Leaving because not allowed to wfh

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background- i worked really well from home during lockdown and replying to emails immediately, always sat at my desk etc
as soon as i had made a few errors in my work, i was called back in on the pretext of needing an office environment to work well(around September)
i am the only one called in along with a young apprentice who needs to be on site. i am a bit of a pushover and lowest in the office chain and feel ive been singled out despite my contribution and role.
the manager has been really resistant to me wfh, including in the current lockdown and even on a part time basis, which i dont understand and which i dont want to argue as its a bit of a dog eat dog type of environment.

i am now thinking of leaving as i dont feel treated like an adult at all. the way im being treated feels petty and humiliating.
my motivation has fizzled out since being back in the office and i spend a lot of time watching tv instead of being productive.

aibu to want to leave? they have said they want me to stay but it feels like im being pushed by being singled out as if i need supervision

yes im at work. we're alllowed to use the internet

Yeah, but surely you're meant to use it to actually do the work your employer is paying you money to do, rather than slag them off on a public forum 🤣.

Better hope your work don't have access to your internet history.

Others slacking at home? Er which others?

Watching TV whole being paid to work and posting on Internet discussion groups while bring paid to work are both gross misconduct and would justify dismissal.

This is a genuine reason not to allow an unmotivated employee to wfh.

Really? You want to leave your work in the times when finding a new job is harder than ever? They did nothing wrong and you sound really difficult.

This post is absolutely ridiculous!

Is this your first job op?

We have a highly unmotivated staff member. We cannot trust her to work when at home (we cannot trust her to work when she is at work as she watches programmes on her phone all the time) so she was dragged back to work kicking and screaming, basically so she can be micromanaged.

Sound familiar?

If you can afford not to work and you aren't happy, leave. I would.
It doesn't matter what the problem is, life is too short to live it unhappily.

How old are you, OP?

Seems to me that your company are viewing WFH as a privilege that needs to be earned by fostering trust in your motivations and competency.
Clearly you have not displayed any motivation as you freely admit yourself and you have made stupid errors. I'm not surprised you aren't being permitted to WFH. If you're watching telly in the office I imagine that your boss is thinking "if she does that here what will she do at home ?". If you want to WFH I suggest you pull your socks up or maybe you will be replaced. Id certainly be thrilled if I was your manager and you resigned. Would save me a job getting rid and let's face it, there's no shortage of entry-level staff right now

Don't resign - start job hunting.

Always easier to find a new job when you currently have one.

Some places have better work environments and some just have better fits A more professional attitude might help more generally as the attitude coming across I could see easily causing issues in most jobs.

my supervisor and i have aa bad relatioinship (sic). she likes to micro manage me

Another one here who'd be interested in the company's version of this.
We all self edit to a certain degree, and while the supervisor might be a lousy manager, it could equally be that they're running out of patience

Overall I agree you'd be better off with a clean slate elsewhere, OP, but if you move you'd be wise to think more about your own part in this instead of foisting all the blame onto others and crying "unfair"

OBVS im working and watching/listening to the tv, not just sitting comfortably. i dont how its that different from others slacking at home

You sound very inexperienced. Others won't be slacking at home.

How can you work and watch tv at the same time

Your thread title is very misleading.

You were allowed to work from hone, you’ve just proven yourself incapable of doing so.

I'm pretty sure that browsing the web at work isn't gross misconduct. Gross misconduct is like stealing things or punching someone.

Noidea

You can't. Sigh

Op it is not too late to turn this around.

years ago I managed someone who was lazy and unmotivated and could not do the simplest thing without a fuss.

i raised it with my senior manager and he was given a warning.

he pulled his socks up big time. Became cooperative, interested, pro-active and always asking for new tasks to do. he became one of my most valued colleagues. I have long moved on to other jobs. He is now exceptionally senior in the same organisation and rightly very well respected. I am not sure what caused the turnaround. It was almost overnight. I think he realised that if he did not want his job plenty of others would so he had to prove himself.

I love mumsnet on any employment issue - you must be an automaton and work with 100% commitment and never, ever make any mistakes. Even if you have the worst management in the world, you must always be 100% committed to the job and organisation and not make any mistakes - it is so completely ridiculous and unrealistic.

OP, I wish you luck in the hunt for a new job but you may have similar problems in future jobs if you don’t learn to be a bit more resilient and stand up for yourself. Try looking for assertiveness courses and techniques to apply.

Is this thread a reverse?!?!

I think he realised that if he did not want his job plenty of others would so he had to prove himself.

This ^^. If you want to leave your job, that's fine. They won't be bothered and will easily replace you. My advice would be to find and secure a new job before resigning, though.

My husband works from home

He never ever watches TV whilst working. He never slacks off. He's working from 8am-9pm easily most days.

You are not being unreasonable and many employers will find staff voting with their feet if they won't be flexible. Working from home is not an automatic right, you need to be able to do the job from home to s good standard. If you can then they absolutely should not make you go in. Particularly if others are allowed to. Definitely look elsewhere if this is the case HOWEVER don't go until you have something else lined up and then tell them why in your exit interview. If you don't they will take longer to realise they need to move with the times.

@Nydj

I'm not a robot, but when I'm at work I am being paid to spend my time working, rather than watching TV or posting on mumsnet.

Watching TV "in the background" while working is taking the piss a bit in pretty much any job. Imagine getting your hair done and having the hairdresser half concentrating on your roots and half on corrie 🤣.

thanks, tbh yes i think this has often been the case in the past where i would respond to an unprofessional environment by leaving.
i cant cope with politics, being watched going to the toilet etc. and end up being pushed by dominant colleagues

I'd be weary of walking out of a job right now. There could be 100's of applicants for your post, there are a lot of people unemployed right now.

There are lots of reasons that your manager might want you in the office including that they don't think (rightly or wrongly) that you are reliable, need someone to monitor the apprentice. Slacking off and watching telly is not the way to go, you need to figure out what your manager wants and give it to them.

If its a job/career you want to get on with and/or you like having a regular income you need to buckle down and prove yourself. You can always look for another job while doing so.