To not want to give my dinner to the dog

[Zumarocks]

Lost it with DH today and would like to know everyone's thoughts on this totally unimportant issue! Every time I cook something that could potentially have leftovers for the dog, my DH will intervene before I have 'too much' or seconds because 'the dog could have that!'. At least 3 or 4 times now I have stated that I cooked it, and if I want to eat it I will. Then comes a chorus of 'poor doggie....mummy ate your dinner....' etc. Any time I go out anywhere, I always, without fail, sort out food for everyone before I go. Today I went for a haircut. Made a shepherds pie for everyone before I went. Got back to leftovers. Was starving so just took the dish out of the oven and started eating. DH comes in, 'oh are you just eating it straight out of there!' 'Yes, yes I am, because I'm starving'! I laughed. ' Oh I thought the dog could have some of that!' he said. 'I said not likely, I'm really hungry!' He then said 'but there was loads in there!!'. At this point I lost my shit. I had literally had 2 mouthfuls OF THE DINNER I COOKED. In a totally melodramatic gesture I put the whole lot in the dog's bowl so it was overflowing, whilst shouting that he had zero respect for me and that I am totally at the bottom of the pile. Everyone else gets to eat their dinner no problem, but if I have the audacity to eat THE THING I BLOODY COOKED I get told it's not fair on the dog. FFS. I said when he starts cooking he will get to bloody well decide what the dog gets. And breathe.

The question now is, have I done enough? Has the message sunk in?!

Doubt it

The question now is, have I done enough? Has the message sunk in?!

Do it every night. Either he will be fine with it - problem solved. Or he will realise the whole thing is pointless - problem solved.

Just hold firm that it is his idea so his portion not yours that goes to the dog.

By the way, not sure if anyone mentioned but dogs really shouldn't have onions?

Dogs should eat dog food and not where humans are eating....we were away over half term and went to a "restaurant" for a meal. Furious as several dogs in there all barking at each other. One family decided to get a plate and take some off each of their plates and give it to the dog to eat with them....made me feel sick.

Just felt like they may as well sit the dog in a chair at the table and eat with them

@Zumarocks

The question now is, have I done enough? Has the message sunk in?!

No. You need to give ALL of his dinner WITHOUT ASKING HIM to the dog, AFTER HE HAS STARTED EATING IT. Just whip it out from under his nose.

"No. You need to give ALL of his dinner WITHOUT ASKING HIM to the dog, AFTER HE HAS STARTED EATING IT. Just whip it out from under his nose."

Why?

He didn't force Op to give any of her dinner to the dog, or take it away from her & give it to the dog himself.

Fuck that for a joke, Your dh is a dick
I'd be dishing him up dog food. He would also be on the floor sleeping with the dog.

I’m no dog expert but I thought dogs weren’t supposed to eat human food, don’t they have some sort of special diet?

What do you think dogs are for the millennia before commercial dog food was invented?

'people food' is just food, so long as you leave out the things that are toxic.

Commercial dog food is horrendous and I'd never feed it to my dogs. It's made out of waste from commercial people food, and the 5 D's - dead, diseased, dying, disabled, and I can't remember the other one.

But appropriate 'people' food is much better for them.

Why are you asking him? Just do it every night, without asking his permission.

@HollyandIvyandallthingsYule

Why are you asking him? Just do it every night, without asking his permission.

Why?

Husband hasn't been giving her food away has he?

Op needs to make sure she eats as much as she wants.

In general it’s not good for dogs to eat humans food anyway. Buy a bag of decent dog food!

@Elizaaa

I’m no dog expert but I thought dogs weren’t supposed to eat human food, don’t they have some sort of special diet?

What do you think dogs are for the millennia before commercial dog food was invented?

'people food' is just food, so long as you leave out the things that are toxic.

Commercial dog food is horrendous and I'd never feed it to my dogs. It's made out of waste from commercial people food, and the 5 D's - dead, diseased, dying, disabled, and I can't remember the other one.

But appropriate 'people' food is much better for them.

Royal Canin rejected chicken gets sold to KFC actually!!

No member of any family should be asked to hold back what they eat in order for the dog to have the leftovers. Ever. Just make that a rule in your house and the first person to break it (obv it will be OH) has to give dog all his dinner the following night.

It's so rude to comment like this while someone is eating. OH will sometimes say something like "Hungry are we?" or "Looks like you didn't like that! wink " when I am eating with gusto. Wtf? So rude. I'm not overweight, I eat much less than he does and I NEVER comment on how much he eats. OP I would have done same as you and dumped all my dinner in the dog's bowl in anger!

Is he fat shaming you? Anyway, presuming you put onions in your shepherd's pie, they and garlic are toxic to dogs. Words fail me in describing what I think of him. He is vile and clearly has no respect for you.

@Zumarocks

The question now is, have I done enough? Has the message sunk in?!

Sorry, but no. Well, not yet.

Next time, don't ask him first, just do it. When he (eventually) asks what the bloody hell you're doing, tell him that he made it clear to you that he wants the dog to eat your cooking, and you're ensuring that the dog's portion is part of his portion, and nobody else's. Because it's him who wants the dog to have it, so it's up to him to make it available to the dog by having less himself.

A once off won't be enough imo, I'd do it for a week at least, after that I doubt he will ever dare mention taking food from you to give to the dog

LittleOwl153 Tue 03-Nov-20 20:40:35
I would simply not bother plating him any tomorrow. Just put his portion in the dog bowl see how he likes it. You could be generous and give him a couple of teaspoons!

Yes this.....

No it won’t be enough because in his mind he will have “proved” to you that he’s willing to share his dinner with the dog so therefore you should have to do so too. You’ll need to keep it going and keep halving his protein and putting it in the dog’s bowl. If you stop now he’ll see it as a win for him and you’ll be forever condemned to sharing with the dog just because he did it for one bloody night.

@Zumarocks

The question now is, have I done enough? Has the message sunk in?!

I'd keep on for a few more days, at least. And I'd consider making his portion smaller than the dog's! But then I am mean and horrible.

You should have sat the dog at the table and served your husband his half portion into the dog bowl.

My partner would never pull this shit with me as he knows what a crazy bitch I am. I’d have booked him a castration at the vet and locked him in a cage if he tried a similar stunt.

@justanotherneighinparadise

You should have sat the dog at the table and served your husband his half portion into the dog bowl.

My partner would never pull this shit with me as he knows what a crazy bitch I am. I’d have booked him a castration at the vet and locked him in a cage if he tried a similar stunt.

Gee, and I was going to suggest a leash and muzzle...I like yours better, or BOTH.

Dogs are not supposed to eat onion so put that in the pies and if DH makes anymore stupid remarks, put his dinner plate on the floor next to your dog. Tell DH to read what RVC says about feeding pets, leftovers are not the ideal food and the breed and weight of the dog should be considered. BTW castrations only take a few minutes, you could tell DH that!

Maybe he's just thoughtless or a numpty. If he had to cook now and then he may not be this way plus it will make him fat, the dog not the husband

@LittleOwl153

I would simply not bother plating him any tomorrow. Just put his portion in the dog bowl see how he likes it. You could be generous and give him a couple of teaspoons!

100% this. This is what I would do 👍🏻

you cooked for him and then 'asked' him for permission basically - you gave him the opportunity to take the piss out of you again.

how about not cooking for him for a chnage and leaving him to sort himself out?
Or treating him EXACTLY as he treats you - keep putting his portion in the dogs bowl and carry on nonchalant until HE gets wound up and ASKS YOU wtf you're doing?

Op is his dinner in the dog yet?