Is this year the worst year of your life?

[AbsentmindedWoman]

It's a shit year, I think virtually everyone would agree. But is it the worst you have lived through?

I'm bored, frustrated, and because I am chronically ill and depend heavily on access to specialist doctors for time-sensitive treatments, have a constant level of background anxiety in case SHTF and my doctors are forced to cancel. However, for me it's not the worst period of my life to date.

What about you? I'm interested in different perspectives on this, as we all are coming to the situation from very different places.

Not good. I think it's all pretty shit. I feel ill and am in pain. No GP will see me and referrals are not recommended. I was given notice on my job this week.

I also think GP's and Consultants milking covid. My step-father told me that after his prostrate cancer op, no clinics are being run, no zoom calls, nothing. He won't be seen till at least next February and that'll have been over a year. My GP surgery aren't seeing patients physically. For 8 months of covid? And it's not going to change in the next 6 months. How is this ok?

No, the year I moved to London aged 23 for work was. I lived alone in an almost completely bare flat (tv broke and I couldn't afford to fix it) I had no friends, the area I lived in was so rough I was scared to go out at night but I had no phone in the flat and was reliant on using a public phone box to ring my family. My dad had a stroke then got made redundant. The school I worked in was just horrible..... unfriendly and cliquey. I used to sit in the stock cupboard and cry!!

This year I have my family close by and I can talk to them on Zoom whenever I like and they are all healthy and happy , my home is cosy, I have my ds and my friends and the school I work in is fab and I've been so proud of it through the pandemic.

Thank you for starting this thread actually it's helped focus my mind on how much I do have

Best year of my life for me , gotbteh job of my dreams , moved to a different country , escaped brexit. Got my family with me. Home of my dreams. I wake every day so grateful.

@Greenbks

Yes, I lost my son in February so I couldn’t give a toss about covid or anything else. I often wish I had non problems like the ppl you see on the news moan about like Christmas being cancelled or kids not being allowed out to play.

I haven’t complained since he died.

I'm so sorry @Greenbks

Only have a tiny family. My DD a carer on Frontline the worry of Covid during March April awful the worry of exam fiasco as Dgd awaiting to see if she got into the university of her choice and keeping eye on her anxiety levels awful. The lonliness is awful but it is nothing compared to those that lost loved ones. And I thank God every day that my tiny family are still here. To those that have lost loved ones 💐

Definitely not.

I think I turned it around, make lemonade and all that. Some aspects.

No. My worst year was when my DH got cancer and I got my made redundant shortly following his dad dying and then loads of other horrendous stuff happening for both families.
The lockdown part of this year was actually good for us. We were both paid to furlough and shield and had an unexpected, sunny, happy 3 month break.
I'm very anxious now though..covid is rife in our town and we are working through it in quite risky jobs. I'm scared for my DH and also family members who are vulnerable.

No but it’s not been great due to other things happening. Not covid related.

The worst year I've ever ever had. My nan died and now my 3 year old niece is in intensive care in a coma after having a bleed on her brain. I dont think I can take anymore this year.

Nope. In January 2008 our son was stillborn. There will never be a worse year.

Things are tough. Really tough. However Im a teacher so have job security (this has been a very hard work year but I do still have a job), we have all been safe and while there’s not much to look forward to currently I truly believe that this too will pass.
Should I have lost a loved one or my security as so many people have I would no doubt feel better. In the same boat but not the same experience and all of that.

Money, power imbalances, not wanting to upheaval their children, low self esteem.

No, I’ve had far worse. This year I’m refusing to let life just happen to me and am doing what I need to make it what I want.

The last 10 years of my life have been really really shit. This is just the shit icing on the cake. Before my life was shit but I had a world with things I get enjoyment from to escape to. Not I have a shit life in a shit world.

Not = now

Pretty awful, but 2010 was my annus horribilis with 2 deeply painful miscarriages and the sense of grief that ensued. This year has been grim, but my family has remained healthy and my husband and I are lucky enough to have our jobs still. Homeschooling was a very low point from a mental health perspective, but I know we have so much to be thankful for.

No, definitely not. I have lived through true hell before now, this ain't it.

Like many others - not by a long shot. I’d live like this for the rest of my life if it could bring my loved one back.

No, that would have been 2019 with an out of the blue cancer diagnosis and the rest of the year spent going through chemo, a double mx and radiotherapy. We were so excited about 2020 and had a couple of lovely holidays booked. BUT I'm alive and when I read of other people here losing their children I do believe nothing could ever compare to the pain of that.

Yes, I guess I am lucky to be able to say this has definitely been by miles the worst year of my life so far and I am 58. I am obviously priviliged and I feel so much for the people who have suffered major bereavements, illnesses and trauma along the way.

Today I am going out for a walk with my best friend. I've only seen her twice since Februaury. I can't hug her. I haven't touched anyone apart from my husband and children since March. It's a miserable way to live a life.

Some very difficult times mentioned on this thread

Second-worst for me I think. About 10 years ago I was nearly removed from the country due to an immigration error. I was only just establishing myself here, was paralysed by anxiety, new in my relationship, didn’t have much in the way of financial resources to throw at it.

This year -
Covid (obvs)
Miscarriage, handled badly due to covid
Relationship had a serious wobble
Close friendship went to the wall

But - we have our own home and garden. I started a new job that’s gives me enormous purpose. We have 3yo DD. DH’s work is going well. So lots of difficult things but also lots of light.

So far, no. Not by a long shot.

@Oblomov20 where are you? UK? This is horrendous and GP’s should be doing a phone triage and appointments.

All blood tests are as normal and consultants are definitely slower than usual but are there - can you give the medical secretary a call? This is what a I did when chasing up an appointment after 6 months of waiting.

Then I got booked in immediately.

Fight for your care. Contact your local Healthwatch if you’re in the UK.

Boris said specifically that he wants primary care services to keep running throughout Lockdown2 to avoid a new backlog.

No way

Not the worst so far. Its been way worse. It is pretty shit though