To not want to give my dinner to the dog

[Zumarocks]

Lost it with DH today and would like to know everyone's thoughts on this totally unimportant issue! Every time I cook something that could potentially have leftovers for the dog, my DH will intervene before I have 'too much' or seconds because 'the dog could have that!'. At least 3 or 4 times now I have stated that I cooked it, and if I want to eat it I will. Then comes a chorus of 'poor doggie....mummy ate your dinner....' etc. Any time I go out anywhere, I always, without fail, sort out food for everyone before I go. Today I went for a haircut. Made a shepherds pie for everyone before I went. Got back to leftovers. Was starving so just took the dish out of the oven and started eating. DH comes in, 'oh are you just eating it straight out of there!' 'Yes, yes I am, because I'm starving'! I laughed. ' Oh I thought the dog could have some of that!' he said. 'I said not likely, I'm really hungry!' He then said 'but there was loads in there!!'. At this point I lost my shit. I had literally had 2 mouthfuls OF THE DINNER I COOKED. In a totally melodramatic gesture I put the whole lot in the dog's bowl so it was overflowing, whilst shouting that he had zero respect for me and that I am totally at the bottom of the pile. Everyone else gets to eat their dinner no problem, but if I have the audacity to eat THE THING I BLOODY COOKED I get told it's not fair on the dog. FFS. I said when he starts cooking he will get to bloody well decide what the dog gets. And breathe.

@user1468538201 serious question - how do you refer to your dh when “speaking” to the dog?

He’s being an absolutely arsehole, and both of you are potentially putting your dog at risk. Human leftovers generally aren’t good for dogs - onions, garlic and chives are toxic to them even in small amours, and most human dishes contain far too much salt for dogs.

Your dog should be eating dog food and your husband should stop policing what you eat because he’s being a real arsehole about it.

@LolalovesLondon

Yep, give his dinner straight to the dog.

Don’t forget to say with every mouthful the dog takes ‘aww, doggy are you enjoying daddy’s dinner? Good boy’

Your DH his an annoying AH

Omg yes. So do this. What a twat.

@LolalovesLondon

Yep, give his dinner straight to the dog.

Don’t forget to say with every mouthful the dog takes ‘aww, doggy are you enjoying daddy’s dinner? Good boy’

Your DH his an annoying AH

Omg yes. So do this.

A more subtle revenge: start putting onions in the shepherds pie, so the do CAN'T have it. If you DH doesn't like onions: bonus.

Tomorrow's menu:
French Onion Soup
Onion Bhajis
Onion tart

Shame your DH (and the dog) can't partake

Feed your dog proper food a proper balanced biologically appropriate diet not human cooked food with onions veggies potatoes rice etc in which is all bad food for dogs.

What an absolute cheek !!!! ... I don't know much about dogs .. but if my DH suggested I gave my dinner to the cat he could fuck right off !!! ( apart from my cat is fat and not allowed human food !!) ...

Sweetcorn isn't bad for dogs

Dogs have their own balanced food, they don’t need to eat what we do

I would now be telling him to cook his and the dogs meal himself

Being the petty arsehole I am, I'd put minuscule portions on everyones plate, leaving the lions share for the dog.
Nope, that's the dogs dinner.
It's important were kind to doggo.
And pointedly look at DH.
Then take kids for something else to eat.

Your H is U. Massively.

He sounds very controlling tbh. Thinking he can dictate what you eat. Dismissing your need for food that is a basic survival NEED. But not arguing about you cooking it all. Why dousnt he give his dinner to the dog ? He sounds like a dick

He sounds very controlling tbh. Thinking he can dictate what you eat. Dismissing your need for food that is a basic survival NEED. But not arguing about you cooking it all. Why dousnt he give his dinner to the dog ? He sounds like a dick

Absolutely nothing unreasonable about what you did, but I’m sorry that you didn’t get much dinner after your dramatic gesture. I would have done the same and regretted the lack of food for me later!

Your DH needs to have a serious think about why he is putting the dog’s needs above yours.

Absolutely nothing unreasonable about what you did, but I’m sorry that you didn’t get much dinner after your dramatic gesture. I would have done the same and regretted the lack of food for me later!

Your DH needs to have a serious think about why he is putting the dog’s needs above yours.

but if my DH suggested I gave my dinner to the cat he could fuck right off

Yes, quite. Once in a blue moon I do a roast. The cat is given a VERY small portion of the meat, because she loves it. This happens maybe 5 times a year at most. Christmas and birthdays type thing.

I think it's really irresponsible to regularly give your pet food that isn't good for them. Your DH sounds stupid, and sexist.

I'd just stop cooking for him and add onions to everything that needs onions. I love onions. I'm not just saying that either,I rarely cook for OH anymore.

He's a grownup,he can sort himself out and if he really must he can sort the dog out too.

Tomorrow's menu:
French onion soup
Onion bhajis
Onion tart

Shame DH (and the dog) can't partake

A more subtle revenge: start putting onions in the shepherds pie, so the do CAN'T have it. If you DH doesn't like onions: bonus.

YABU for not posting a photo of this starving doggo.
Also I’ll assume the dog has her own top quality food and not all human food is suitable for her.

Was it your first portion of dinner, or was it leftovers after you'd already had your main helping?

Not that either would excuse your DH, but I can't understand why he would make those comments if it was your actual plate of food that you were having for dinner. Did he expect you to eat nothing?

but if my DH suggested I gave my dinner to the cat he could fuck right off

Yes, quite. Once in a blue moon I do a roast. The cat is given a VERY small portion of the meat, because she loves it. This happens maybe 5 times a year at most. Christmas and birthdays type thing.

I think it's really irresponsible to regularly give your pet food that isn't good for them. Your DH sounds stupid, and sexist.

@Zumarocks

To clarify for those who are concerned by my hygiene, it was just 'my' dinner left in the serving dish, and he had piled the leftover veg in there, so as far as I was concerned, it was all mine. No onions because they upset DH!

Seems like the sensible option is to start including onions at every meal. None for DH or the dog then. Dog gets her dog food, DH can fend for himself.

I wonder if it's a form of control, for him to limit how much you eat or to fit his idea of how much you can eat. The dog is just a convenient way to hide it behind emotional blackmail and being a good dog daddy( not envy).

He sounds like a pain in the arse. I couldn’t put up with him. I love my dogs, but our food is our food, and it’s not a given that they get scraps. I can’t bear dogs standing watching us eat drooling!

If your husband can’t tolerate onions I’d put them on bloody everywhere and leave a nice can of chum for him to share with his doggy!