About DH loud eating and drinking

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I don't know if the lockdowns are getting to me. DH's loud eating and drinking is really getting to me. He eats snacks (crisps, nuts) every evening and I'm sick of the constant loud crunching. Every drink is swilled loudly around his mouth before swallowing. It used to just be wine he did this with but it's tea now too. Any drink. It's infuriating. Does this kind of thing bother anybody else? I have always been sensitive to loud eating so not sure it's just me.

No one has said the other person isn't allowed to eat or anything of the sort. Yeah, food is a pleasure in life, but that doesn't mean you have to snort, snaffle and make a performance out of eating. It is poor manners, imo. I don't care if someone goes 'Mmm this is so tasty!' or makes a noise that they are enjoying the food, but the racket that has been described in this thread is nothing short of impolite.

@Redannie118 sorry about Ex-H. It sounds like he was abusive though as I'm sure you recognise. None of us shout at our partners or name call as far as I have heard on the thread. I wouldn't dream of it. I am a massive foodie too and love eating but don't make a big performance of food, chomping open mouthed, sloshing it around and 'mmm-ing' loudly about it while swilling wine like mouthwash (as a PP described). I just get on with discreetly eating it.

Sounds like you were just eating normally and your partner was unreasonable.

I dont think any of us here need therapy.

@LesLavandes

Lol. My ex husband got up very early and would make himself a cup of green tea, natural yogurt and an apple. He brought it to bed, beside sleeping wife. Slurp slurp and omg, crunch crunch at 5.30 am.

Hmmm. We're divorced

What kind of person eats an apple at 5am next to their sleeping partner?

Tea, fine, but really!

@redannie118

I'm sorry you were in an abusive relationship, I really am. However

Remember the problem is with you- not the person eating.

This is simply untrue. As proven here, men in particular seem to think they can eat in the most mannerless way, even when their partners ask them to stop. I find it difficult to believe that this is simply a huge case of 'mysphonia' or the problem lying solely with the one hearing it. Many people have either been raised with bad eating manners, have breathing issues they refuse to acknowledge or simply don't care.

Living with a loud, noisy eater is awful. It ruins your own enjoyment of food, puts you off your partner, makes life quite miserable. It's not something you can tune out of, and it's not fair to have the blame put on you when it's not your awful behavior that's causing the problem.

@doctorhamster I am quivering with laughter at the "demented carp" description!

My husband even chews yoghurt- plain, natural yoghurt!

@ZoominMoomin oh god, yes the 'ding, ding, ding' of the fucking spoon when he eats anything from a bowl.
I usually say it's a good job we have plain plates and bowls or he'd take the fucking pattern off.

@ChasedByFox my DH manages to make eating yoghurt noisy too. And bowls of ice cream.

I can't deal with eating noises and it prompts such a strong response in me that I want to flee the room. I think it is misophonia and we have an understanding now when it comes to eating apples or biscuits near me.

One of the reasons I dumped a former boyfriend was because of his incessant slurping. It gave me the rage. I just wanted to punch him in the nose .
,I am having flashbacks thinking about it. Grim

[quote BrumBoo]@Directionerforever, God I feel you here. Genuinely think its irreversibly damaging my relationship as well. I haven't sat near my husband eating for a long time, I find him physically repulsive when he does.

I actually had to stop being ice lollies over summer, because not only was he slurping and somehow crunching them like crisps, he was also fellating them. Proper deep fucking throating. The embarrament was unreal, yet apparently cheek-fucking your Solero is totally normal and I'm unreasonable .[/quote]
Ha ha

This thread is incredible. For me, it's the evil-smelling darts, huge shits and the bragging afterwards. Absolutely knocks me.

@Buggabooboo

I wonder if alleged misophonia (is that the word?) is actually just men with poor table manners torturing their wives.

But I've no advice OP. Hide the snacks? Crunch at the same time he does so you can only hear yourself?

My DH sounds like a donkey eating apples. Its so loud the cat jumps! Dont think its misophonia either just loud eating

I give you excessive scraping of the bowl/plate. DH clears his plate like it's the last meal he'll ever eat. Even to the point of angling the bowl/plate so he can reach the last few molecules. Then he takes his napkin and with his elbow out at a 90 degree angle, he rubs it across his lips three times. Never twice. Or four times. Always three. Bloody three.