To ask DSS to not have hookups at the moment

[BigLatto]

I’m a bit embarrassed to post this or talk about it.

DSS is 23 he lives with me and DH and my DDs 20 and 19

My DD 19 was shielding earlier in the year, whilst healthy she has a genetic condition and she also has Diabetes, this means she would have a severe case of Covid and many have died with her condition.

My DSS is a lovely lad we have had a generally good relationship. However there is a problem recently he is gay and is quite a fan of having going out and often staying the night with various people . We would be fine with this normally as it’s his choice.

But I worry he will bring Covid back home. We live in tier 1 but border two London Boroughs and both have Cases rising rapidly. He is travelling into London often

DSS was fine over lockdown, but he is not very concerned about covid and he has broken the rules a few times. Especially over the summer. However cases were low then.

I’m just very worried sick about Him infecting my daughter, I don’t know how to approach this.

We all work from home including DSS, both DDs stay home and me and DH. We order Ocado. We don’t go out apart from quite country walks.

If we were to get infected it would be him. He doesn’t earn enough to move out due to the housing costs.

My friends daughter has just tested positive. She lives at home with two other healthy adults - this has caused huge aggravation - phoning contacts, rest of family have to isolate, can't shop - just because she wanted her social life to carry on. Now everyone else pays the price.

Him being gay should not be the issue. Him having casual relationships is, even if there were no family members with health conditions. Even if in a tier 1 area and visiting a tier 1 area.

I think he’s being very selfish. Does he realise how vulnerable your daughter is?

Assuming he's actually going to bars. Not all gay hookup culture happens in bars, and I'd be inclined to wonder if he's going to a sauna or something whether they are actually keeping track for contact tracing or if he even knows who some of the blokes are.

I’m no expert, but will saunas etc. even be open at the moment?