Is this year the worst year of your life?

[AbsentmindedWoman]

It's a shit year, I think virtually everyone would agree. But is it the worst you have lived through?

I'm bored, frustrated, and because I am chronically ill and depend heavily on access to specialist doctors for time-sensitive treatments, have a constant level of background anxiety in case SHTF and my doctors are forced to cancel. However, for me it's not the worst period of my life to date.

What about you? I'm interested in different perspectives on this, as we all are coming to the situation from very different places.

Yes. But not because of Covid.

Yes

I’m a doctor and have had a fairly easy life until now - health/happiness etc.

This year has been the shittest of my life, and had some awful news today to top it all off.

Me and my colleagues are at breaking point.

Sorry to everyone who has suffered a loss

But for me personally, no. I was severely depressed around 2011-2013 combined with an eating disorder and self harm and had less severe relapses of the eating disorder in 2014 and the depression around 2017-2018.
Despite lockdown I have been much better off this year. I had an amazing holiday right at the beginning of the year which will probably be one of the best experiences of my life, I am fortunate to have a secure job which I enjoy and my living circumstances are now very good (living in a shithole was one of the causes of the second bout of depression so I am sympathetic to people who have suffered as a result of that over lockdown). I also have my wonderful partner now and I’m on good terms with my family even if we’re not allowed to meet in person at the moment. I also have a hobby I enjoy which gets me outside and regular zoom calls with my friends so I’m actually “seeing” them more than before.

Sorry for everyone's losses.

No not the hardest year I've ever had. Don't know if that's a good thing or bad thing really. I hope I've had the hardest years and they're behind me. Who knows what life deals you though?

to everyone struggling.

No, my daughter was born so it has been the best year of my life, which feels weird to say!

Not by a long shot.
Can't say I've not suffered with anxiety and depression plenty this year. And my chronic illness has had me more tired and in more pain than any other.

But
I actually enjoyed lockdown for the family time.
We extended our house after 10 years of saving for it.

The first year or two of motherhood had me suicidal, I had a massive breakdown and depended on a lot of meds and people. That was my worst.

Yes. Not just because of covid though.

I feel completely broken because of my existing problems, and covid is just the cherry on top.

I'm not sure because I was furloughed for 4 months over the Summer and it was a lovely break. Massive long walks every day, sunning myself in the park, catching up on my Kindle. It was exactly what I needed after so many years working full time.

No.

Loads of my colleagues are celebrating big achievements this year: first house purchases, babies, engagements, big promotions, verifications, getting funding for degrees, and we are happy for them.
Last year I grieved for three people and two close relationships.

Nope no personal tragedies (yet). It's a s* year I agree but I have been through much worse personally.

No where near it, I've had some bucked bad years.
I'm sorry for everyone who is having their worst x

No, not at all.

No. It’s not particularly enjoyable with the pandemic but I’ve been lucky not to have my job affected. Even with covid, my life is hugely preferable now to how it was pre-2018

This year has been tough, two parents deaths and losing my job but we have had a lot of support and a good safety net. I have had a few traumatic events in previous years where I had no savings and no support at all, those years were so much harder.

No. The worst year of my life was the year I watched my dad die slowly of cancer. As horrible as this year is, I count myself lucky that I am one of the blessed people that haven't lost anybody I love to covid. I have a roof over my head, food in my stomach and my health, as do my family so, no, I don't think it's the worst year of my life.

@Fromthetopmakeitdrop

Yes 100%. My mum died very suddenly and unexpectedly age 52, I've been working on COVID wards throughout and my relationship has ended. I honestly don't know how I'm still standing but I don't think its necessarily the pandemic that's caused things to be so bad. It's just made a terrible time a bit worse. Having said that I am grateful to have had work to focus on and I know I'm lucky to have a secure job. I'm trying to practise mindfulness and not sweat the small stuff. A work in progress!

That's awful. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Yes

*Covid&lockdown
*Cancellation of a dream holiday booked ages ago and hard worked for
*We've stock issues at work affecting my team productivity and morale;we're not hitting targets so my position is on the line
*My depression and anxiety are raging at the moment
*My marriage is shite as DH has mental health problems,they are worse than ever and he's behaving badly towards me as a result and home is a war zone.

And to top it off I have thrush that won't feck off;I'm in the 6th month of it and waiting an appointment with the hospital as the GP is out of treatment options for me.

Yes. I've lost everything that makes my life enjoyable. Wishing the days away. This lockdown might just drive me over the edge. Wish I could go to sleep and not wake up.

Not by a long shot infact I wouldn’t even rank it in the top ten worst years and I’m not even 40 yet!

I’ve had an unusually shitty life and numerous Ill health both physical and mental though so I’m probably not the “right” sort of person to answer.

I’m sorry to the people on here who are having a tough time though I hope things turn around soon and @Greenbks I’m very sorry, nothing I could say to you will even make a dent so I won’t try I’m just very sorry.

@Abouttimemum 💐 to you too, it really is absolutely horrific and unless you go through it yourself you really don't know. I'm so pleased you have your lovely DS now and they do get you through the hardest times don't they 🌈 I look at my DS and I just feel absolute overwhelming love and nothing else matters 💙

Not so far.

I lost my mum in August, through too late diagnosed lung cancer, if the doctor had wanted to come out to see her, instead of late night telephone consultations it might have been caught earlier instead of being put down to bronchitis. So this year has been one of the shittiest that I will ever experience.

Nope. Nowhere near.

Not so far.