To not want to give my dinner to the dog

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Lost it with DH today and would like to know everyone's thoughts on this totally unimportant issue! Every time I cook something that could potentially have leftovers for the dog, my DH will intervene before I have 'too much' or seconds because 'the dog could have that!'. At least 3 or 4 times now I have stated that I cooked it, and if I want to eat it I will. Then comes a chorus of 'poor doggie....mummy ate your dinner....' etc. Any time I go out anywhere, I always, without fail, sort out food for everyone before I go. Today I went for a haircut. Made a shepherds pie for everyone before I went. Got back to leftovers. Was starving so just took the dish out of the oven and started eating. DH comes in, 'oh are you just eating it straight out of there!' 'Yes, yes I am, because I'm starving'! I laughed. ' Oh I thought the dog could have some of that!' he said. 'I said not likely, I'm really hungry!' He then said 'but there was loads in there!!'. At this point I lost my shit. I had literally had 2 mouthfuls OF THE DINNER I COOKED. In a totally melodramatic gesture I put the whole lot in the dog's bowl so it was overflowing, whilst shouting that he had zero respect for me and that I am totally at the bottom of the pile. Everyone else gets to eat their dinner no problem, but if I have the audacity to eat THE THING I BLOODY COOKED I get told it's not fair on the dog. FFS. I said when he starts cooking he will get to bloody well decide what the dog gets. And breathe.

Why did you give it to the dog? Seems like playing in to his hands. Should have just said no and kept eating instead of giving it to the greedy dog.

I think it's called cutting off your nose to spite your face, @MintyMabel.

We've all done it, haven't we?

Why did you give it to the dog?

Actions speak louder than words!

Yep your DH is a knob and a wanker. Tell him to fuck off and make his own dinner

Get the dog trained up so s/he can cook the meals in future!!

Is this a covert dig at your weight? I think you've made the point pretty forcefully. If you get it again call him on it. Where does gentle ribbing stop and coercive control start?

YANBeffinU

Who the hell is he to dictate what and how much you eat!

If this was my husband, I’d have told him to fuck right off about now. What an absolute arse! Is the dog not getting dog food????? What a twat.

You definitely are not BU but I wouldn't have put the yummy dinner in the dogs bowl!
I would however; give DH half the usual portion the next night and when he complained, simple say; "Well your soo concerned about poor doggie having dinner that I didnt think you'd mind him sharing YOURS!"

Actions speak louder than words!

The action said she wanted the dog to have the food.

I think it's called cutting off your nose to spite your face. We've all done it, haven't we?

Not since I was a child.

Dont give him any next time and tell him u only cooked enough for u and the dog!

@Madein1995

Tbh in our house the dog is a part of the family so if for eg were having a chicken roast she will have some. If that means taking a bit off everyones plate then so be it. The difference is we all do it, and the majority of the household doesn't eat theirs while expecting one person to give up theirs

It does sound odd, to have such a big deal made of it, but i thi k dhs approach is ott. Why not just cut off a bit for the dog, or a few bits of chicken or whatever, BEFORE serving the rest of you?

I'd bite your fucking hand off if you took food from my plate to feed a ruddy animal

The dog shouldn't be eating your dinner anyway!!

I’d cut his portion in half and serve it to home in a dog bowl. Any fuss beyond that and I’d stop cooking for him at all!

Onions are poisonous to dogs, as are a lot of other food. Stop feeding him left overs it's not good for poor doggy.

YANBU and BLOODY WELL DONE!!

1. you are entitled to eat whatever you like without being policed.

2. dogs should not be eating people food anyway as it's bad for them. So tell him HE will be footing the vets bill if the dog gets sick as a result and you WILL tell the vet what he's been feeding the dog if necessary.

3. from tomorrow I want you to only give him a half portion of his meal and when he says "where's the rest?" Say "it's for the dog" smile sweetly and do it for EVERY meal for the next week. Don't buckle and even if he says he gets the message just keep doing it until he's at screaming point.

Also: every time he attempts to give the dog people food literally rip it out of his hands and put it in the bin.... this includes the other half of his meal portion.

Yell "NO PEOPLE FOOD" at every opportunity.

Well firstly why is he going on about how much you eat all the time? That's really awful.

The idea that I'd just be tucking into food I had cooked sand be told nonono you should give that to the dog. Wtf.

He's totally unreasonable.

Why are you cooking for him. Why doesn't he give his own dinner to the dog. Why is he being such a wanker.

Get a takeaway.

Does the dog not have it's own food!?!
I would have probably done exactly the same, in fact I would probably donate DHs next dinner to the dog - all laid out and nicely dished then just as he goes to eat it... Give it to the dog.

In my house if there are leftovers too small for a lunch or snack then the dogs get it but I go to the trouble of making raw food for the dogs and cooked for the humans and that's the way it is. No way does some one else tell me I can't eat the food I shop for and cooked. He would be getting his own food and the dogs for a good week

He thinks you are unreasonable for what you did? (Dog bowl)
Maybe others have commented but does he goad you a lot and then say how unreasonable you’re being? And encouraging the kids to see it that way too.
Hope not - I had many years of it and it has taken a few years away from it (with a normal decent new chap) to see how utterly f’d up it was.
Don’t do anything crazy. Just stop giving the dog anything apart from dog food. X

THE PIE HAS NO ONIONS IN IT!!!!!!!!!

That feels better.

Unless you are massively overweight and he is trying to 'help' then he's a total ball bag and needs to fuck off and cook for his fucking dog if he's so bothered about it getting a helping. He'd be under the patio after that kind of cheeky fuckery!!

Tbh OP I'd have lost it just like you did and done what you did! DH is completely put of order. The dog has dog food I presume so isn't going without. DH can share his bloody food with the dog if he's so desperate. I hope he apologises.

Some of us like animals ( not dogs fault) husband is trying unsuccessfully to control something in your life, that or he is just a thoughtless git

Stop feeding your dog ‘human food’.

Dogs need a very different diet to humans, potato, grains, etc are not good for dogs, they need meat, offal and bone.