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Original poster

not to want a personal trainer for Xmas

85 replies

UntamedWisteria · 30/10/2020 19:09

FFS. DH actually starts the weekend off by asking if I'd like him to buy me some gym sessions with a personal trainer for Xmas.

No, I fucking don't.

I would, however like him to stop buying Chocolate biscuits, which he mainlines but I still eat some of too, and take a bit more responsibility for his health.

He's more overweight than I am, and at least I go running occasionally.

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VampireVicki · 30/10/2020 19:10

LTB

Iamnotminterested · 30/10/2020 19:11

Sounds like Gymhausens by Proxy to me.

I'd tell him to fuck right off.

SummerTimeSunshine · 30/10/2020 19:11

Unless this is something you have previously expressed an interest in then this is a lame gift idea.

Does he generally lack imagination?

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UntamedWisteria · 30/10/2020 19:12

I told him to FRO.

Then he acts all offended.

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justanotherneighinparadise · 30/10/2020 19:14

My answer would be yes please!!!

TheZeppo · 30/10/2020 19:16

Sounds like he’s projecting! Offer to buy that for him (you can watch whilst scoffing all
the delicious biscuits).
Cheeky git.

MysweetAudrina · 30/10/2020 19:21

My dh annoyingly sometimes asks me do I want something when it is actually something he wants. I would prefer if he just said it was something he wanted and then just went and got it. I always know when he is doing it so I just say no, that doesn't interest me. Any chance your dh is doing something similar?

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UntamedWisteria · 30/10/2020 19:24

Nope.

I asked him if he'd like that for Xmas. He said it's not his thing. So I said why do you think it would be my thing then.

I'm beyond rage now.

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giantangryrooster · 30/10/2020 19:29

Tell him you would love that, but you want to pick the trainer as he has to be overly handsome, buff and single. Then ask for solicitor hours, too Wink.

Onjnmoeiejducwoapy · 30/10/2020 19:31

I started with a PT a few months back and I LOVE it, has done wonders for my self esteem, my fitness and my mental health. Honestly? I would be thrilled with that as a present! It’s one of the few experiences you can do during a lockdown, plus it’s a great way of carving out time for yourself

PurpleDaisies · 30/10/2020 19:32

I absolutely loved my personal trainer.

What made him think of that as a present? Have you been talking about getting fit?

HollowTalk · 30/10/2020 19:33

@Iamnotminterested

Sounds like Gymhausens by Proxy to me.

I'd tell him to fuck right off.

Absolutely love this!
Bwlch · 30/10/2020 19:34

What made him think of that as a present?

He thinks she needs one?

PurpleDaisies · 30/10/2020 19:36

@Bwlch

What made him think of that as a present?

He thinks she needs one?

Or she has been talking about getting fit or wanting to lose weight?
GameSetMatch · 30/10/2020 19:36

LTB! How very dare he, I’d be raging too!

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UntamedWisteria · 30/10/2020 19:43

What made him think of that as a present?

Clearly, he thinks I'm too fat. Because of all the chocolate biscuits he keeps buying.

I'm already quite fit - I did C25k 3 years ago, and have continued running since. I have not been a member of a gym for well over a decade though and never shown any interest in joining.

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UntamedWisteria · 30/10/2020 19:44

What's solicitor hours?

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giantangryrooster · 30/10/2020 19:46

Sorry time with a divorce lawyer Wink

tearinyourhand · 30/10/2020 19:46

I would think it was a fantastic present. But then my husband would know that I'd love it.

If I hadn't previously said that I'd love a personal trainer, and my husband suggested it out of the blue, I'd think he was being a complete arsehole.

TheyreComingToGetYouBarbara · 30/10/2020 19:53

He must be stupid. Sorry, OP, but it's the obvious answer. Either that or he doesn't value his life.

Vargas · 30/10/2020 19:55

Gifts should be things people want, little luxuries, not gym memberships or personal trainers or stationary cycles. If my DH did this I would be raging. WTF is wrong with jewellery or perfume or a book or chocolate or cashmere or So Many Other Better Things.

LTB

TheyreComingToGetYouBarbara · 30/10/2020 19:55

Suggesting a PT would be a good gift idea if you'd given any indication that you want one, but otherwise, yes, it does seem like a hint that someone thinks you're overweight.

Curious that he's suggesting that when he's in worse condition than you are, though. Is it even remotely possible that he thinks your running is a sign that you'd like a PT? (Probably not...)

HugeAckmansWife · 30/10/2020 19:57

You know you don't have to eat the biscuits yes? Without more context, I think your reaction is a bit harsh. He sees you running, thinks, she has an interest in being fit, would this help? At least he asked, you've said no, that's the end of it. I'm very very hard to please with presents and often feel that more effort could be made I really don't think this is at all bad. As for which of us would love or hate PT is irrelevant. I can see why he might consider it.

TheFairyGarden · 30/10/2020 19:57

I wish someone would buy me some sessions with a PT for Christmas. If you don’t want it OP send it my way - please 🙏

TheMarzipanDildo · 30/10/2020 19:59

God it’s not the brightest of present ideas is it? I guess maybe because you run he’s decided you are into fitness stuff in general (which would be a compliment I suppose!)