To not want to give my dinner to the dog

[Zumarocks]

Lost it with DH today and would like to know everyone's thoughts on this totally unimportant issue! Every time I cook something that could potentially have leftovers for the dog, my DH will intervene before I have 'too much' or seconds because 'the dog could have that!'. At least 3 or 4 times now I have stated that I cooked it, and if I want to eat it I will. Then comes a chorus of 'poor doggie....mummy ate your dinner....' etc. Any time I go out anywhere, I always, without fail, sort out food for everyone before I go. Today I went for a haircut. Made a shepherds pie for everyone before I went. Got back to leftovers. Was starving so just took the dish out of the oven and started eating. DH comes in, 'oh are you just eating it straight out of there!' 'Yes, yes I am, because I'm starving'! I laughed. ' Oh I thought the dog could have some of that!' he said. 'I said not likely, I'm really hungry!' He then said 'but there was loads in there!!'. At this point I lost my shit. I had literally had 2 mouthfuls OF THE DINNER I COOKED. In a totally melodramatic gesture I put the whole lot in the dog's bowl so it was overflowing, whilst shouting that he had zero respect for me and that I am totally at the bottom of the pile. Everyone else gets to eat their dinner no problem, but if I have the audacity to eat THE THING I BLOODY COOKED I get told it's not fair on the dog. FFS. I said when he starts cooking he will get to bloody well decide what the dog gets. And breathe.

Depending on the size of the dog extra dinner that frequently could easily tip them overnight.

People food isn't really appropriate for dogs, even without the onions shepherds pie isn't exactly a balanced doggie diet.

I'd send him a load of links about how bad it is for the poor dog to be getting your leftovers.

I'd also be tempted to cook more thinks the dog obviously can't have, to remove the temptation of over feeding her.

I say this as someone who is constantly fighting a losing battle against DD(4) leaving food where our dog can get it (not proper toxic stuff, we don't have grapes or raisins in the house after the 'mince pie incident' of Xmas 2016, and onions are eaten only when the dogs are the other side of the stair gate). And having to pick up the resultant runny poos if the dog snaffles a bit of cheese by accident.

Make a nice meat pie with a tin of dog food (or at least make him think that!) and serve it to him for dinner. When he asks why you are having something else tell him that you don't like eating dog food.

That's so rude, if he wants to feed the dog he should've taken some out his own meal earlier. I hope the dog isn't carrying extra weight from the DH feeder habit, as much like us carrying excess weight causes so many health issues, ultimately cutting short their life.

He could just cook a bit of extra veg & put aside for the dog before dishing up, at least that shouldn't add too many calories. My own dogs are pretty spoiled, but i wouldn't give them a share of my every meal, they often have some healthy human foods (meat/fish/ veg/eggs/yoghurt) as part of their diet with kibble but have to watch amounts to keep trim.

Dogs really shouldn’t eat much “Human food” for instance I only recently found out onions are bad for dogs.

I’d tell your DH to fuck off to be honest. He sounds like a dick. If he carries on cook for yourself and not for him or the dog.

@Happymum12345

I’m terrible at giving half my dinner to my dog! However, I don’t think I’d be too pleased of my dh decided to give my dinner away if I really wanted it though!

Please don’t do this. You are training him to beg, get addicted to salt and sugar (like us humans are) and essentially shortening his/her life.

Absolutely agree with pp that you should serve up his portion then immediately take it back and transfer half of it to the dog's bowl.

Why are you complaining, husband dear, you do like to ensure there's enough for the dog don't you? I think this is how I'll be doing it from now on. Can't have the dog go hungry, as you always say.

@Happymum12345

I’m terrible at giving half my dinner to my dog! However, I don’t think I’d be too pleased of my dh decided to give my dinner away if I really wanted it though!

Please don’t do this. You are training him to beg, get addicted to salt and sugar (like us humans are) and essentially shortening his/her life.

Tomorrow cook the same amount, dish it up but put your husbands option in the dog bowl and put some canned dog food on your husbands plate. And say 'ah look, daddy wants you to eat like him'. I hate hearing anyone being referred to as parents to dogs, its drives me nuts. I have 4 dogs and I'm certainly not their mother.

@Happymum12345

I’m terrible at giving half my dinner to my dog! However, I don’t think I’d be too pleased of my dh decided to give my dinner away if I really wanted it though!

If you love your dog please do not do this. You are training him/her to beg and like salt,sugar, carbs, etc in human quantities which could bring on diabetes and an early death.

FFS. The MN gremlins are out tonight. Double posts, losing posts, repeating posts etc.

@Zumarocks

To clarify for those who are concerned by my hygiene, it was just 'my' dinner left in the serving dish, and he had piled the leftover veg in there, so as far as I was concerned, it was all mine. No onions because they upset DH!

TBH I would put onions in it

Wow, isn't shepherds pie toxic for dogs, since it's got onions and garlic in it? (totally missing the point but still worried.)

This has given me rage on your behalf and I don't even have a dog.

I am not a dog person and never had one but isn't the specific food dogs should or should not have?

@Zumarocks

To clarify for those who are concerned by my hygiene, it was just 'my' dinner left in the serving dish, and he had piled the leftover veg in there, so as far as I was concerned, it was all mine. No onions because they upset DH!

TBH I would put onions in it

FFS. The MN gremlins are out tonight. Double posts, losing posts, repeating posts etc.

Why didn't your DH feed the dog before the rest of the family ate? The animals in our family always get fed before humans. Makes life easier.

Why didn't your DH feed the dog before the rest of the family ate? The animals in our family always get fed before humans. Makes life easier.

@Happymum12345

I’m terrible at giving half my dinner to my dog! However, I don’t think I’d be too pleased of my dh decided to give my dinner away if I really wanted it though!

If you love your dog please do not do this. You are training him/her to beg and like salt,sugar, carbs, etc in human quantities which could bring on diabetes and an early death.

Just make sure DH is always fed last. He can share his portion with the dog.

@Happymum12345

I’m terrible at giving half my dinner to my dog! However, I don’t think I’d be too pleased of my dh decided to give my dinner away if I really wanted it though!

If you love your dog please do not do this. You are training him/her to beg and like salt,sugar, carbs, etc in human quantities which could bring on diabetes and an early death.

Then comes a chorus of 'poor doggie....mummy ate your dinner....' etc.
No onions because they upset DH!
Any time I go out anywhere, I always, without fail, sort out food for everyone before I go.

This thread is really confusing.

@Zumarocks. On MN, DH means darling husband. I'm not clear whether you are using DH for your young child or an adult with additional needs that you care for? Both can be very stressful but YWBU to shout at him- he doesn't know any better. Do you have a partner who can perhaps pick up some slack for a while?

I don't understand why you are eating the kiddie meals. Just make yourself a real shepherd's pie while you make him the flavourless mush. You aren't letting DH use the oven are you?

Even though the kiddie food contains no onion, garlic (and presumably salt or spice) it is still not great for the dog. I know kids(?) can be really persistent but you need to teach him to look after the dog properly. He obviously needs firmer boundaries but try to distract him so it doesn't become a battle.

Let him help put actual dog food in the bowl. Explain why doggies need special food. Teach him to be careful with the scissors or can opener. Use lots of praise if he can manage it by himself. Reward him for being good with 5 minutes of screen time.

@37weekswithno2

Wow he's a fucking dick.

Lots of human dinners aren't suitable for a dog too.

This!

I’d just start giving your DH dog food from now onward and leave him to do the sharing.

@OgwdihwO

Gosh I bet your dog’s shit is horrible to pick up! Does he fart alot too?!

Not like regular dogshit, which is lovely to pick up

Put his on the table for him. In the dogs bowl.