are in the same classes at school and will be together inside week in week out.

Fast, that's my understanding too. One of my DC had symptoms, had a test which was negative. He isolated til he got the negative result, was told he didn't need to afterwards. If he had been positive we were preparing for 2 weeks isolation even though we were symptom free but thankfully he was ok.

I have been but I’ve had the plumber come in and carry on finishing my bathroom that he started the day the welsh lockdown was announced. Under the welsh guidelines he wasn’t allowed to carry on and should have downed tools and left us with everything made safe. Also we went and stayed in a hotel and met up with my Mum (for the first time this year) at 1pm when our local lockdown started at 6pm so not strictly breaking the rules! We had left before the lockdown started and it had been planned for a month or so.

@Grenlei yes, my job are letting people back to work if they provide proof of a negative test after symptoms. If you've been contacted by track and trace you obviously can't go back until the date stated by the track and trace team. I can't find advice anywhere that says you still have to isolate with a negative test result after symptoms unless you develop further symptoms. Happy to be corrected obviously though🤷‍♀️

I’m following the rules and as a single parent, am in a support bubble. Most people I know are adhering to the guidance.

For the most part, yes. In fact we've pretty much stuck to stricter rules than necessary throughout - working from home, only doing supermarket shopping and exercise and not going to other shops. We've had a couple of self catering holidays as a couple, a few meals out, and a handful of meet ups outside with family/friends.

But this week I'm stretching the boundaries by visiting my father for the first time since February. If he lived in the UK we could bubble with him as he lives alone, but he lives abroad so it's a bit more complicated than that! when our flights got cancelled (we were meant to fly today) he sounded more down than I've heard him since my mum died, and part of the reason for travelling this week was that it's the anniversary of her death. I've found alternative flights later in the week. I'm relatively comfortable that I can explain my reason for travelling if asked but it feels a bit naughty to be flying off to the sunshine when we're meant to be locked down!

Thanks, @RickOShay and @VinylDetective.

I've had better weeks, for sure.

@mangothoughts

We as a family are following the rules but I know of, and have seen, lots of people that are not.

We need to face up to the fact we live in a country where a significant number of our population, I might even go as far as saying the majority, do not have a social conscience. They do not care about people dying as it is not their mother/father/brother/sister etc. They are only concerned with what affects their own lives as those of their direct family/friends.

I do understand that many have extra pressures in terms of income or job losses or mental health but there are many thousands of people who are ignoring the rules because they are just plain selfish or don't like being told what to do. If EVERYONE stuck to the rules in the first lockdown, during the rule of six and during the local lockdowns we would be in a far better position than we are in now.

I totally agree with this

me too footbal - good post mangothoughts

I'm still going to work two days a week, on the train. Nothing has really changed for me, I live with my mum and we don't have any other family to visit.
I'm following the rules but I feel like it's not a proper lockdown as schools and universities are still open.

Yes, dh is working (outside or on his own), dds are in school, ds is home now as he is shielding. We get shopping, and go for a walk, but that's it.

Codename - you know that that is not what I meant. I know there is a pandemic ffs.

Nope. Over it. I've made enough sacrifices this year. Got to put my mental health first.

Mostly.We are isolating with ds 6 atm as there is a positive case in his class but after that we will still see family weekly.

Yes, we are. We live in an area with low Covid levels that were falling even lower before lockdown. It is a no brainer for me, not just to help the NHS and keep our levels low but also in solidarity with people in Greater Manchester and Liverpool for example. Finally, we have two sets of elderly parents and if they needed me, I must be assured that I present a low risk to their health.

I'm still going in to work, rather than WFH.
It's a temporary office, hardly anyone else uses it, so I'm by myself - say hello to the receptionist on the way in, occasionally see other people in the loo/corridor.
I don't drive or use public transport to get there, it gives me a couple of miles walk each day.
I live alone, so the alternative gives very little in terms of work/life balance, and I figure that I'm not putting myself or anyone else at additional risk.

Yes, but DP has to work in other people’s homes, so he might get it from there.
DD in school, so she might get it from there.
I work from home anyway, so absolutely no difference to my day to day life.

All of my family live hundreds of miles away, and they def haven’t been following the rules.
DB needs childcare for my niece several days a week (collecting her from school, then being with her within his house until he gets back from work).
My dad, who lives alone, does this a few days (has COPD!), but sees it as fine as they’re his support bubble.
However, my mum also looks after DN too, and goes on other days.
Her support bubble is her DP, who lives elsewhere, yet goes over to her house every few days to stay for a few nights.
He’s continuing to see his daughter, her husband, and son too...

None of them seem bothered anymore.
All of them are over the age of 70, so were in the shielding category during the first lockdown 🤔

I think it's got to a point now that you as an individual just need to do their own thing. People are becoming increasingly fed up of being told what not to do and where not to go that they are now rebelling.

I myself am following rules; not having anyone at my house, meeting one other person for walks etc.

Yup following the rules here.

Well I did a bike ride with the 4 members of my household (DH and DC) today which is over the exercise with 1 other rule so strictly speaking I have broken the rules. I can't really get het up about our family exercising outdoors together when one of my DC is in a year group bubble of 360 and we are told that is fine!

I've been diligent all the way through up to this, even leaving a close family member on their own in the first lockdown which was awful. One of my DC had to self-isolate through half term due to a case at school so we complied and are cutting non-essential contacts. People simply can't rein themselves in though, some people locally were adament they would still do trick or treating as usual despite our local council requesting people celebrate in different ways. It feels like an uphill battle, if people can take the piss they will and lockdown2 feels like its not going to get community spread down enough.

No not really, I'm usually a complete hermit anyway and don't go anywhere much but I have been to see my mum today who is terribly worried that all of her children and grandchildren are going to forget about each other and her if we don't see each other for 4 weeks and she wanted to see me on my birthday, my dad also came round to visit for about 15 minutes.