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To not want to give my dinner to the dog

356 replies

Zumarocks · 03/11/2020 20:31

Lost it with DH today and would like to know everyone's thoughts on this totally unimportant issue! Every time I cook something that could potentially have leftovers for the dog, my DH will intervene before I have 'too much' or seconds because 'the dog could have that!'. At least 3 or 4 times now I have stated that I cooked it, and if I want to eat it I will. Then comes a chorus of 'poor doggie....mummy ate your dinner....' etc. Any time I go out anywhere, I always, without fail, sort out food for everyone before I go. Today I went for a haircut. Made a shepherds pie for everyone before I went. Got back to leftovers. Was starving so just took the dish out of the oven and started eating. DH comes in, 'oh are you just eating it straight out of there!' 'Yes, yes I am, because I'm starving'! I laughed. ' Oh I thought the dog could have some of that!' he said. 'I said not likely, I'm really hungry!' He then said 'but there was loads in there!!'. At this point I lost my shit. I had literally had 2 mouthfuls OF THE DINNER I COOKED. In a totally melodramatic gesture I put the whole lot in the dog's bowl so it was overflowing, whilst shouting that he had zero respect for me and that I am totally at the bottom of the pile. Everyone else gets to eat their dinner no problem, but if I have the audacity to eat THE THING I BLOODY COOKED I get told it's not fair on the dog. FFS. I said when he starts cooking he will get to bloody well decide what the dog gets. And breathe.

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Frouby · 03/11/2020 21:04

It's not good to feeds your dog human food tbh. Shepherds pie will have salt in it from the stock, probably onion etc. He's much better with balanced dog food, a few scraps of good meat or veg won't hurt tho.

Wrt your dh I would just tell him to fuck off the next time he comes out with this shit. Tell him to give his own dinner to the dog.

Mind you, I'm usually the one wrestling perfectly fresh bread and veg off dh to take to the chickens, bread also isn't good for them and technically not allowed. But he if escalated to trying to feed my actual dinner to the pets, while I was actually eating it I wouldn't be happy. He's also got form for using veg ingredients for the Guinea Pigs.

Shoxfordian · 03/11/2020 21:04

Tell him its steak night then give the dog his fillet

HollyandIvyandallthingsYule · 03/11/2020 21:05

Next time you serve up his dinner snatch the plate back off him just as he starts eating and give half of it to the dog.

Continue doing this at every mealtime until he apologises and is sincere about it.

That would make me so cross. How ungrateful and disrespectful.

badacorn · 03/11/2020 21:05

YANBU. if I put a meal in front of my husband and his first reaction was to be concerned that THE DOG could eat plenty of it, I’d be furious. That is so, so disrespectful.

ConstantlySeekingHappiness · 03/11/2020 21:05

@LittleOwl153

I would simply not bother plating him any tomorrow. Just put his portion in the dog bowl see how he likes it. You could be generous and give him a couple of teaspoons!
Absolutely this!
justilou1 · 03/11/2020 21:05

Him being DH, that is...

MLMbotsgoaway · 03/11/2020 21:06

Revenge is a dish best served on Saturday night. Go to butchers and buy two of their finest fillet steaks
Out our bowls, dress the dining table nicely - add flowers, your best knives and forks etc.
Fry said steak - making meaningful eye contact throughout

  • plate up - say “here boy” and allow dog to enjoy tasty steak
HollyandIvyandallthingsYule · 03/11/2020 21:06

Next time you serve up his dinner snatch the plate back off him just as he starts eating and give half of it to the dog.

Continue doing this at every mealtime until he apologises and is sincere about it.

That would absolutely make me so cross. How ungrateful and disrespectful.

ConstantlySeekingHappiness · 03/11/2020 21:06

@LittleOwl153

I would simply not bother plating him any tomorrow. Just put his portion in the dog bowl see how he likes it. You could be generous and give him a couple of teaspoons!
Absolutely this!
justilou1 · 03/11/2020 21:07

Him being DH, that is...

LindaEllen · 03/11/2020 21:08

I assume your dog has meals planned just like you for morning and evening, so they don't actually need any of your dinner. If there happen to be leftovers, great, the dog can have them - but you should come first and it only goes to the dog when nobody wants any more themselves.

You have to be careful giving dogs extra as they can get overweight - I'm not talking the occasional bit left over, but your DH seems to think the dog should get a plate of his own, despite (I would assume) also having dog food.

HollyandIvyandallthingsYule · 03/11/2020 21:08

Oh god MN is acting up again; there’ll probably be about 6 posts from me!🙄🙄

MrsSpringfield · 03/11/2020 21:08

Has he apologised yet?

Stop cooking all the meals for everyone

missmouse101 · 03/11/2020 21:08

Absolutely ridiculous. The dog should have its own bloody food. It should certainly not be having onions for a start. They're toxic to dogs.

Doggybiccys · 03/11/2020 21:10

He sounds ridiculous. Also, you shouldn’t be giving “human” leftovers to your dog as it will have salt, sugar, fat, carbs etc that they don’t need in the quantities humans eat. Stick to dog food for the dog!

AldiIsla · 03/11/2020 21:11

Oooo so annoyed on your behalf!

He expects you to go without for the dog. Time for some "pack" behaviour, show him you're top dog. Feed him last. No 'mating'.

Doggybiccys · 03/11/2020 21:12

X post with missmouse101

badacorn · 03/11/2020 21:13

yanbu, if my DH’s first reaction to my cooking was to be concerned that the DOG could eat plenty of it, I’d be furious. That is so disrespectful.

Doggybiccys · 03/11/2020 21:13

@AldiIsla

Oooo so annoyed on your behalf!

He expects you to go without for the dog. Time for some "pack" behaviour, show him you're top dog. Feed him last. No 'mating'.

Feed him last??? Don’t feed him at all!!
Didntgetmydiamondring · 03/11/2020 21:15

@37weekswithno2

You don't put onions in your shepherds pie? Missing the point
You are not the only one missing the point. I was just coming on to say the dog shouldn’t eat shepherds pie because of the onions then I saw the update. I can’t imagine how it would taste without them.
makingmammaries · 03/11/2020 21:16

Do you think you could get a massive bone from the butcher? Put it on DH’s plate instead of dinner. If he protests tell him the dog will help him eat it.

beautifulnorth · 03/11/2020 21:16

I'm raging for you. I'd have done the same then sat crying in a rage. It's sounds infuriating. Let him cook for the dog
Fuming on your behalf

Didntgetmydiamondring · 03/11/2020 21:18

@37weekswithno2

You don't put onions in your shepherds pie? Missing the point
You are not the only one missing the point. I was just coming on to say the dog shouldn’t eat shepherds pie because of the onions then I saw the update. I can’t imagine how it would taste without them.
SonjaMorgan · 03/11/2020 21:19

I put onion in my cottage pie and it can kill dogs so I wouldn't be saving them any.

Malbecqueen · 03/11/2020 21:20

Why does he even feel that he can comment on how much you eat? That's outrageous and controlling. Tell him to stop in no uncertain terms. Each time he comments - tell him clearly to stop policing what you eat. If he's worried about the dog - he can sort him out separately, but that you will eat what you want first, without any comments at all from him.