Is this year the worst year of your life?

[AbsentmindedWoman]

It's a shit year, I think virtually everyone would agree. But is it the worst you have lived through?

I'm bored, frustrated, and because I am chronically ill and depend heavily on access to specialist doctors for time-sensitive treatments, have a constant level of background anxiety in case SHTF and my doctors are forced to cancel. However, for me it's not the worst period of my life to date.

What about you? I'm interested in different perspectives on this, as we all are coming to the situation from very different places.

No. I was made redundant from a job I hated, which was the outcome I was hoping for.

I was pretty happy in lockdown. I've loved being at home more and getting a better balance in our family life.

Nobody I know has been ill. A friend died really horribly which was awful, but I think on balance we've been lucky.

So far!

Not by a long shot, it's hard definitely, and stressful, but no where near as hard as my adolescence was.

Not even close. One of my best ones yet

Yes. My life was fucking brilliant before covid. Even when sad or bad things happened to me, I enjoyed my life and my freedom!

I am even trying to ‘enjoy’ this period of my life as much as possible but I am frustrated and bored. ( I know that just being frustrated and bored is the best one can hope for in a pandemic though) but truly, do not want to live in interesting times. Would really go for some ‘precedented times’ right now.

I miss my life!

Yes, I lost my son in February so I couldn’t give a toss about covid or anything else. I often wish I had non problems like the ppl you see on the news moan about like Christmas being cancelled or kids not being allowed out to play.

I haven’t complained since he died.

No. These problems are external, not internal. I’ll take that any day of the week.

Not by a long shot!

I'm so sorry for your loss Greenbks

I'm always half full, so can look at the good things about this year. This is despite the fact my IVF ended in my 3rd MC in the middle of lockdown and DH couldnt come to any scans, I'm missing a significant family milestone birthday and they may not live long enough for me to see them again and DH has been waiting 8+ months for a basic hospital assessment.

@greenbks, I’m so very sorry for your loss

@Greenbks I am very sorry for the loss of your son.

No, the worst year of my life was losing my dad and brother in law in the same year. I’ve been lucky this year in that I’ve carried on working, as has my DH. Both jobs are safe. But the freedoms removed from us this year have been hard.

@Greenbks

Yes 100%. My mum died very suddenly and unexpectedly age 52, I've been working on COVID wards throughout and my relationship has ended. I honestly don't know how I'm still standing but I don't think its necessarily the pandemic that's caused things to be so bad. It's just made a terrible time a bit worse. Having said that I am grateful to have had work to focus on and I know I'm lucky to have a secure job. I'm trying to practise mindfulness and not sweat the small stuff. A work in progress!

Nope definitely not! Doesn't even come close. It's boring, and fairly stressful but nothing compared to previous years.

It’s been a seriously shit year for our family but there have definitely been much worse ones.

So sorry @Greenbks that certainly puts it into perspective. The loss of a child is the hardest pain.

For me this is not my worst year, very much first world problems so far. Still got a warm home, and enough food and family. My worst year was not to do with what happened that year but just terrible anxiety and depression which clouded everything. It was triggered by something but went on for a couple of years and really sucked the joy out of life for me (and unfortunately my family).

no, I feel very fortunate to have a job and not lost anyone (hopefully it stays that way) so it could
and has been much worse.

no, I feel very fortunate to have a job and not lost anyone (hopefully it stays that way) so it could
and has been much worse.

Also chronically ill and disabled.

It's weird - I've been doubly discriminated this year, lost my job before it even started, had our car break down expensively three times, two washing machines went bang in the space of a few weeks, fridge is about to go too, dog died, health stuff has happened, and pandemic...

But I've had so, so much worse on a personal level. I'm not a current victim of abuse, I'm not homeless, I'm not in a refuge, medical conditions I have are actually being recognised and diagnosed and treated, I've the support of my parent here, and being home with my kids taught me more about them both than I'd have ever had a clue about otherwise.

It's not my worst year. I've been let down and treated terribly but this isn't my worst year.

Yes but not really because of COVID just shitty life events

Yeah but not just because of COVID

@Greenbks I am very sorry for the loss of your son.

@greenbks, I’m so very sorry for your loss

Nope, not even close. 2018 was truly horrendous and 2019 was worse.

2020 is a breeze compared with them

No, not even close to the worst year. Not being able to go anywhere isn’t really a hardship, just a bit boring. Although I appreciate we’re very lucky that we have secure jobs and we haven’t had any family members or close friends fall ill.