Is this year the worst year of your life?

[AbsentmindedWoman]

It's a shit year, I think virtually everyone would agree. But is it the worst you have lived through?

I'm bored, frustrated, and because I am chronically ill and depend heavily on access to specialist doctors for time-sensitive treatments, have a constant level of background anxiety in case SHTF and my doctors are forced to cancel. However, for me it's not the worst period of my life to date.

What about you? I'm interested in different perspectives on this, as we all are coming to the situation from very different places.

I’ve had a lovely year - I’m pregnant with my first baby, happy to be spending so much time with my husband - we are home working together everyday. No more commute

Lots of walks with friends

Have just bought our first house

The only crap bit is my family live in a different country and I can’t see them and I miss them terribly! Probably won’t see them again til March/April next year unfortunately

2015 was the hardest for me, this year had been delightful in comparison.

Possibly not ( so far). I havent lost my job or lost anyone close to me.
I still have the kids at home as they are sixth form age and Im not really looking forward to the empty nest, so am making the most of having them around.
Obviously Im worried about the fututre, and have had some very low moments, but Ive had some happy ones too.

I should add my sympathies are with anyone who answered yes

I've had big life shit happen in other years, but I cope with things like grief and stress with the distractions and comforts of seeing friends and family and things in the diary to look forwards to.

This is just drowning in lonely void of time with little autonomy left to do much about it. And no concrete hope of something to look forwards to.

I had a running race a couple of weeks ago. That week, the county went up to tier 2 and I didn't dare believe that it was actually going to happen until the night before because everything is so fragile and the goalposts changing so rapidly.

On balance, actually no. The chronic boredom, frustration and loneliness is unpleasant but I've accomplished personal things this year which have somewhat balanced it out.

Yes pretty much. Dh got heart failure, then got made redundant from a job he’d done for 24years.

He hated his job but it paid the bills. Heart appointment at a different hospital (first one told him no one else minds having heart problems) not till January and there’s still time for them to cancel.

this year all holidays canceled,stuck inside ,nothing to do board out my mind in comparison

to whats happened in my life

mild disability being a thorn in my side,lost several family members ,been homeless ,been broken down from being treated like crap

yet this year i am stuck inside in a nice home with my kids and enough money be fed and enough money for well cheap presents but stuff for christmas. It maybe a craptastic year but it could be so much worst my prayers are with those that this is the worst year of their life

I have had terrible years before this one, mostly due to deaths in the family, the most recent being 2018, which was a shocker. This year has not been as bad as that, but I could really have done without all this, just when life otherwise was starting to get easier.

Yes but not because of covid

Yes, this is the worst year of my life (and there are a few contenders), but not because of the pandemic. I think the pandemic is the cherry ont he cake, a cake made out of pooh and shards of glass.

2020 has been my best year so far. No one I know has died or been ill, including myself. A 1st in my life.
I'm enjoying it while it lasts.

Just about. My dad died in March, mum had to go into a carehome that day that I'd never seen (and never did), 2 weeks later I was having to make end of life decisions for her, and she died 2 weeks after that.
MIL is dying, and she and FIL are refusing to acknowledge it so she's suffering massively without a need to.
We've had bad years before, but this year no one wants to be supportive - partly its 'out of sight, out of mind' I think

By an absolute long shot, the worst ever.
Lost my mum on nye so the whole year was going to be shit without covid. She was my best friend, we had no warning.
I'm nowhere near done grieving, so haven't coped well at all.
Doesn't look like it'll get better any time soon, so it's plunged me into a deep depression, ruining my life.

That said I have a job and a home, so could be even worse, but I can't even begin to think like that.

Not even close. ignorance is bliss and anyone who feels this has been the worst year of their life purely due to lockdowns etc, I’m glad you’ve not suffered more than this and hope you get to stay in that bliss for many more years to come.

Definitely not. We had a lovely baby in July which has certainly brightened our year up and lockdown was tough but it had its upsides. DH will most likely never be at home for so long again until retirement for example. We got some things in the house sorted we kept putting off because we were so busy and we definitely had some valuable family time together, we watched the Harry Potter films over the course of a week which was nice- we’d never have such an opportunity otherwise.

The worst year of my life was 2017 although it also had its highlights but I had two 12 week miscarriages and almost died during the first one. I fell into the pits of depression and didn’t resurface until we had our DS in late 2018.

In many ways, yes. I am an extrovert and have hated not seeing a wide range of other people. I have worked harder than ever before in my life while cooped up in a home that is too small. I've put on nearly two stone in weight and am struggling to exercise.

However, my daughter turned two this year and has been such a total joy. Being her mother has made me happier than I ever expected. So in that way it's been a good year. I can only imagine how good life will get after the pandemic!

Not even close, boring and stressful yes.
But definitely not the worse year

Not my hardest year.

Ive felt more isolated then this year when experiencing depression so this year isnt hugely differeny

Ive felt more isolated from family members but not because of restrictions, more because of aspects of their personality coming to light. Facebook in times of blm, politics and corona has really highlighted some huge rifts in ideology between myself and family that i dont think i will get over

Nah....Its only the worst year of my life yet

Absolutely not! I became a mum for the first tine in April after fighting infertility for over 4 years and IVF treatment. 2020 gave me my miracle boy. It will always be a special year for me

Nope. I couldn't tell which was the worst year but the worst years were definitely when I was younger, I didn't have it as bad as some people, but between my sisters and my stepdad by the time I was in sixth form I was self harming every day and hanging myself from a tv fitting in my room hoping one day I'd let myself die.
So it may not be the best year but it's not that bad. We're lucky we haven't been massively financially impacted though.

Not by a long shot. My multiple chronic health issues are behaving, my job is fairly secure, I'm in an adapted house and I can walk more than 200m for the first time in years.

I am also very introverted so the lack of social contact actually is better for me.

I feel for more extroverted folks though!

Its a strange one, Lockdown has been good for me and DH as we have managed to save a fair bit of money and have kept our jobs (luckily!) However on the flipside, I had a miscarriage in lockdown and we are potentially facing fertility assistance which has been hard on both of us and the loss was horrendous so sometimes i feel like the world is falling apart but try and remain grateful for all the other things too

No it isn't, glad you asked as it's cheered me up a wee bit