To not want to give my dinner to the dog

[Zumarocks]

Lost it with DH today and would like to know everyone's thoughts on this totally unimportant issue! Every time I cook something that could potentially have leftovers for the dog, my DH will intervene before I have 'too much' or seconds because 'the dog could have that!'. At least 3 or 4 times now I have stated that I cooked it, and if I want to eat it I will. Then comes a chorus of 'poor doggie....mummy ate your dinner....' etc. Any time I go out anywhere, I always, without fail, sort out food for everyone before I go. Today I went for a haircut. Made a shepherds pie for everyone before I went. Got back to leftovers. Was starving so just took the dish out of the oven and started eating. DH comes in, 'oh are you just eating it straight out of there!' 'Yes, yes I am, because I'm starving'! I laughed. ' Oh I thought the dog could have some of that!' he said. 'I said not likely, I'm really hungry!' He then said 'but there was loads in there!!'. At this point I lost my shit. I had literally had 2 mouthfuls OF THE DINNER I COOKED. In a totally melodramatic gesture I put the whole lot in the dog's bowl so it was overflowing, whilst shouting that he had zero respect for me and that I am totally at the bottom of the pile. Everyone else gets to eat their dinner no problem, but if I have the audacity to eat THE THING I BLOODY COOKED I get told it's not fair on the dog. FFS. I said when he starts cooking he will get to bloody well decide what the dog gets. And breathe.

Keep the dog , tell him to eff off

YADNBU, i wouldve hit the roof

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius that probably would go to the dog 😆

Next time serve him his dinner and after mouthful two swipe the plate from under his nose and stick it under the dog’s.

The dog is not a human. Dogs shouldn’t have a lot of salt in their meals either, so unless you are cooking low salt meals using salt free/low salt gravy, it’s not really good for the dog.

The dog needs to know it’s place in the family too. If there are leftovers it will wait until everyone is finished eating otherwise you may get issues with food around it. It it’s having complete dog food it doesn’t need human food, so waiting until everyone is finished and having a few scrapings in it’s bowl won’t cause any psychological trauma.

Your dh‘s way of treating the dog could cause behavioural problems though.

Honestly OP if this was my DH I’d make amazing dinners every day for at least a week, his favourite stuff and plate it up in the kitchen.

Bring him out a 2-3 tablespoon portion, everyone else’s normal and throw him a
‘Dog was looking very hungry and there wasn’t much left over so I gave him most of yours. I knew you wouldn’t mind’
‘Turned out id made less than I thought and dog looked so sad. I shared yours with him’
‘Don’t be greedy, dog was hungry too. Selfish daddy wanting to eat all his food’

different variations of that every single day for a week! If he gets grumpy throw a ‘well if your dinner really isn’t enough for you you can make yourself something else too, but greedy though really’

I’m pretty petty like this though OP, and I do all the cooking in our house too, which is why DH NEVER rocks the boat.

@Zumarocks

Now I recall he did make a series of comments January before last about my meals not being ‘healthy’ (they are perfectly balanced but he eats a huge amount of them and had gorged himself over Christmas so was suddenly feeling the need to be ‘healthy’)

It irritated me as I eat a normal human amount and felt it was unfair he was labelling my cooking unhealthy because he lacked self control.
I did serve him steamed vegetables for about 3-4 days before he apologised.

This is one of the aspects of having a dog I really don’t like. Husband automatically gives all leftovers to the dog. Our food bill is sky high and it really annoys me I can’t plan meals with the extra meat, meat is so expensive anyway and he’s a very large dog so needs dog food as well, so I just feel so annoyed by it. I’d love to do the whole “rubber chicken” or whatever it’s called after a roast, and make some chicken pie etc but it all goes in the dog.

I'm off to make a cottage pie for tonight's tea nom nom. With onions.

Possibly with a lasagne on the side for tomorrow.

😊

I'd plate the dog your DHs food. And serve DH the food you know you specifically bought for the dog.

Why waste the food you've actually bought the dog.

If I was in your situation, every time it got mentioned, I’d empty the food into the dog bowl and order myself a takeaway.

I’d also be having a really long hard think about whether I wanted to be with someone like that . . . .

Not sure if anyone mentioned yet - I have read the entire thread very carefully, but just want to be sure in case I missed it - but did anyone mention that human food isn’t ok for dogs? And onions definitely aren’t??

OP, he’s being a prat. YANBU. But next time put his dinner in the dog, not yours.

What is a tip-bit?!

@BabyofMine

This is one of the aspects of having a dog I really don’t like. Husband automatically gives all leftovers to the dog. Our food bill is sky high and it really annoys me I can’t plan meals with the extra meat, meat is so expensive anyway and he’s a very large dog so needs dog food as well, so I just feel so annoyed by it. I’d love to do the whole “rubber chicken” or whatever it’s called after a roast, and make some chicken pie etc but it all goes in the dog.

Why are you putting up with it? If you’re telling H not to give it to the dog and he’s it listening then you’ve got big issues. Does he cook?

*not listening

Cook less so that there's not enough for the dog or the husband?

I'm not sure though why you didn't just tell him to fuck off & you'd eat what you wanted tbh.

Why does he think the dog must always have something though?

Is your DH otherwise controlling about your eating habits?
Or is this literally about the dog?
It sounds like he thinks you are greedy. He is rather cheeky I have to say!

How can you be starving if you've just eaten your dinner? Enough to go and eat out of the baking dish?

Maybe you DH thinks it's piggy behaviour or has issues with you putting on weight?

Maybe the dog is a red herring.

Surely it makes most sense to put a decent size portion on your plate. Eat that and be satisfied. The dog doesn't need your dinner or DHs. He has his own.

You are both unreasonable.

@goldenharvest

How can you be starving if you've just eaten your dinner? Enough to go and eat out of the baking dish?

Maybe you DH thinks it's piggy behaviour or has issues with you putting on weight?

Maybe the dog is a red herring.

Surely it makes most sense to put a decent size portion on your plate. Eat that and be satisfied. The dog doesn't need your dinner or DHs. He has his own.

You are both unreasonable.

OP had just got in; the others had eaten but she hadn’t. There was a leftover portion in the dish for OP which she, perfectly reasonably, was eating.

It’s up to OP whether she fancies eating off a plate or whether she’s happy to use a perfectly good dish (which also saves making another plate dirty).

He is not her boss, he is not the big man in charge of food. She cooks it and she’s entitled to eat as much of it as she wants, provided everyone else has also had what they want or need.

@goldenharvest

How can you be starving if you've just eaten your dinner? Enough to go and eat out of the baking dish?

Maybe you DH thinks it's piggy behaviour or has issues with you putting on weight?

Maybe the dog is a red herring.

Surely it makes most sense to put a decent size portion on your plate. Eat that and be satisfied. The dog doesn't need your dinner or DHs. He has his own.

You are both unreasonable.

Have you read even the first post?

it was ops dinner aswell

jesus christ

hold the onions

I assume your dog has his own dinner so will not starve. I absolutely spoil our cats especially the boy because he's a terror for human food BUT he doesn't have our dinner! I was very clear at each mealtime when DS was younger that the cat didn't get his dinner. If your DH thinks the dog is going without he should give him HIS dinner. I couldnt imagine guilt tripping anyone let alone someone I loved into giving their dinner to an animal

Someone cancel the onions!

You need to go on meal preparation strike and cook only for yourself for at least 2 weeks. Seriously. Your DH needs to see the effort you go to and appreciate you more.