To think this man's "joke" at work was unnecessary?

[Betty94]

Hi all,

I think I'm just being extremely sensitive but I've been feeling down for a little bit and this mans comments has just made me feel like absolute shit -

We had a social distance "baby shower" at work for me and another lady and it was lovely and really nice of work to do this, we played a game called what would mother rather do? And then at the end my manager said okay let's score the girls meaning like what people have said we'd rather do but this man in his 50s said " I give Betty94 a 4/10 and Sally a 8-9/10" meaning our looks, everyone just kind of ignored him but it was really hurtful because I've been struggling with my mental health and ended up cutting off my hair in the middle of lockdown (I've since been to the hairdressers and had it sorted) and I've just been struggling with my appearance and the weight gain from the pregnancy and I don't really care what this man thinks but now I feel like everyone thinks the same and that I look really horrible all the time, I wouldn't even let DH touch me last night and cried in bed - I know I'm being silly but I just feel awful about it :(

Why do people feel the need to make "jokes" like this? Please tell me I'm just being a sensitive idiot.

Nope not being over sensitive he was a prick and that fact everyone tried to ignore it shows they thought it too.

I’m sorry so this has happened

What an idiot! Easier said than done but please ignore this absolute moron.

He’s a prize jerk.

Not being over sensitive, he's a prick.

I would remind yourself that you don't even want points from a man who rates women out of ten!

Bleurgh he sounds vile.

OMG, what a dick.

That was totally inappropriate. I know that lines are slightly blurred when you do something non-work-related with work colleagues, but that doesn't mean it's ok for him to behave like that. If you'd done the shower in the office during your lunch hour, would he have thought it was ok to say that? And would HR have agreed?

So at work, in front of all your colleagues, this man decided to give you a score out of ten on your looks?

I wouldn't be ignoring, I'd be going to fucking HR.

YANBU, what a dick he sounds. I’d be speaking to manager/HR about this too.

Was your manager present? I’d suggest complaining informally about his inappropriate behaviour.

I’d be talking to HR about him. That was incredibly inappropriate of him.

Oi’d be glad he doesn’t think you are attractive imagine him listing after you ew. I bet your husband thinks you are beautiful otherwise he would have made a baby with you!

Either speak to your manager or email them about if u dont feel u can do it in person. Not ok comment in a workplace

He’s gross. Report! I hope you are getting the right support.

What a dick.

It always amazes me that some men have the audacity to talk about women that way. How have they got the balls to give women a score when they themselves are usually a 1/10 on every level? I'd have said 'well that's three more than you Brian, you gammon faced fuck.'

YANBU OP. That's so rude of him. What a dick he is. Don't you listen to him x

Gosh do you work with someone I know thinks he’s funny, but some people find him hugely offensive. By the sounds of it your manager heard this comment and chose to do nothing?
I wouldn’t report it, I’d either have some epic one liners in my repertoire or pull him up on it! I guarantee he will go running scared.

You are NOT oversensitive and you are working for/with a bunch of twats.

Sorry but the guy in question made a totally unacceptable comment and I would report it to HR. Not to your manager seen he didn’t think it was worth doing anything about it
I would also report your manager for his total lack of management of the situation. He should have been on the ball and tell him off immediately.

You should be angry at the whole thing!!

Rude and horrible.

Honestly pregnant women are beautiful. I’m old now and I really wish I’d known at your stage how truly beautiful it is. You poor thing, to have met such an arsehole in the middle of your special time. Treat him like a pebble in your shoe, shake it out and move on.

He is a twat. Ignore him, you are beautiful x

What an arse. You are not being over sensitive OP, he was being an utter prick.

I’m shocked that such a sexist game as what would mother rather do was played at a work celebration.

He was a massive dick and I suspect everyone online thought that.

So sorry, OP.

He’s a twat. Complain to your manager and/or HR.

He's a prick.

Report him to HR for inappropriate behaviour. Women shouldn't have to put up with this shit.